I am a Black male stripper and naked cleaner/butler in London working almost exclusively for white women. AMA

[OliverMartins]

As the title says. Happy to answer any questions you might have.

I don't see them as sarcastic. All experienced cleaners have decent tips they've learned in their job. The questions are just side quests sorta.

It's obvious you just want to talk about the fetish side of it though so enjoy. Sounds like decent money for old rope. Why not.

My work has a sexual dimension but I am not offering sex as a commodity or product.

Is your product your male, black physicality?

Given the cost of living crisis, do your clients keep the heating on when you’re there? Or are you expected to work naked in a cold temperature?

I'd like to see what they would think if you turned up to do the cleaning dressed like you were in Ghostbusters.

No I don't. I have worked in corporate and academic environments and found the racism far worse.

But - and I am genuinely curious and not being an arse - you must know that men (and a few women) hire prostitutes, and that they do that partly based their appearance which includes their race?

The OP obviously isn’t a prostitute, but it’s a sub category of sex work - so it would surely make sense for the same framework to apply.

People working in the sex industry know that this is part of the business.

When you say 'prices start from £200'... what would £200 pay for, and what would £1,000 pay for?

It is a major part of it

Worse than being on your knees naked?

So do you consider female strippers to be sex workers? And if so, how does it differ from what you do?

Do you actually understand what racism is?

You must understand that selling your body to white women with a fetish for black men is perpetuating racism?

£200 for around 60-90 minutes

Hmm.

Hello @OliverMartins
My general understanding has always been that there is little to no market for straight male sex workers, and that this is because:
1-women have no need to pay for sex because it's easy to find men who are willing to have no strings casual encounters.
2-compared to men, women have less interest in no strings casual encounters.
I would be interested in your comments on this.
Thank you

Racism is about power and this work is far more empowering than any I have done before.

Why won't you acknowledge that hiring you as a stripper because you are black is racism? More power to you if you choose to use it to your advantage, but it is racism.

This sounds like a fun job for you!
You must be youngish and in your prime - what are you going to do once things, you know 🤭don't look that appealing anymore?
Are you worried about secret cameras in the house? As I take it you have a no photo/ recording policy?

More empowering than having a regular professional career?
Would you recommend it for your son?

You are right. But I am not providing sex or sexual services in that narrow sense; I am providing entertainment/performance with a sexual/physical element.

So in a few messages you've gone from not understanding why he mentions race to being alarmed by race fetishizing.
Quick learning curve!

Whats the sexual element if you are not offering sex then? Do the women masturbate while watching you? Isn't that a bit cringe?

Fair point about racism in corporate setting being worse, I can quite believe that, but you're still perpetuating a racial stereotype about black male studs no? Which I would find troublesome if I was a black male. I would never do prostitution as a women for a similar reason. No matter how much some individual female prostitutes say they are making money out of stupid punters and say they find it empowering, it damages other women imo and make sit harder for them to be taken seriously in the workplace imo. Do you worry about a similar societal effect of what you are involved in on young black males in the education system and workplace trying to be taken seriously?

If that happened, I would obviously take immediate legal action.
To your first question. I am already investing for my future.

I don't have a son, but if I did, I would want him to do whatever makes him happy and fulfilled.

Is it though? I am curious rather than arguing with you. People sometimes have preferences for dating within racial groups, and most people accept that as just being a personal preference rather than racism.