I'm a trans man and local trans activist, AMA

[Sideris]

Hi there, folks.

As the title says, I'm here to respond to questions in good nature.

For a bit of background information, I'm 30 years old, a trans activist out of necessity (being the first 'out' trans person in numerous spaces, which didn't have any rules or regulations before, but have since been commended for ease of process by some new trans members or trans members who have been referred by me), have been 'passing' for about three years, now.

if someone identifies as a man on some days and a woman on others, are you only attracted to them on days they identify as a woman? If they don't dress or act differently (as per your definition they don't need to) how do you know when you should be attracted to them or not?

Your answer: Attraction still works the same for me as it does for everyone else. I've no 'on and off' switch for being attracted to people.

Fine. So you'd regard the person the same whether they were identifying that day as male or as female. Me too.

So why should their identification that day make me happier to see that male person in a female facility, given that nothing has changed and I regard them as the same?

I know I keep boring on about this, but should we also instinctively be be happy to welcome any male person in female facilities just in case they transition in future?

I mean, if they do, even if it's tomorrow or 20 years later, they will 'always have been a woman', right?

Doesn't any shadow of doubt creep in when you look at the extremes?

"Women are concerned about losing their single sex spaces because of the threat from men sing self-ID as a means to enter these spaces. This is already happening and women and girls have already become victims of sexual violence and voyeurism because of this."

OP: You're being ridiculous, there is no threat, transwomen don't offend like men, Karen White was only one person, stop weaponising rape, you're making stuff up.

Also OP: Here is a hypothetical situation about medication while incarcerated that is completely contrary to any current practice on administering prescribed drugs in prison and so unlikely to occur as to be almost laughable. LOOK AT HOW VULNERABLE TRANSPEOPLE WOULD BE IN THIS VANISHINGLY UNLIKELY HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION. THINK OF OUR NEEDS HERE.

Yep, no hypocrisy or double standard to see here, no sirree.

This whole thread just shows me why keeping things such as sex and gender seperate is the answer.

When you start to mess with legal and biological definitions the whole thing gets so muddied nobody knows their arse from their elbow as the elbow now identifies as an arse!

OP, I'm glad you are back. You may not have read my question. I posted it twice before. Here it is again:

Why is my requesting a female medical professional (female as understood in the biological sense) to make me feel safe, as I'm a survivor of child sexual abuse less important than a trans woman (or a man claiming to be a trans woman) having 'the right' to treat me? Why am I 'ridiculous' in this scenario? Why can't I claim the same as you - it's necessary for me to feel right and otherwise I'd be dead?

We definitely need to start building trans prisons and trans hospitals etc

I have a significant amount of people jumping down my throat about trans women and I want to rectify some things.

1. My views are my own. They are my opinions. They are not changing laws because I think x or y. They are not representative of trans people as a whole (good fucking Christ, imagine if every group was treated this way). I can present suggestions to institutions that they can accept or reject but that doesn't mean I single handedly can flip a switch and boom, no more prisons.

1. I am not responsible for trans women in anything. I am not responsible for trans women. I am not involved at all in the discussion about trans women in women's prisons, I am involved in attempts to force trans men into women's prisons. I can offer my OPINION. This does not mean I'm infringing on your rights, this does not mean I'm changing anything.

1. AGAIN. My sexual abuse and my rape was NOT related to my gender. I am NOT attempting to 'skirt womanhood by transitioning'. Your shite attacks and thinly veiled excuses to invalidate my gender are nothing more than transphobia.

we are trying to understand your reasoning because it reads like nonsensical word salad and when we point this out you just go
'wahhh wahh you're trying to invalidate me'
'wahhh wahhh transphobia'

Obviously you are entitled to your opinions but when they make no rational sense you can't expect other people to take you seriously

I am no longer engaging with you, Rhinoskinhavel.

But OP that isn't fair. You brought into the discussion that you have controversial views on prisons and then said, in parentheses, that this view was dependent on whether people were likely to reoffend.

I then asked:

Or someone who knowingly drove under the influence and killed a family but now has their license removed and have stopped drinking? They no longer pose an immediate threat. Do they get released?

What if my rapist had a stroke and lost many of his abilities, so we let him out because he doesn't then pose an immediate threat?

These questions are totally relevant and are based on something you yourself brought into the conversation.

You also haven't been able to confirm if you see the hypocrisy when it comes to some women's rights and feelings being labelled transphobic. As I said before:

You have displayed a staggering lack of empathy on this thread, essentially telling rape victims that they are wrong to fear male bodied people in women's spaces because
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1. these are not as common as women say and
2. the mental health of trans people must be taken into account despite the mental health of women being affected.

