@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
it doesn’t seem like you did anything out of the ordinary though, you had some help post birth and then now have an extremely well paid nanny who works 4-5 hours a day? I mean I would take that job 😂 it’s great! Not sure why you pay so much for so little hours but go you, so don’t fear being judged, everyone needs or would love some help with their kids at some point, it’s normal, and it doesn’t make you a bad mother, irrelevant of if you are a stay at home mom or not.
@Middleagedspreadisreal
I would like to think they would question if the bad parts are about them. But yes they likely would mind, yes, on the other hand most of them say I should write a book which I always find funny because it’s almost always assuming the horrible chapters wouldn’t ever be about them!
Anyhow I kind of don’t care if they would be horrified at me answering questions on here. I have purposefully kept all answers general so it’s not as if I am actually entering the details of the family set ups, I am just giving insight into my job which I guess I am entitled to do even if they would potentially dislike me doing so.
@ShinyPebble32
No, I almost wish (and if they do that they would invite me!) but no I have actually noticed the absolute opposite. Most of them have so much money they could do anything and everything with it and yet for the most part live extremely boring and isolating lives if you ask me. That’s actually been the biggest surprise to me. That most people I know who don’t have much funds actually have more exciting lives overall but then it’s not surprising. I guess when you can buy most things on earth and do absolutely whatever you want (for the most part) life becomes a bit unchallenging.
@Moccasin
Yes but not of the kind you would expect (about cheating/affairs and things like that) it’s more a fair amount of (il)legal stuff and just more about the kind of people they are behind closed doors. I mean I think the bettencourt Netflix documentary highlights this quite well, with the hidden tapes. When you live in a house you hear and see everything even if you don’t care to so it’s a bit of a “what would I find or not find out out about you if I came to live under your roof?” Probably a lot more than you would expect me to or realize I would. That’s kind of the case there. You are in this weird position where you are almost part of the family because you look after one of the most important member of the family so there is this closeness but you are also a bit the walls because you, in the end, are just nobody, and aren’t truly part of the family or of what’s going on, you just support the household. So it’s an interesting spot to be in and yes I do hear and see many many things I wish I didn’t know about them tbh.
and no, no dads has ever really hit on me (thankfully!) but then I have very little contact with dads usually, my main source of contact usually being moms so there isn’t really the room to in most cases.
@Calliopespa
I mean I do try to stay in touch with the kids and families, I don’t have a preference amongst all the kids I have looked after but of course if there are siblings and I only look after one then my favorite will be said one. If I look after siblings at the same time then I don’t have favorites, I just usually love them both for different reasons specific to who they are and how and why we bond which differ with each kid. And no, most mothers are lovely and very scared to do wrong and really grateful for the help, you have the odd micromanager or the odd one who feels a bit of jealousy but in general most moms are great to work with, and appreciative of my work. (More than the dads anyway!)