MIL dilemma on holiday

I mean, that is literally what sleep training is.

More info is needed?

Your post is not clear, OP. What has MIL said?

Are you the MiL and you disagree with how your child and their partner are parenting your grandchild?

You just have to mind your own business. Take yourself off for a walk if you can’t bear to listen to it.

Sleep training on holiday is stupidity at its finest.
I don't agree with leaving a baby to cry alone by choice. Yes sometimes you're on the toilet or the verge of a breakdown but just deciding an infant isn't entitled to comfort because it's an inconvenience isn't ok imo.

I would feel so uncomfortable being on holiday with someone doing that.

Try putting yourself in the baby’s place.
Cruel.

It’s not clear from your post who is doing the sleep ‘training’ and who is objecting. Whoever is objecting though is absolutely right, leaving a baby to cry for 20 minutes is cruel and good on the objector.

If I was the MIL in this situation I’d really struggle with any of my children doing this regardless whether they were the one who had birthed the baby. I would have hoped how my husband and I raised them would have had an impact on how they and their partner raised their own children.

What a horrible situation to be in.

God I hate cry it out sleep training. Absolutely grim. On holiday too?! At 11 months baby knows they are somewhere else and this seems cruel.

Sleep training on holiday in an unfamiliar place is not a good idea.

Bloody hell, are people still leaving their babies to cry for long period of time in the name of sleep training?

I thought people were more aware of the harm caused by cry it out.

Cry it out is barbaric BUT if you are the MIL you probably need to tread a bit carefully here

Who does sleep training on holiday?

So don’t sleep train? I think it’s barbaric, personally.

I sleep trained my son and it worked within 3 days. I wouldn’t do it on holiday though. Other people’s sleep is more important then and small children’s sleep often goes pear shaped away from home

It wasn’t barbaric. We both needed sleep for work and he slept much better after 3 days too. Everyone was happier

Not sure if you’re the mother or the grandmother in this scenario but either way, I think sleep training in the form of leaving the baby to cry alone is barbaric in a familiar situation for the child, let alone in a strange place on holiday. No way in hell would I do this with my own children, nor allow anyone else to

A baby literally does not have the part of the brain that can regulate its emotions developed yet. Letting them cry is not teaching them anything other than that they are not secure. This cruel and demented sleep “training” is the start of insecure attachment later in life. So ignorant and nasty. Don’t fucking do it. If your MIL thinks it’s ok, tell her to mind her own business and ignore her stupid ass. It’s not her choice.

I’m currently lying on the floor near the travel cot containing my toddler in our holiday cottage. I will stay put until I know she’s asleep. At home toddler is left to her own devices after we’ve said goodnight to her and we only go in if she’s upset. I wouldn’t leave her to be upset and lonely in an unfamiliar place and I would rather know she’s settled before I slope off downstairs to open a bottle of wine.

No idea if you’re being unreasonable or not as your OP is unclear but that’s my stance on this issue.

This has absolutely no basis in fact.

I never let my kids cry. But I had them in a routine from first night home and after a few weeks they got it and went to bed still awake without problem (my DD took a few weeks longer as she had reflux).
If my baby cried I’d wait a minute or two see if they self settled otherwise I’d go to them. After they dropped their overnight feeds they rarely woke at all.

Letting your baby fall asleep feeling safe and secure each night is more important than teaching them that nobody comes when you cry.

I wouldn’t personally let them cry in this situation. If you’re the mum - your baby, you decide. If you’re the MIL - don’t go there, whatever the mum says goes.

I would think it's awful. Thought that Gina or whatever it was craze died out a long time ago. Remember that NSPCC advert about the babies who stopped crying because they learned no one would ever go to them? I was young, wasn't even a mum and it made me cry. Not ok to disturb other people, and I'd never have left my kids crying.
Maybe your MIL is older and was told to do it? Seem to remember news articles about mums being pushed to do it, and all their instincts saying pick her up.

It sounds like you're the MIL and your child and their partner have really let you down and their child down by showing such a cruel streak. I'd struggle to stay on holiday with them.