Is the dog invited?

OP - take a screenshot of the poll - send to family and say look guys 2000 people think ur unreasonable. ( which they are btw)
;) Won't do much for family relations but would be very funny.

Saying someone 'doesn't understand humans' because they like taking their dog on holiday is a bit ironic. Around a third of UK households have a dog, so it's hardly an unusual view. People who love dogs often choose holidays where they can all go together—just as others choose child-friendly holidays or adults-only holidays. Neither is wrong.

And your first point... People will think your being rude and unreasonable... It's certainly how you come across in your comments on here!

Have you spoken with them yet, OP, or are they just turning up and you're taking a gamble!

You're clearly like chalk and cheese with your brother in law with that attitude.

By all means tell them the dog can't come if you don't want him in your house but you have to accept that it means they probably won't be able to come.

Are you sure your husband didn't know they were taking the dog on holiday with them? If we go on a UK holiday I wouldn't think I'd need to make it clear that we're taking the dogs, it just goes without saying.

Well, it's tricky if they are on their way back from a holiday with the dog, but they should definitely not have assumed that the dog was invited.

We live in the SW and people often drop in on their way to or from holidays. If they have dogs they always check with us in advance that it's okay. It usually just for lunch, so not an issue, but I have to say that overnight would be more problematic

From some of the nasty posts I see on here I'm glad I have the mental illness of being a dog lover.

A dog has never once been cruel to me, they've only ever brought me happiness. Humans on the other hand...

Brining. Soaking in salt water. I think she's joking.

I'm afraid most dog owners believe everyone likes dogs. Personally I don't particularly & don't want them in my house although when my sister in law was alive & stayed here sometimes we did tolerate them.

You came on to ask if BIL was rude for not mentioning the dog when he probably assumed you'd know as you know they have a dog, and his brother is clearly fine with it (and again probably assumes you and your H are capable of coming to agreement), but all YOU'VE been is rude.

You must be a wonderful actress to have fooled them all into thinking you have no issue with them or their pet. Or that you're a nice enough person that they 'love' coming to you. Or maybe they are also good at acting and pretend they 'love' to come to you when really they only want to see your husband? Did your husband possibly know but didn't mention it because of how you react so nastily if you feel you've been slightly inconvenienced? Who knows.

People in the votes are in your favour because people do tend to generally ask about bringing pets. Sounds more like in this case it's been an oversight. But it's not voting in favour of your attitude. I read all your posts so I didn't have to read the full thread and you come across as very unpleasant and fake.

Cats do too.

I am late to the party but IMO OP is entirely justified in not wanting to wecome a dog into her home.

Many dog lovers are totally blinkered into believing that their dog is no trouble and that everyone will adore them. They are not the same as actual human company no matter how much their owners might believe this.

#TeamOP

But not wrong, my 82yr old mother said they are like her children they gave her a reason to get out of bed after my dad died

Agreeing she is justified for not wanting a dog in her home is one thing, but have you actually read her replies to people? I certainly wouldn't be team OP on that basis.

I cannot believe that anyone thinks it's ok to turn up with a pet to someone else's house without asking.

You’re having no trouble giving blunt, sharp answers on here, OP, so you should have no trouble telling your in-laws that the dog is not welcome.

@DoggyAuntie my MN says it’s 2,518 votes, 66% agree with you but (oops) you forgot to mention that 34% disagrees with you. That’s about 850 people’s opinion so it’s worth considering.

I agreed with you in the poll but as I said previously, I also think that if you and yr husband had said no dogs allowed when the weekend was being arranged you wouldn’t be in the situation you find yourself in.

They seem pretty well balanced given the insanity of some of the responses.

#TeamOP. #OPForTheWin

They are lovely yes, ours is. We still wouldn't take her with us when visiting people.

Urgh, dog wasn’t invited or mentioned. It’s just rude to turn up with them!

Reminds me of my FIL just last month though. Hosted a party at our house for our 2 year old and he brought his dog! No mention beforehand and definitely wouldn’t have allowed it if he hadn’t turned up on the doorstep. They only live 15mins away and the party was 2 hours - not like he couldn’t have been left at home!

you should have just told him to take it home.

If you own a dog though it's not something that can be treated like a houseplant or teddy when going on holiday, or even out for the day. It is a living creature that does function as a family member, even if that's not the dictionary definition of 'family'. That's why your relatives have it with them.

Our dog requires way more planning for than any other family member - the others can be left for hours, can open their own food cans, can be left to sit by themselves on a beach, and can drive to Sainsbury's.

I do, two very beloved and treasured children who I love more than life itself but I tell them all the time I don’t love them as much as my doggy. They love him more than me too. Pretty confident my husband loves him more than all of us, which I absolutely accept - none of us humans will lick his feet after a long walk or greet him enthusiastically at some ungodly hour of the morning.

He is infinitely more loveable than any of us.