In a 'huge' age gap relationship- AMA

[renieve]

NC'd for this.

In a 'huge' age gap relationship for three years. Age gap is 28 years. Partner is male, I'm female. I appreciate this won't be interesting to many people, in which case please ignore AMA!

That poster thinks you have Daddy issues/ are looking for a father figure or substitute.

@updin it's a fair point I think (not consciously of course). Wasn't trying to be rude btw. I don't know anyone else in an AGR so that's interesting that you've seen it before.

@RichardsGear even if I was (which I'm not), what is the assumption from DP's POV? Absolutely not getting on at you when I say this!

Correct.

Do you really, really fancy him?

I don't know - I wouldn't like to makw assumptions but I imagine those posters would say he gets to have a trophy wife.

Wasn't trying to be rude btw.

Me neither, I would never ask on any other situation than an AMA thread! Was just curious as it is a something people say, how much "psychological" truth there is to it I don't know!

@AlexandraMarch @RichardsGear yes.

@updin totally fair enough, feel free to ask anything else!

Are you married? Would you like to be?

how old are his children?

Don’t you worry about aging out of his preference? And the issues that this may cause?

I’ve seen this time and time again

Hurrying my head in shame because I absolutely did not mean to tag @AlexandraMarch before after re reading but I know no one will believe that 🥲

How old are you?
Has he ever been mistaken for you father when you've been out?

@RichardsGear 27
Yes.

How long have you been together?
Do you live together?
Have you met his children?
Have you ever asked him why he's with you, instead of someone closer to his age?
What are you future plans?

Not sure if you saw my question regarding your sex life a few years down the line? Genuinely curious.... would be a big question for me

My partner is 21 years older than me and my previous partner was 26 years older than me. I had an extremely difficult relationship with my father and believe there’s definitely a connection.

@Suprima I'm in bed before him every night so it's slightly more balanced - he could drink me under the table if we went that far! I'm an 'older

Are you older or younger than his kids?

There are only 7 years between DH and me but at 71 he has had some significant health issues including cancer and a stroke. His memory these days is worrying as well. I can envisage my retirement as being a carer rather than doing all the things my retired friends do.

Does this worry you @renieve?

@Suprima sorry, posted before I meant to!

I feel 'older' than people my age in spirit. I am always tired, in a dressing gown, obsessed with tea, always reading in spare time. Not that that means 'older', but I am not interested in partying etc.

renieve I'm finding this interesting as my friend is in a very similar relationship. When you respond to somebody's question, please could you quote them so we know what the question was?

@RichardsGear yes I worry about this sometimes (when I let my mind wander there). However there is no one else I'd rather look after me if I got unwell, which is always possible.

That’s not really what I mean

he sexually desires women 30 years younger than him.

you will not be in your twenties forever.

Assuming OP retires at 67 then the likelihood is he won't be around anyway (sorry to be blunt!).