I’m an ex Escort AMA

[Sugartitties]

Was an escort in my early twenties, anything you want to know just ask

@chunkyrun hard to say the best way as reasons for doing it vary so much. I would have wanted support yes but I was a mess back then, would have been hard to know where to start.

@Sugartitties I'm very glad to hear that you care about yourself so much more now. I think you're right that most people don't want to do it and would pick another well paid career if they had the chance, that's why I find the judgement so depressing.

So my last question what made you think about it now, enough to come and create an AMA?

@WhatCFeryIsThis I suppose it’s just a part of my life story now. I can’t change it, I’m not proud of it and I don’t want my family or friends to know about it. It would change their view of me wouldn’t it.

You may get to a point in your life where you feel you'd like to tell someone close to you. Like maybe if you met a new partner in a few years and trusted him, something in your brain might start to consider letting him know. Or if you have a daughter and saw her going down a troublesome path, you may think it would be better to tell her about your experience than to protect her from it, if it helps her.

FWIW I don't think it's something to be 'ashamed' of. You may regret it, it may not have been your finest hour, but I dare say that there's more than one regretful thing someone can do in their life and sex work isn't the holy grail of shame. Plus, as a survivor of abuse myself, I really can't describe the self esteem loss that you suffer as a result. The fact that I was alive felt like an inconvenience to me, so anything that I did really didn't bother me, I didn't care about what society thought because I already felt like I no longer belonged there. I'm lucky not to feel that way now. But I'd be very angry if I was me now on the outside of myself then and witnessed someone's trying to make me feel even worse about my actions. There's only so low you can feel and keep going. It's made me very aware of how to be supportive, and where it's inappropriate to cast judgement.

How old were your youngest and oldest clients?

Did some of them genuinely just want company or was it mainly sex?

My youngest was mid thirties and the oldest was 49.

what would you like to see in place to support people like yourself in that position , what do you think would have actually helped you ?

@billysboy this is hard to answer as everyone has started for a different reason and that’s the problem that needs to be resolved.

I would say the best place to start would be to help that person gain confidence, self esteem and self respect.

Sugartitties, my daughter has low self esteem, she's only thirteen, what could help a young person increase their self worth to stop them becoming a sex worker?