Feeling frustrated and sad about my daughter’s three-day suspension.

Was the wording of the behaviour policy ‘up to 3 days’ for having the phone out @Ffs1234

I think, sadly, it’s the huge potential risk and consequences of social media for teenagers that means this can’t just be ‘fun’ and that’s where the severity of the punishment has come in. The chances are a few girls filming themselves dancing in the toilets is harmless, but filming in the toilets could have such horrendous consequences that the school have to take an absolute zero tolerance approach here - maybe they’ve made an example of them by doing so early on in the year and therefore mitigated genuine risk / harm by others?

For those saying it is a harsh punishment, she had her phone out and was filming in a toilet. Can some of you not see why that had to be harshly punished?

I have recently been involved with a permanent exclusion for pupil mucking about in the toilets. Luckily no camera involved

Ah so rules are there to be ignored?
Don't talk stupid, she did a lot wrong.

It’s still in the toilet area

She will be fine. If she is a good kid overall this will only be a glitch - and she gets a free holiday ))

Make sure you request classwork for the three days, schools sometimes not very good with this. She may also feel weird going back.

I personally feel suspensions are counter productive... but you can't fight against the system!

She made a mistake and didn't think through the consequences of her actions, or think about why this might land her in trouble. She sounds like a generally good kid, so it's a case of live and learn and understanding that school rules exist for a reason.

jeez what is wrong with people! No way should there have been a punishment for this girl, she did nothing wrong apart from have some fun and other people need to stop being so dramatic over nothing

Not allowed phones out, filming in toilet area. They can film dance outside school

Movement breaks in a lot of schools are not a toilet break, they are movement time from one lesson to another. My current school has a five minute movement break - you go straight to lesson.
Seems the OP's DD's School let the whole class/school out for the toilet - which seems a bit odd. Must be a nightmare to police!

why shouldn’t they do what they like - it’s not impacting on anyone else. The authoritarianism of some schools and parents is astounding.

So you can’t see why there should be rules about phones in school toilets?

I obviously went to a very rough school because people weren’t even suspended when they were caught smoking weed in the toilets. It was a detention or if the teacher couldn’t be bothered a sigh and told to get to class. Those of us who didn’t smoke or do drugs just let them get on with it.

Other people can just move out the way; there’s no malicious intent, and anyway it’s an unenforceable rule since it would rely on students snitching, which no one with any sense of societal norms would do.

But it would have been, had a teacher not interrupted them?

@localnotail wrote Make sure you request classwork for the three days, schools sometimes not very good with this.

Do non-teachers realise how much extra work this will probably give them? It’s not just a matter of saying, “Do exercise 5 p231 questions 1-10,” partly because if the student was not in the lesson they may not know how to do the new work.

In England schools have to provide work for suspended pupils. Pupils also shouldn’t be out and about during school hours

Why should murderers and rapists not do what they want?
Why does society need any rules?
Kids are at school to learn, not to be dancing in some fucking grim toilets. The phone shouldn't have even been turned on.

Watch Carrie (you can stream it now). Yes, it's obviously fiction. But there have been so many things that have really happened, and too much of teachers' time is take up dealing with things that just wouldn't have been part of their job 20 years ago, meaning they're struggling to do the things they should be able to do. Most schools have phone bans now round where I live, because parents were giving smartphones to kids and there was a lot of bullying and one serious consequence-and that girl's parents had only given her a dumbphone, but she was recorded by someone else whose parents gave her a smartphone and didn't prevent her posting stuff online, when she wasn't even a teenager.

I’m confused as to why you’re frustrated with the school. She was caught using a phone she shouldn’t be creating a TikTok in the toilets. You are disappointed in her and rightly so. What did the school
do wrong?

This is a clear example of false equivalence - equating murderers with girls having fun is ridiculous.

the disproportionality of the punishment is shocking, as is the number of people living in a parallel universe who agree with this level of discipline being imposed for what is a harmless act.

If children are ingenious enough to have their phones in school without being caught and have some fun amongst the learning, why shouldn’t they do so?