Poking holes in condoms!

They're not particularly, and certainly not compared to a vaesectomy. It certainly isn't a risk I would take.

Condoms are <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&source=web&rct=j&url=www.nhs.uk/contraception/methods-of-contraception/condoms/%23:~:text%3DCondoms%2520are%2520up%2520to,they%2527re%252082%2525%2520effective%252C&ved=2ahUKEwiEzeaZiNiXAxUb9bsIHd5rDDQQy_kOegoIAggACAAIBRAC&opi=89978449&cd&psig=AOvVaw29I_RshVpmdoB4IrRiy6fB&ust=1793117188589000" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">98% effective at preventing pregnancy when used perfectly every time you have sex, meaning about 2 in 100 people will get pregnant over the course of a year. 1, 2]
With typical use (accounting for human error, inconsistent use, or fit issues), they are about 82% to 85% effective, meaning roughly 15 to 18 out of 100 people will experience a pregnancy in a year. 1, 2, 3]

Well I don't know who is using them incorrectly but I'm pretty sure we used them spot on for perhaps 15 years or so without incident.
I don't even ever recall one splitting.

@secretrocker The fact of the matter is that a vasectomy is far more reliable than all other forms of contraception. I fail to understand why more men don't have them when their family is done.
My husband could of course have chosen not to have one, but then certain things would have been off the table!

Personally I didn't want my husband to undergo an uneccessary medical procedure, just as I wouldn't have done myself (like I said above, he wasn't that bothered, he would have done it).
It was a risk I was willing to take, I guess, and it paid off.

@secretrocker Perhaps you/he would have felt differently had you been one of the quite considerable number of women - myself included - who ended up in emergency surgery with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy.
All pregnancy carries risk.
It is a selfish choice if a family is complete.

I completely agree with @secretrocker I don’t know why we or our husbands should get called names because someone else’s choices are not ones we want to make.

All surgical procedures also carry risk. Deciding which risks we are willing to take is a matter of choice. You seem to be talking about it like your choice is the right choice and others are wrong or selfish if they choose otherwise.

Condoms...well they're not particularly reliable. All other hormonal contraceptives (reliant on the woman) do carry both side-effects and increased cancer risks.
So unless a man has a pretty solid reason to not get a vaesectomy once his family is complete, and expects his wife to continue on literally a lifetime of hormonal contraceptives when there is a safer and more reliable alternative then tbh I do think that is a selfish - and somewhat misogynistic - decision on his part.
I'd be interested to hear why men choose not to have them.

Well the poster you were responding to said they didn’t mind using condoms and neither do I, so I suppose that’s their reason not to have one.

Condoms are 98% reliable if used correctly. I don’t know why so many people seem to think they’re unreliable.

Some people go on to have children with a second partner. My uncle’s wife died and he ended up remarrying and having another child which wouldn’t have been possible if he’d had a vasectomy when he thought his family was complete - we don’t know what the future holds.

My DH and I both feel our family is complete, but what if all of them went out one day and died in a car accident? Would I definitely not want any more? What if the same happened to me and the DC and my DH might want to consider having another family? I don’t know how likely either scenario is, but I don’t see the need to eliminate those options when I can just use condoms.

I have never wanted to use hormonal contraception because of how it might affect my body - am I selfish?

@squarecrow I understand that. But tbh, my husband was already 45 when his first (and last) was born so we both agreed that yes, it would have been selfish for either him (or I) to have more children after that.
There surely gets to a point where age means enough is enough?
I think also some of it depends on how much you really want to avoid a pregnancy.