In a 'huge' age gap relationship- AMA

[renieve]

NC'd for this.

In a 'huge' age gap relationship for three years. Age gap is 28 years. Partner is male, I'm female. I appreciate this won't be interesting to many people, in which case please ignore AMA!

love this

Think it depends on the bloke. Blokes I know of a similar age find it weird if someone is younger than their own kids. Equally, I can find a man of 20 attractive, but it's always tempered by:"your son and his friends are lmost the same age", which makes him instantly unattractive.

What race are you?
Your partner's race?
Are you married?
Are you planning to marry?
How old were you when you had your children?
Do your children see their father?

I'm shocked at how rude and judgemental the questions on here are. the other popular AMA threads recently have been so sensitive and respectful. why can we give OP the same treatment here?

No, I'm not young; I'm very much middle aged. I was referring to single people by the way, not married men. Obviously I'd expect married men not to cheat on their wives irrespective of the ages of all involved.

My friends with 18yr age gap seem well matched. But occasionally conversations indicate he dominates her in decisions. Equally she realises & kicks back. He'd like her to be a stay at home mum. She tried & hated it

I'd find it super patronising if a man I loved broke up with me because he was being oh so unselfish and releasing me to be with someone "better". I can make up my own mind and decide what I want thanks! Would not appreciate him making my mind up for me.

I expect my DH could find someone better than me, but he chose me, so yes I will be "selfish" and make the most of being loved by him!

There's 20 years between me and DH. We've been married for 18 years. No gold digging on either side (we each owned our own houses when we met and had good jobs). Both of us were single when we met. We're very happy!

I think that once people are in love it's very easy to overlook difficulties that may arise in the future, if the compromises you are making now don't seem to strenuous.
This happens in lots of relationships, but maybe it's just that the large age gap is the most evident and extreme and possibly one where the outcomes are more likely than not to occur.
Marrying someone from another country for example could possibly lead to one of the two living in a country they don't want to be in, because the partner does, it is a long term difficulty. Any couple could find themselves in this position, in the same way any partner could find themselves being a carer to a partner at a young age, but the odds are in your favour let's say if you marry someone not too far off in age and who is your same nationality, as an example.
When they say love is blind it's referring to the overlooking of possible difficulties in my opinion.

So because you’re in a relationship with an old man, you think people are jealous?

That’s some seriously odd projection.

What are people jealous of?

I’m tempted to post that pic of the old man Samantha Jones was shagging, walking away from the bed with his naked saggy arse.

Sorry, but … ick.

I had a major crush on a mid-30s guy when I was early 20s.

I’m now late 40s and he’s early 60s. Let’s just say jealousy does not come into it when I compare him with late 40s DH.

I’m tempted to post that pic of the old man Samantha Jones was shagging, walking away from the bed with his naked saggy arse

Classic SATC. I think we all recoiled in horror.

jealousy I imagine, tend to get that a lot with mums net and age gaps

This is a genuinely bizarre take. Why do you think people are jealous of having an older husband? It's pretty easy to find an old divorced dad to shag if one so desires.

jealousy I imagine, tend to get that a lot with mums net and age gaps

I very much doubt it.

Everyone will be widowed in time. What a silly comment