AIBU to think marrying after eight months is not always rash?

I met someone many years ago who had an engagement ring after two weeks and a wedding ring four weeks later. It was right for them.

I think a cousin of my mum had an engagement ring after six weeks. I think.

It took dh and I two years but if logistics had not been what they were, we would have been quicker.

My close friend met and married someone after just a few months. She insisted that she "just knew". She is divorced now.

Then again, some people are together for years before they get married and then end up getting divorced as well, so there are no guarantees regardless.

Marriage always involves an element of risk taking, I suppose. I wish you and your DH a long and happy life together!

I spent 20 years looking for a life partner and I failed. They always showed their true colours sometime in the first two years, so the idea of marrying after 8 months seems incredibly rash to me.

I'm glad it worked out for you.

Me and DH met and married within a year , celebrated our 25th anniversary this year

I think it's too soon to tell. The first few years of a relationship are the honeymoon period whether you are married or not.

Engaged within a month, married six months later. Celebrating 27 years next month ❤️

True Romance. (I was going to say the film and RL, but you probably didn't want to live a lot of the film!)

It's lovely to read, all the best to you both.

I think it’s often down to the luck of the drawer of it lasting after 8 months ie. You Both end up being essentially decent people.

It would be more advisable to wait longer to try and be surer of the above but it doesn’t always mean a lasting marriage.

My parents met, engaged after 3 months, married at 6 months. They were married for 50 years before my mother died.

Not quite as quick as you, but DH and I get engaged after 18 months, married 18 months later (aged 24). We'd have married immediately, but as we were so young we had no established savings and paid for our wedding ourselves. My parents got engaged after 6 months, married a year later and had me a year after that. They are still together 38 years later.

I met DH online in about Sept, in person first in Dec and by June we were planning a wedding and I'd applied for a job nearer him (though he'd already applied for several unsuccessfully near me). Sept I got the job and we looked at houses in Nov, moved in Jan and married in May.
We didn't get an engagement ring till the Sept though (just before house hunting).

Not quite as quick since we were young and needed time to save but I knew after 6 weeks DH was the man I would marry.

We moved in together after 6 months, engaged at 12 months, bought our first house together at 18 months and married on 3rd anniversary of our first date.

22 years and 2 DCs later, no regrets.

I think 8 months is plenty so long as there are no dependent children on either side.

I think at 36 and both being on the same page regarding marriage and kids, 8 months is more than enough time.

I was 24 when I met DH. We were living together at 9 months, engaged at 18 months and married 18 months after that. But then I've always been very clear that marriage was a deal breaker for me and I wouldn't be waiting around for years.

Agree I think it’s the luck of the draw. I will always advise my children to never get engaged until they have done two full years min, as I probably met about four ‘the ones’ during my twenties. While I like to think it was their defect, it was also me compromising too much to impress them in the early days and regretting it down the line.

But I suppose at 36 you know the drill fairly well.

Got married after 8 months at 18/19 and still together almost ten years later. No regrets. Everyone said it was crazy but when you know you know and he knew he couldn’t do better so had to lock down the best. Don’t blame him, I’d have done the same.

Met and married within six months - married 60 years when he passed away.

When I compare how much I knew about my partner at eight months compared to how much I know about him now I realised I didnt know him at all and we haven't been together as long as four years.

I guess these things can work out but nobody really knows your seems to have done so that's goos 💐

Dh and I were talking about “when we get married” as if it was inevitable from 4 months (I had known him longer as part of our wider friendship group). We married at 3 years (engaged after 18 months) but we were young (I was 22); by mid 30s you know what you want and I do think, when you know you know. Taking 4 years or longer to even propose makes me more concerned is not right and just habit.

My dh and I moved in after 4 months. 21 years ago.

Mumsnet is full of threads of people who dated 10 years, got married, had kids, then the husband turned into a nightmare.
Time is not helpful and certainly no guarantee. It's more age, stage of life, common goals etc that influence the timetable.

We got engaged after a couple of months, a very similar story to you. We were a bit older than you too.
There's a big cultural.element too. Few cultures are as commitment phobic as the UK with relationships.

I met Dh 29 years ago on a blind date. Engaged after 9 weeks. Bought a house after 7 months. Got married 19 months after meeting and have two grown up children. Sometimes what will be will be.

I would say that after only 8 months with someone, you haven’t seen the person in enough situations enough times to know them well.Lots of relationships are great at the 8 month mark as it such early days.

The longer you’re with someone, the more likely they are to reveal the real them so waiting longer makes sense to me.That doesn’t mean it won’t all work out though and hopefully it will.

I felt my partner was different from the first time I met him, but we waited 2 years to try living together, another year before we bought a house and another few years before we had children. You still can’t know it will all work out, but for me, I had to be as sure as I could be and I’m not the sort to rush into anything. Almost 30 years on and I think we’ll be ok. I still haven’t agreed to marry him though. 🤣