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Housekeeper playing music- aibu?

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NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:24

I live in a large house on a farm. I have a housekeeper who comes in each day between 10-6.

Today I was in the garden and she drove up to the house and parked outside. I could hear her music which annoyed me because I moved to the country for peace and quiet. It wasn't blasting but I don't want to hear any music while I'm outside.

I told her she's not allowed to play music while she's driving on the farm and she seemed a bit upset and was much quieter than normal. I think that might have to do with her personal circumstances because she's currently getting divorced.

Was I being unreasonable?

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MozzieFreeZone · 22/10/2026 20:45

@pinck
It's pound sterling, not dollars.
£27 per hour is very reasonable.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2026 20:45

pinck · 22/10/2026 20:44

Lol, $27 an hour isn't even a particularly good wage for housecleaning, let alone the exceptionally generous rate you seem to think it is. My parents had a cleaner come weekly over 20 years ago and because my mom was an absolute neat freak, they were only at our house for about 2–3 hours and yet they paid $100 per visit, which worked out to roughly $35–$50 an hour, OVER TWO DECADES AGO. We pay our cleaner more than that now, so I'm really not sure why you think $27 an hour in 2026 is some incredible act of generosity.

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We don’t have $, but £27 an hour for 8 hours a day is a good rate.

BeatrizBoniface · 22/10/2026 20:46

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 20:40

She's back with antibiotics and painkillers. Had to have the tooth out unfortunately but hopefully it'll heal quickly ☺️

Oh my god, the poor woman was working today with a tooth that needed extracting? She must have been in agony.

pinck · 22/10/2026 20:48

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2026 20:45

We don’t have $, but £27 an hour for 8 hours a day is a good rate.

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Oh, whatever, you only think that's a good wage because wages in the UK are so crap in general and OMG, I'm terribly sorry I don't know how to type the pound symbol on my laptop. You knew perfectly well what I meant, but apparently nitpicking a currency symbol is easier than addressing the actual point.

RoseyLentil · 22/10/2026 20:49

Never heard of anything so ridiculous 🤣
If I was her I’d be putting my notice in.
what at a misery you are.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2026 20:50

pinck · 22/10/2026 20:48

Oh, whatever, you only think that's a good wage because wages in the UK are so crap in general and OMG, I'm terribly sorry I don't know how to type the pound symbol on my laptop. You knew perfectly well what I meant, but apparently nitpicking a currency symbol is easier than addressing the actual point.

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Oh bore off.

Janetwin · 22/10/2026 20:53

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:24

I live in a large house on a farm. I have a housekeeper who comes in each day between 10-6.

Today I was in the garden and she drove up to the house and parked outside. I could hear her music which annoyed me because I moved to the country for peace and quiet. It wasn't blasting but I don't want to hear any music while I'm outside.

I told her she's not allowed to play music while she's driving on the farm and she seemed a bit upset and was much quieter than normal. I think that might have to do with her personal circumstances because she's currently getting divorced.

Was I being unreasonable?

A friend of mine had a cleaner come once a week and she would have “radio Jesus” (some radio playing spiritual stuff all day long! !) 😂

pinck · 22/10/2026 20:55

ToKittyornottoKitty · 22/10/2026 20:50

Oh bore off.

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Lol, hit a nerve, have I? What exactly did I say that was untrue, because “oh bore off” isn't exactly a compelling argument. Funny how you had plenty to say until you were actually asked to defend your point but sure, dismiss me instead of explaining why I'm wrong. Much easier, isn't it?

Bo1978 · 22/10/2026 20:56

Think you’ve really misread the room if you think posting here is going to get any sympathy 👀😂

BuildbyNumbere · 22/10/2026 21:01

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:28

She had it playing for a couple of minutes while she was gathering her things.

I think she should have turned it off as soon as she stopped the car.

That is completely ridiculous … yes, you are being very unreasonable, and frankly sound rather stuck up and nasty.

Bloozie · 22/10/2026 21:02

Bless you. I'm glad her tooth is better, I hope you're feeling better, and how refreshing for someone in AIBU to be like OMG I was BwildlyU.

shhblackbag · 22/10/2026 21:04

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:28

She had it playing for a couple of minutes while she was gathering her things.

I think she should have turned it off as soon as she stopped the car.

How dare she not know her place? ... Jesus, how unreasonable can you be? I'd be looking for a new job if I were her. Madness.

thislittlelife · 22/10/2026 21:07

This can't possibly be real!?

MyEasterBonnet · 22/10/2026 21:07

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:28

She had it playing for a couple of minutes while she was gathering her things.

I think she should have turned it off as soon as she stopped the car.

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myheadsjustmush · 22/10/2026 21:12

I thought this was going to be about your housekeeper playing music whilst she was inside your house.

It's only for a couple of minutes - YABVVU

Jade9114 · 22/10/2026 21:13

Of course it’s unreasonable - surprised if she’ll be your house keeper for long …

NiftyKoala · 22/10/2026 21:14

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 19:42

I didn't know she had toothache when I was considering it. And she can always eat it when she feels better.

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Sure....

Whatthefork1 · 22/10/2026 21:17

This has got to be a wind up?

GinaandGin · 22/10/2026 21:27

NoMusicPlease · 22/10/2026 16:28

She had it playing for a couple of minutes while she was gathering her things.

I think she should have turned it off as soon as she stopped the car.

You need to get over yourself
You sound hard work and demanding
A right hyacinth

MozzieFreeZone · 22/10/2026 21:28

@GinaandGin
Maybe read all the op's posts...

Springsummertime · 22/10/2026 21:29

Surely this cannot be real! No one can actually be this much of a N O B surely

Bananacrepewithnuts · 22/10/2026 21:34

Sod working for you.

Packofsix · 22/10/2026 21:34

Was you born an ass hole or did you just become one

Laura95167 · 22/10/2026 21:35

Youre trying to tell her she cant listen to her own music in her own car?

Of course YABU 😂

NiftyKoala · 22/10/2026 21:36

Whatthefork1 · 22/10/2026 21:17

This has got to be a wind up?

Not even an interesting one lol