You say trans people shouldn't be assumed to be hateful of women and enjoy humiliating them and making them uncomfortable.

Yet you assume some guards will be hateful of trans people and enjoy humiliating them and making them uncomfortable

Just as you aren't saying ALL guards are that way, we agree not all trans people are that way. Yet you claim you should be allowed to mitigate the risk by choosing which sex segregated prison you would go to.

And then you say that women should not be allowed to mitigate the risk they fear by being able to choose a sex segregated space.
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So my question is, if you really think about the above do you see the hypocrisy and double standards raised by the points I have made?

I don't think this is an unfair question and since you put words in my mouth / told me I was wrong about my own likelihood to do something morally wrong, I don't think it's unfair to ask you for your opinion.

I am involved in attempts to force trans men into women's prisons.

There are very, very few transmen in prison at all - because they tend to have a female pattern of offending.

Don't you see that if you win this right for transmen to be housed in men's prisons, then this will surely translate to transwomen having the right to be housed in women's prisons?

Wouldn't any right won for transmen translate to the same right for transwomen? You're asking society to change the way it organises itself from biological sex being the defining characteristic, to self identified gender being the defining characteristic. Yet you refuse to even contemplate the impact that this has on women.

If the words ‘man’ and ‘woman’ mean whatever people want them to mean, then what words do you personally use for ‘the group of people who could get pregnant’ and ‘the group of people who could impregnate them’?

Not delving into medical histories or whatever, so there might be some people in that group infertile or menopausal or whatever. What’s your shorthand?

You're asking society to change the way it organises itself from biological sex being the defining characteristic, to self identified gender being the defining characteristic.

Blimey, imagine if Pips Bunce committed an imprisonable offence. There'd be a full time job for a team of prison guards to drive them backwards and forwards from the male to female estates and back again every other day of the week.

Gosh, noble, that’s a tough one. Maybe we should ask an expert like David Attenborough?

if a man identifying as a woman is allowed into a women's prison then what's to stop all the women in the prison identifying as men and then claiming that the trans woman should not be in a prison full of trans men?
if we have to accept that you can be whatever you say you are then we can also be whatever we say we are
so if a bloke who wants to be accepted as a woman comes into the women's changing rooms I can just identify as a man and tell that trans woman that they are in the wrong changing room because this changing room is now identifying as a men's changing room
Now I'm going to identify as a mermaid and go for a swim 🌊🧜

Your shite attacks and thinly veiled excuses to invalidate my gender

But can’t gender mean whatever one wants it to mean? And therefore it isn’t possible for one person to invalidate another’s gender as we should, by your logic, all be able to believe gender to be what we want it to be?

a team of prison guards to drive them backwards and forwards
That would make pips bunce feel so special and brave wouldn't it💫

The thread says "Ask Me Anything". It doesn't say "Ask me only what I want to be asked".

It's a bit rich, to complain about getting exactly what you asked for.

Not unexpected though.

I also share the pp's concerns about smear tests, and other intimate examinations - and women's current right to ask for a female nurse. This happened in 2017 and the hospital blamed 'clerical error' and apologised.

inews.co.uk/news/health/nhs-woman-transgender-nurse-smear-test-515660

If self-identified gender becomes the defining, and overridingly important characteristic - women who may have very good reason to refuse an intimate with someone who is obviously male-bodied, would -well what? Be accused of transphobia?

Now I'm going to identify as a mermaid and go for a swim 🌊🧜

Have fun playing with the sharks that identify as seahorses, won’t you? You’ll be fine, because their inner feelings and the fact that they ‘know’ they are seahorses will make them really gentle.

You are absolutely sideris that no-one can tell you that your own transition was in any way connected with the fact you were sexually assaulted. It is not our business to do so.

Class analysis is really important when looking at trends, patterns, possibilities causative factors etc. When looking at how beat to help people who wish to change their sexed body it is worth undergoing class analysis to understand why someone might do that and therefore what might be the appropriate way of helping that person. Given there is anecdotal evidence that some women reject their female body following sexual assault, it therefore seems reasonable that this be considered as a possible reason (or part of a matrix of reasons) why someone transitions or wants to transition.

It is not transphobic to seek to ensure that only those for whom medical transition is the best treatment for gender dysphoria proceed with it, given the considerable risks and side effects. It is, however, rude for people to keep questioning your personal position. You can’t just apply class analysis to individual cases.

I think you must be thinking about someone else, I don't recall having any deleted posts?