to tell son NOT to post memes of black people

I was thinking Mr Bombastic too 😆 and Mr Loverman - Shabba!

Absolutely not ok to post racist memes and your are right to stop your son from reposting them, though I understand it was sent from his racist friend.

All blood is red.

I have an 11yo.

We allow WhatsApp

BUT we have very strict provisos in place (only allowed to be on small group chats / we check phone daily / only allowed to share pictures with family / not allowed to use the status function / only allowed to be on WhatsApp with established friends etc) . If he breaks any rules then WhatsApp is gone.

If my DC was arguing with me about something I've told him not to post then WhatsApp is deleted. End of.

I can’t fathom how it’s racist?

You totally agree he shouldn't be on WhatsApp... yet you allow him on WhatsApp...

In what way is it racist? Because it’s a black person? Because there is plenty of white people in pics doing this also. Or is there some meaning behind it I’m unaware of? I thought it meant look of disapproval, disgust or judgement.

He said what if I posted a white person. I said you need to understand the history of black people, and you shouldn't post just because others do.

Why didn't you answer his question?

Sorry, you say, of your son: "he himself reported someone for using the N word when it was used against him".

The N word was used against your son?

As a parent of mixed-race kids, I find this notion that white people basically shouldn't get involved in anything to do with any non-white culture one of the most concerning developments of the last 20 years.

Are you able to explain it then, because OP isnt making any sense at all, her responses dont make any sense.

The meme is the side-eye, not the black person. If anyone is being racist it is you by "othering".

I genuinely don’t understand how that is racist. There may be some memes that are racist but not that one, surely?

"it's not" what?

I am not suggesting that the concept of "side eye" is inherently a racist one. I am saying that maybe OP feels this particular meme plays into a stereotype about black people being aggressive - so a joke about black people giving particularly potent (bombastic) side-eye could, potentially, be seen as racist/offensive?

I don't know. It wouldn't have immediately struck me as racist I must admit. But I am not black, so I am not one of the people most likely to be sensitive to, and offended by, racism, and am therefore happy to take my cues regarding the matter from those who are.

Is there anybody on here who is willing to say they are black (I know not everybody likes sharing details about themselves - that's understandable) and tell us whether or not they would find it racist personally? As those are the opinions I am most interested in really.... I think white people debating whether a meme about black people is offensive to black people is a bit of a racist concept in itself! And admittedly I am currently part of it....

Of course I have no idea whether you are all white. I perhaps erroneously assume that at least some of you are

Absolutely ridiculous.

Yet GreyTS said · Today 13:56

Gotta love white people, always jumping in to tell people shit is not racist 🙄 my friend is black and she doesn't find that racist.....same on a thread the other day, Irish people explaining calmly why a saying was offensive but no you all know better, your Irish grandmother/ friend/partner think it's hilarious. Honestly you Brits are literally violently racist, just say you don't give a shit and stop trying to justify yourselves and your language towards minorities

So which is it? Should white people get offended for black people and "jump in" or not??!

Or should they just shut up and not have an opinion? Either way appears wrong

OP, don't you sound a bit racist?

'Meme of a Black person and bombastic side eye, MUST be racist' - people can post memes of people of others ethnicities and skin colours.

There's a great one of that kid doing the unimpressed face - been around for years (as has the bombastic side eye one, if I am right about the one you are referring to). Are you telling us that the only people who have unimpressed faces are white people and therefore only white children can post that meme (by the logic you are displaying on this thread).

TBH I feel quite sorry for your kid. It's Summer. All his friends are travelling so he's alone and his mum gives him 15 minutes twice a week to talk to his friends. He's 11 ffs. Imagine how isolating that is. Poor kid.

The bombastic side-eye meme isn't racist, can be used for anyone and indeed even animals like pp have shown, dd used to like taking pics of our dog giving the side eye look and making them into gifs etc, that was a while ago now, Seem to hear / see more about giving the side eye now rather than the bombastic part being used.

Op I wouldn't have a problem with this one, but I would have a big issue with him having friends who use the n word, I'd have a heart to heart about that with him. Had this with dd's a while ago, sadly it's all over their sm and so many kids using the word. She asked me why it was ok to say if you're black but not if you're white. She understood enough to get how offensive it is, she can't stop others using it unfortunately, I was really shocked and felt like we've taken a huge step back with kids and casual but obvs not casual racism, slurs etc in recent years. It's all over Tiktok Snapchat etc and in their day to day lives with other young people. We can ban or limit access to apps, but when it comes to friends and generally other young people they come into contact with, we can't control what others say or do. All I could do was have a big heart to heart and discussion with dd about it, and the other popular slur at the time to call anyone behaving in a weird or geeky way Autistic. I'm autistic and so is dd btb. Hate the way some of this language is being used and always seems to stem from the sm apps and platforms. Then some kids see it as the norm. Wish we could go back in time sometimes. But that's a different topic!

He’s already accused her of trying to separate him from his friends . Tweens and teens can be incredibly forceful and manipulative in their quest to be on social media. I wouldn’t kick the OP for that.

Giving the side eye as a black person is not racist it is cultural and exceptionally funny. Your son got it right.

And what about the black people saying it's not racist?

*some Brits are violently racist. They are massively condemned as we have seen

"You Brits" is bordering on Xenophobia

Never use the n word though. It would get you expelled from school before you finished saying the world. It could get you cancelled in 50 years times. Who knows.

Firstly, continuing to interact with people who think it's okay to use the N word showing a black person dancing is a problem. No wonder the water is muddled when those people are still tolerated or "friends" afterwards. If he's tolerating it, he's accepting it. I'd teach your son the phrase "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are".

Secondly, using the side eye meme isn't racist if you're using it like every other meme or gif to convey what you're doing. In this case, to convey that you're giving someone the side eye. It doesn't matter the race of the person in the meme/gif.

Using the side eye meme is only racist if you're using the image of that person as a joke because of their race.

Are you yourselves black? My Black fb friends chose memes and things only with Black people on them. They like it

I have ladies post inspirational images on fb and they are black or mixed. So they carefully curate what they post so it is only mixed race or black women on them