Passive aggressive neighbour?

Yeah this is on you.

Loud music past 11pm in a terraced street is really selfish. If it was occasional and you provided advance notice people would probably cut you a bit of slack but it sounds like you do it a lot.

She probably feels she can’t approach you and is sick of it, wants you to learn to read the room a bit. I would be deeply pissed off if a neighbour was doing this most weekends.

Grow up and start thinking about others apart from yourself.

YABU, i would hate to live next door to you. Loud music until 11.30pm on multiple occasions, im not suprised your neighbour is blanking you and now doing the same to you with the music.

How many times on here do people post about neighbours being loud or playing loud music until late at night ! The consensus is always the same, the neighbour is being unreasonable. Which in this case is you !

I used to live in a flat where two kitchens adjoined. Please note - kitchens - not bedrooms or lounges. So no one was trying to sleep or watch TV. I was washing some dishes and singing when my neighbour knocked on the adjoining wall. Now maybe I had a terrible singing voice (I didn't) but I was pretty annoyed. I put opera on the radio and left it on against the adjoining wall for the next 3 hours until the 11 o'clock curfew stated in the lease.

Next day I sang in the kitchen again. No more knocking.

Music past 11pm? She should not have to approach you for that, you should know it's rude

Great post ☝🏻I agree with everything you’ve said.
I can never understand the need for people to play music really loud.
it really grinds my gears and it is so inconsiderate to not care or even have the wit to realise how it affects other people.

I had horrible experience neighbours like you. I tried and tried talking to them about their loud music and screaming. Nothing stopped them.

Yet both sides exactly like you were very sensitive when I was loud back.

You need to stop upsetting your neighbour.

She moved it when you asked her to. That would suggest that it's not to annoy you.

There is a strong possibility that you are the difficult neighbour here. Get headphones if you like your music loud.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

That's a horrible thing to do.

You’re lucky she hasn’t put some through your letterbox at this stage. Maybe she’s trying to hint to you that you’re behaviour is shit😂

7 times in a month is a lot, 6.30 til 11.30 is a long time and late. You know the walls are thin. You have been awful.

You should have known, if you didn't now you realise you should be mortified not annoyed/surprised the neighbour is pissed off.

Stop playing the music loudly get some ear phones and it will blow over, ideally apologise and smooth it over.

Can you put some sort of fence / trellis up along the boarder to block out the sight of the manure ?

You sound an awful neighbour. How can you possibly think your behaviour is ok? Turn the music off/down, and stop being so selfish!

You're definitely going to reveal that this is a reverse, because quite clearly, with this post you're admitting that you're being unreasonable.

I’d hate to live next door to you. Have you never considered that your behaviour is totally unreasonable? Loud music, thin walls is bad but to play it after 10pm is disgraceful and disrespectful. How old are you?

These are in no way the same thing, though. How can you not see that? Also, it’s quite “main character”’of you to assume that everything this woman does is to annoy you 🙄.

You are the nightmare neighbour here, not her.

Another nightmare neighbour.

You're an awful neighbour.

The problem is YOU.

Christ!

Have you heard of Headphones?
Please buy some ASAP! 😬💐

If it’s on her drive why are you walking there? She’s likely out it there to keep you off her drive

I don’t understand people who go out of their way to upset their neighbours and that includes playing loud music until late at night. It only makes your own life more difficult. However your neighbour is clearly bat shit crazy, she could have spoken to you about it.
in situations like this always go for the high moral ground. Do not feel or act in any way diminished by her rude behaviour. Instead smile at her brightly say good morning and chirpingly go on your way. She will eventually be the one who gets embarrassed and even if she doesn’t, your other neighbours will see you as the reasonable and polite one and act accordingly.

Oh and keep your music low.

So you are fully aware that you have played loud music every weekend for months on end in a thin walled and terraced house, to the point you know how loud it is and that it would have been heard… carried on even though you yourself have said you are fully aware how loud it is… and you wonder why your neighbour had gone a bit crazy and bought some bagpipes and is loading manure on their drive to piss you off.
You knew categorically that you were being antisocial and carried it on for weeks on end, it’s not a case of she may or may not have been affected, you knew she would be. You expected her to come and tell you when you knew this already.
you are an arsehole neighbour and I am not surprised by her reaction after weeks of enduring this.
it’s the same as if your neighbour kept dumping their rubbish in your bin, they know this is wrong, and out of order. It’s not a case of they may not realise it’s your bin, they are just doing it to be an arsehole. Like you with your music, you know this is wrong and out of order but you are just being an antisocial arsehole about it.

Sorry OP but the use of bagpipes must be a clue (and made me chuckle!).

I have a friend who used to live in a terrace. One night “Hallelujah” came on on the radio and she turned the volume up and really, really went for it, booming along. She came to the end, turned the music down, and heard her neighbour next door shout “hallelujah that that’s over!” She took the point that the walls were thinner than she’d thought.

I also think this is a reverse, but just in case it isn't... You said you only put the music on on a Saturday night when your kids are at their nan's. So how can it have been 7 times in a month?

Which summer? It was still summer a month ago, so how long has it been going on if you've only been playing it since the summer but you've played it 7 times in a month. None of it adds up.

You sound like an inconsiderate nightmare and I would like to hear the neighbour's side of things.