I'm a trans man and local trans activist, AMA

[Sideris]

Hi there, folks.

As the title says, I'm here to respond to questions in good nature.

For a bit of background information, I'm 30 years old, a trans activist out of necessity (being the first 'out' trans person in numerous spaces, which didn't have any rules or regulations before, but have since been commended for ease of process by some new trans members or trans members who have been referred by me), have been 'passing' for about three years, now.

Could you please answer my concerns regarding transwomen in sport?

so I've just looked through the whole thread and I can't see any posts of mine that were deleted, perhaps I'm missing something?
Also, I identify as a person of good faith so will you please stop invalidating me by suggesting that I am a person of bad faith
thank you🙂

Rhinoskinhavel. Fuck. Off.

Oh deary me.

Also, I identify as a person of good faith so will you please stop invalidating me by suggesting that I am a person of bad faith

Do you need a safe space, after that shocking invalidation? ☹️

I have been completely civil on this thread and I get told to 'Fuck. Off.'😳

Do you agree that we can reliably identify a 'type' or 'class' or 'group' of people (ie they all have something in common) that is overwhelmingly more likely to commit violent and/or sexual assaults on other people?

If we can, is there a good reason to separate the type of people who are (statistically) much more likely to commit most violent and sexual crime from those who are much less likely to do so in certain circumstances where people are (or feel) more vulnerable (examples might be toilets, prisons, refuges, changing rooms)?

If that would be a good idea, to reduce the risk of people becoming victims of violence/sexual assault, how should we separate the two groups and what should we call them?

Until quite recently, the two groups were usually called 'men/male' and 'women/female' and they were segregated accordingly to a basic identification of biological sex (penis/vagina, rather than extensive chromosonal checks).
Do you think it would be a good idea to continue the segregation but relabel the groups 'penis-havers' and 'non-penis-havers'? Or 'Testosterone levels > xyz' and 'Testosterone levels < xyz' (this might be a problem as most people don't test their T levels).

It does seem arbitrary to separate the groups by gender, if gender is a self-described identity. (If gender is a social hierarchy of oppression and associated social stereotypes then it probably does make sense to separate oppressors from the oppressed, but I think feminists would prefer to continue sex-based separation as there's no evidence people-born-with-penises become less likely to commit violent/sexual crimes if they want to join the oppressed class.)

Your shite attacks and thinly veiled excuses to invalidate my gender are nothing more than transphobia.

So are you saying here that your gender is something that needs to be validated by others? This was being discussed here last night, and another poster said that it wasn't about validation. Sideris could you give us a clear answer about whether being transgender is all about being 'validated' by others in your chosen gender or not?

So are you saying here that your gender is something that needs to be validated by others? This was being discussed here last night, and another poster said that it wasn't about validation.Sideriscould you give us a clear answer about whether being transgender is all about being 'validated' by others in your chosen gender or not?

You are excusing using a person being raped to discredit who they are.

Thanks for doing the detective work for me OP😊
I didn't realise I'd had post deleted!!😲

Who else has had their posts deleted....or is it just me?

Have any questions been answered in anything other than what I call a "politicians answer" ie not an answer at all?

This isn't AMA, it's "ask me things and I'll just push my trans agenda and get arsey with posters who don't validate me"

You spoke about a trans man friend who you feel should be allowed to go to a men’s prison because they had ‘passed’ for years. Do you honestly think they would be safe there? I suppose it might depend on whether they had had bottom surgery as to whether they could blend in. Certainly any transman who still had female genitalia (like the OP) must be incredibly vulnerable to sexual assault locked up with male prisoners. It wouldn’t be a question of whether they deserved to be there, just their own safety.

Yeah, he'd be safe (or as safe as any male is in prison). He has had full surgery, like I said. I agree re the risks for transmen who haven't.

Sideris
Read my post again. I didn't mention rape. I simply asked about how much of your gender identity is connected with having this gender recognised and validated by others, versus an internal feeling.

I don't have a gender identity, but my identity is not dependent on how others see me. Is that the same for you?

Rhino there are a few others dotted throughout the thread, but not many overall considering how high emotions tend to run on trans-related threads.

Sideris, you are using women's biology against them, to discredit who THEY are.

If all it takes is SAYING you're "whatever" to literally BE "whatever" then surely we're just as valid saying we're women, we were born women, we need THESE spaces to ensure OUR safety, we deserve, due to our womanhood, our privacy and dignity, and we're more vulnerable because we're physically smaller (usually), we have different biological needs to men, etc etc...

Your refusal to validate THAT invalidates US.

Have any questions been answered in anything other than what I call a "politicians answer" ie not an answer at all?

The answer to my last question to the OP was definitely a politician's answer.

I'll correct that last sentence to be more general.

TRA activists' refusal to validate THAT invalidates US.

I think my deletions must have been to do with using the wrong pronouns?

Hello all

I don’t have much experience on this subject but as the OP is keeping they’re vagina and has no intention of removing it... does this mean that some men who now say they are women keep they’re willies?!

At work we have female and male changing rooms. Does this mean that a man that has decided they are now a woman but wants to keep they’re willy can come into my changing room?

As I said, I’m no well versed in this so sorry if I’ve got the wrong end of the stick.

*their, ugh!

Would you really want your transgender man friend to go with o a male prison? No concern for them at all?

All of my concern is for them, it's not some abstract ideological reasoning. He's had surgery. I'm not sure if any of you know a transperson who passes a million percent. I've seen him disclose his history to people, and they literally don't believe him until he shows them a photo. I'm not sure what putting him in a women's prison would achieve, for anyone.

Here's a question for you OP:

Are you upfront with potential partners about not having a penis or do they just find out at the time as it were? If they weren't bothered and still happy to have a sexual relationship would your preference be vaginal or anal sex?

does this mean that some men who now say they are women keep they’re willies?!

It's in the region of 85% of transpeople who retain their birth genitals, Backyard. It's a very small minority who have reconstructive surgery (which to be fair I understand, as it still seems to be fairly experimental, prone to life-threatening/limiting complications and, in the case of a neovagina, requiring of daily dilation to keep the constructed 'tube' open.

I don’t have much experience on this subject but as the OP is keeping they’re vagina and has no intention of removing it... does this mean that some men who now say they are women keep they’re willies?!

Most of them do. Over 90% I think. It's quite unusual for men who identify as women to have any surgery, and even then it's more likely to be breast implants or facial feminisation surgery.