Is it true that lesbians are a bit suspicious of bisexuals?
In the olden days before everyone was as enlightened as they are now, some bi people did get a bad rap in the gay community, a bisexual woman with a man passes as ‘straight’ to most people and has all the social benefits that brings. Whereas being gay and out you there’s all the hassle that can bring.
You get a lot less hassle being with a man ( no need to come ‘out’ for starters ) than with a woman.
I personally wasn’t ‘suspicious’ of bi people but definitely preferred the idea of a gay girlfriend over a bi one when I was younger. I didn’t like the idea of being with someone who slept with men, tho now I’m more mature I realise that’s sort of ridiculous.
I had a bi- girlfriend for a while who wasn’t out, so while I was with her I never met her family. After me she had a boyfriend and they’d been together about a month when she took him to her sisters wedding... we joke about it now but at the time it stung a bit.
‘Have you ever fancied a bloke’ -
No, not really. I like the idea of them, I love blokes in general and can see when a famously handsome man is aesthetically attractive ( a bit like how straight women or men can get ‘crushes’ on the same sex) But I’ve never fancied one. Nothing about the male body turns me on quite frankly!
And can you usually tell if other people are gay? And if so, how?
Yes, gaydar is a thing. It’s lots of tiny little things sometimes, or just the eye contact that is gays use to almost acknowledge each other sometimes! It can be anything to short nails on a woman(!) to a certain logo or brand or anything really. It’s never one thing, it’ll be 3 or 4 - except for the ‘look’, an interest that a straight woman would never show
I've got a question though.
Do you fancy straight women more than other lesbians?
Nope! I don’t know many lesbians who do either. Celeb crushes aside I mean- but then you’ll find the celeb crush on a straight woman is because she played a kick arse role like Wonder Woman or a LGBT role like Suranne Jones or has a queer vibe about her like Gillian Anderson Who later turns out to be queer...
The only straight women ever slept with were friends of friends who made the first move and who turned out later to be either gay or bi... I wasn’t attracted to them cos they were straight tho, I liked them because they were cool people
What are your thoughts on the 'cotton ceiling' issue?Is it even a thing you buy into
I had a straight, feminist friend ‘explain’ this to me... in the LGBTQ community it’s is NOT a thing. Trans women are not trying to get into our knickers and force us to have sex with their penises and calling us transphobic if we say no thanks.
Trans and gays and lesbians generally just all get along fine in real life. And I’ll sleep with whoever I like. I‘Ve never slept with a man nor a trans woman but who knows I suppose. I don’t think it’s likely I’ll ever sleep with a trans woman but maybe I’ll fall madly in love with someone one day and want to. I’m married so it isn’t very likely....
What I do know though is that it’ll be my choice, and no-one wi be telling me who I can and can’t love.