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I lost a child 23 years ago at Dunblane. AMA

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dunblanemum · 13/03/2019 08:36

I have used this username a few times over the years but am a long time MN user.

I will answer any questions you have - apart from who my child was. I need a little privacy.

I am not doing this to whip up sympathy, i have made my peace with it. It is just in my mind today obviously and i know people i meet often have questions but feel embarrassed about asking. Ask away.

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ColeHawlins · 13/03/2019 19:09

You too Wine


humblesims · 13/03/2019 19:11

Thank you dunblanemum Flowers


GabsAlot · 13/03/2019 19:15

thanks op have a good night


ineedaholidaynow · 13/03/2019 19:17

Thinking of you Flowers Wine


flitwit99 · 13/03/2019 19:18

Thank you dunblanemum

I guess we never know how we will deal with a terrible situation till we are faced with it. You seem to have dealt with yours with incredible grace and strength.

I wish you and yours peace this evening.


Lastdaysof2018 · 13/03/2019 19:30

I was in high school not too far away. I remember when the news started to spread and the teachers later addressed it at an assembly. The teenagers that weren’t crying, were quiet and withdrawn. It was a black day. I am profoundly sorry for your loss. X


BlueDotty · 13/03/2019 19:34

Thoughts and prayers for you, your daughter, and all the other families. xx


UnicornRainbowsRain · 13/03/2019 19:49

Having grown up nearby and not too much older than your daughter I know that many primary schools are now pretty secure.

What do you think about many high schools continuing to be open campuses in Scotland? Should councils be doing more about this?

Thank-you for getting our gun laws changed. Every time I see an American shooting I want to scream about the Dunblane parents and what happened afterwards. ThanksThanks


HotpotLawyer · 13/03/2019 20:04

Thank you for your openness and generosity on this thread.

May your candle burn bright.


Mother87 · 13/03/2019 20:10



Aveeno2017 · 13/03/2019 20:16

Sorry I have not read the whole thread...but I can remember watching it unfold on the tv....sending you lots if love.


moonbells · 13/03/2019 20:17

I am a bit late to this but I am so sorry OP for your loss and you are such a strong person. I have a small memorial in my garden to Dunblane, which is a snowdrop named after one of the children (I guess you know of it) that took me years to track down, and I remember what happened each year even though I have no other connection. This year it had three flowers. Take care. xx


Tavannach · 13/03/2019 20:29



bakingcupcakes · 13/03/2019 20:33

I don't have a question but I remember this from my childhood. My mum was a primary school teacher at the time and I remember her crying for all the lost children and their teacher.


Aragog · 13/03/2019 20:37

Thank you Flowers

Your DD, her class mates and her teacher will not be forgotten. x


AgentCooper · 13/03/2019 20:38

dunblanemum Flowers

I was 9 when it happened, at primary school in Glasgow. The only time in my life I ever saw my Grandad cry. Your wee one will never, ever be forgotten.


RomanyQueen1 · 13/03/2019 21:04

I posted earlier, but had to come back to say I hope you got through today as well as can be expected.
I spoke to my family about it today as I'm sure many people have. Your little one and all the others won't be forgotten Thanks


Dontrocktheboat · 13/03/2019 21:05

I am late to the thread too op and know you’ve gone now but agree with all that has been said. I can only admire your strength in carrying on as you have done and I’m so sorry for your loss and for all those others too.
I was a student in Scotland at the time too, and as others have said it has haunted me since, especially now I have my own little ones. I find myself thinking of it at times when I drop them off and collect them from school, and can’t imagine what you have endured.
Wishing you love and a peaceful evening.


FuzzyPixel · 13/03/2019 21:10

dunblanemum Flowers No-one should have to experience anything similar to the incident at Dunblane.

I was five years old at the time; I remember my mum explaining it to me the best she could and lighting a candle at home. I remember her taking me to spend my pocket money on the charity CD.

You're in my thoughts, and often have been throughout the years. We'll light a candle here tonight.


Happierwithouthim · 13/03/2019 21:27

There's a house in a local town here in Ireland with the name Dunblane


Wonnacott35 · 13/03/2019 21:51

Thinking of you and all the families involved that day xx


oldowlgirl · 13/03/2019 22:11

Thanks for being so honest Op. Glad to hear you've found peace & have a happy life & your other DDs sound wonderful.

Thinking of you & all those affected Thanks


RomanticFatigue · 13/03/2019 23:26

Dunblanemum I have been thinking about you and this thread all day. You are an amazing and compassionate woman. Thank you for your honesty. Enjoy your wine Flowers


Fluffyears · 13/03/2019 23:40

@dunblanemum I remember them every year. They will never ever be forgotten. The absolute scum who carried out his attack is hopefully burning in hell (i’m Not religious but this is one instance I hope he’ll is real) i’m So so sorry I was in secondary school abd heard teachers talking about it but wasn’t aware until later what had actually happened. I won’t forget those little innocent babies.


WaddIelikeapenguin · 13/03/2019 23:41

I’m so sad to read how badly things were handled on the day - the lack of information & long wait sounds so cruel Flowers

I remember so clearly sitting in student halls round a tiny portable tv & the only other scot & me being asked where/what Dunblane is by the mostly NI flat mates - “a beautiful wee quiet place where you go on holiday” was what my friend said. Some of my NI flatmates spoke about the school bomb scares & other bombs they had lived through but all were horrified a gun had gone into a school.

Never forgotten Flowers

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