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to tell son NOT to post memes of black people

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:34

Please help me . Huge row with 11 year old.

His friend posted a meme of a black person with "bombastic side eye".

He wants to repost it to some silly comment.

I said it is wrong and not the right thing to do even if the person "bombastic side eye" posted it himself on tin tok.

Please give me your thoughts.

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longdistanceclaraclara · 17/08/2024 13:37

What platform, not that it really matters. Delete it.

DadJoke · 17/08/2024 13:37

Depending on context, there is nothing racist about that meme. There are plenty of bombastic side eye memes from white peoples and cartoon characters, though.

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:37

on his WhatsApp group chats with School friends.

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DrinkUpBabyDown · 17/08/2024 13:38

What is your issue?

RedHelenB · 17/08/2024 13:38

The person in the meme posted it himself with that caption?

soupfiend · 17/08/2024 13:38

I dont really understand what the phrase means?

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 17/08/2024 13:40

I don’t know what’s racist about it? I’ve seen that phrase applied to white people, adults, children….

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:40

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

Yes. That is my point. We live in an asian country and kids go to international school.

I grew up in Britain. I said although you do not think it is racist, it is in fact a. racist action, and this is not for entertainment. He said what if I posted a white person. I said you need to understand the history of black people, and you shouldn't post just because others do.

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StSwithinsDay · 17/08/2024 13:40

He's 11. He shouldn't be on WhatsApp for starters.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/08/2024 13:40

soupfiend · 17/08/2024 13:38

I dont really understand what the phrase means?

Isn't it when you look at someone in a suspicious way?
Giving someone the side eye.

Unless adding bombastic changes it.

Wasn't there a song called bombastic? Something about TV?

Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:41

What?

A meme featuring a black person isn’t necessarily racist. Some memes poke fun of the person featured. Most do not. There are used to convey a reaction. Not to make fun of the person in it.

The one in question isn’t making fun of the person in it, if it’s the one I am thinking of.

Are you suggesting only memes with white people should be allowed?

Original poster
mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:41

its a meme of a black guy giving the side eye

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Reugny · 17/08/2024 13:42

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:37

on his WhatsApp group chats with School friends.

He's legally too young for WhatsApp and tik tok.

Tell him if he posts it you will ban him from the apps until he shows he is mature enough to be allowed to use them, then follow through by confiscating his phone and replacing it with a dumb phone.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 17/08/2024 13:42

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

Better go and tell all the black actors and comedians and musicians then...

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 17/08/2024 13:42

It’s just an expression! The race is completely irrelevant in this instance.
yabu.

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mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:43

Backstory: He himself reported someone on the chat for using the N word when it was used against him. So for him to then post the meme, I think is not appropriate.

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Hadjab · 17/08/2024 13:43

Overtheatlantic · 17/08/2024 13:37

It’s racist. Black people don’t exist for the amusement of others.

That’s ridiculous. As a black person, I use memes of white people, black people, cats, dogs, et al. I find the most appropriate meme/gif and use it.

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/08/2024 13:43

Nip it in the bud, OP.

As the adult you didn't need to have a huge row with your 11yr old son - you just tell him that it's unacceptable and explain why.

A colleague's partner once shared a racist joke on my WhatsApp and I immediately replied "I can't believe you thought I would find that funny. Never share anything with me again".

It's not even up for discussion, let alone a row.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 17/08/2024 13:43

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:40

Yes. That is my point. We live in an asian country and kids go to international school.

I grew up in Britain. I said although you do not think it is racist, it is in fact a. racist action, and this is not for entertainment. He said what if I posted a white person. I said you need to understand the history of black people, and you shouldn't post just because others do.

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Is he Asian?

Asian people have historical racial issues too

soupfiend · 17/08/2024 13:43

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 17/08/2024 13:40

Isn't it when you look at someone in a suspicious way?
Giving someone the side eye.

Unless adding bombastic changes it.

Wasn't there a song called bombastic? Something about TV?

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Mr Bombastic?

Showing my age there

So memes of any other ethnicity and taking the piss out of people period (of any ethnicity) is generally what people do, but not about black people?

Whats that about?

Whats racist about looking at someone suspiciously

MonsteraMama · 17/08/2024 13:43

Wait is he just using a reaction meme in response to a post like this (in which case I don't see how that's racist)

Season 2 Shade GIF by Martin
Hectorscalling · 17/08/2024 13:44

mazxim · 17/08/2024 13:43

Backstory: He himself reported someone on the chat for using the N word when it was used against him. So for him to then post the meme, I think is not appropriate.

you jumped the shark there.

Its nowhere near similar to using the n word.

Saltedbutter · 17/08/2024 13:44

Can you explain your issue with it?
Do you find it racist? Or do you also have issues with him posting memes of white people? Just trying to get some context as you’ve given very little.

abracadabra1980 · 17/08/2024 13:44

StSwithinsDay · 17/08/2024 13:40

He's 11. He shouldn't be on WhatsApp for starters.

This.

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