Housekeeper playing music- aibu?

She had it playing for a couple of minutes while she was gathering her things.

I think she should have turned it off as soon as she stopped the car.

I live in a large house on a farm. I have a housekeeper who comes in each day between 10-6.

Today I was in the garden and she drove up to the house and parked outside. I could hear her music which annoyed me because I moved to the country for peace and quiet. It wasn't blasting but I don't want to hear any music while I'm outside.

I told her she's not allowed to play music while she's driving on the farm and she seemed a bit upset and was much quieter than normal. I think that might have to do with her personal circumstances because she's currently getting divorced.

Was I being unreasonable?

All that nastiness when you didn't read past the first post. 🙄🙄

£27 an hour and free accommodation with all bills paid (in a very nice cottage on the farm) is a good rate, particularly in North East England.

Here are other jobs around my general location.

https://housekeeper.com/housekeeper-jobs/darlington,england

https://www.greycoatlumleys.co.uk/jobs/live-in-housekeeper and here are a range of jobs in other locations.

It's a very good package.

Okay, I just read her update and lol, poor baby had ear surgery. Okay, cool. My widow-maker artery tore two months ago, causing a heart attack and I'm only 37 and I also have MS and yet somehow I still manage not to treat people who work for me like shit because I'm not a total bitch. Having medical problems doesn't give you a free pass to be an insufferable jerk to other people. There's absolutely no excuse for that behavior and I'm baffled that anyone thinks her update somehow makes it acceptable.

No, it really isn't and no amount of you posting links is gonna make it so.

I live in a large house on a farm. I have a housekeeper who comes in each day between 10-6.

Today I was in the garden and she drove up to the house and parked outside. I could hear her music which annoyed me because I moved to the country for peace and quiet. It wasn't blasting but I don't want to hear any music while I'm outside.

I told her she's not allowed to play music while she's driving on the farm and she seemed a bit upset and was much quieter than normal. I think that might have to do with her personal circumstances because she's currently getting divorced.

Was I being unreasonable?

Oh, whatever, you only think that's a good wage because wages in the UK are so crap in general and OMG, I'm terribly sorry I don't know how to type the pound symbol on my laptop. You knew perfectly well what I meant, but apparently nitpicking a currency symbol is easier than addressing the actual point.

Okay, I just read her update and lol, poor baby had ear surgery. Okay, cool. My widow-maker artery tore two months ago, causing a heart attack and I'm only 37 and I also have MS and yet somehow I still manage not to treat people who work for me like shit because I'm not a total bitch. Having medical problems doesn't give you a free pass to be an insufferable jerk to other people. There's absolutely no excuse for that behavior and I'm baffled that anyone thinks her update somehow makes it acceptable.

Lol, $27 an hour isn't even a particularly good wage for housecleaning, let alone the exceptionally generous rate you seem to think it is. My parents had a cleaner come weekly over 20 years ago and because my mom was an absolute neat freak, they were only at our house for about 2–3 hours and yet they paid $100 per visit, which worked out to roughly $35–$50 an hour, OVER TWO DECADES AGO. We pay our cleaner more than that now, so I'm really not sure why you think $27 an hour in 2026 is some incredible act of generosity.

I live in a large house on a farm. I have a housekeeper who comes in each day between 10-6.

Today I was in the garden and she drove up to the house and parked outside. I could hear her music which annoyed me because I moved to the country for peace and quiet. It wasn't blasting but I don't want to hear any music while I'm outside.

I told her she's not allowed to play music while she's driving on the farm and she seemed a bit upset and was much quieter than normal. I think that might have to do with her personal circumstances because she's currently getting divorced.

Was I being unreasonable?

Okay, I just read her update and lol, poor baby had ear surgery. Okay, cool. My widow-maker artery tore two months ago, causing a heart attack and I'm only 37 and I also have MS and yet somehow I still manage not to treat people who work for me like shit because I'm not a total bitch. Having medical problems doesn't give you a free pass to be an insufferable jerk to other people. There's absolutely no excuse for that behavior and I'm baffled that anyone thinks her update somehow makes it acceptable.

Who on earth do you think you are?????

Lol, $27 an hour isn't even a particularly good wage for housecleaning, let alone the exceptionally generous rate you seem to think it is. My parents had a cleaner come weekly over 20 years ago and because my mom was an absolute neat freak, they were only at our house for about 2–3 hours and yet they paid $100 per visit, which worked out to roughly $35–$50 an hour, OVER TWO DECADES AGO. We pay our cleaner more than that now, so I'm really not sure why you think $27 an hour in 2026 is some incredible act of generosity.