DS being tricked into watching porn

[Lemonyknickers]

I have 3 kids. Middle DS is 10, quite a childish 10. He has been quiet at school the last few weeks and I put it down to end of term tiredness. However last night he had put a letter on my pillow (we sometimes do this if he has something he wants to talk to me about but feels embarrassed). It was heartbreaking.
Turns out a boy at school has been describing porn to him despite him saying he doesn't want to know. Then this boy gave him a site link, apparently it was a Roblox game site, DS typed it in and.... It was porn. DS says he can't get the images out of his head and he feels ashamed.

I've told him not to feel ashamed it wasn't deliberate, that I can't get the images out of his head but they will fade. But I don't know what to do about this other boy.
A. Do I pleasantly and politely just say to this lad not to talk porn to my son and hope the crippling embarrassment of a mum mentioning it does the job
B. Tell the school
C. Tell the boys mum
Or all 3, though boys mum is not someone I find approachable.

[SinkGirl]

Your poor boy :( Tell the school, assuming this happened at school?

[MissLingoss]

Tell the school, urgently. It's a safeguarding issue. If school is now closed for summer, send an email with 'Safeguarding ' in the subject line.

[Thedutchwife]

Oh that’s awful and actuslly agsinst the law the little shit!

Your poor son

I’d be raging and do all three. Something is going wrong in that lads life and he needs help

[Nothisispatrick]

Yes absolutley tell the school. That is really disturbing.

[Lemonyknickers]

Thank you. I know the school is closed but they give us an email that is checked daily so I will write to them.
I do actually have his teachers phone number as she is mum to my DD BFF but I don't think it's fair to mention school stuff in hols.
I am upset for him as I try very hard to talk openly to my kids about things but in an age appropriate way and what he saw has really disturbed him.

[slithytove]

Do you know what he has seen, in case any of it needs further explanation?

[Lemonyknickers]

Our internet settings are strong so we are not sure how bad the images he has seen are BUT the other boys parents split up when she found him going to pooh parties so I'm a bit afraid of what exactly he has seen.

[Lemonyknickers]

I think there is little doubt that the other boy has been through a tough time recently and I feel for him. I have tried to find the site he accessed without any luck so I think I am going to have to ask my DS to describe it to me, I was hoping to avoid that

[Lemonyknickers]

That's obviously the boys dad going to pooh parties not the boy!

[OtherUsername]

What is a pooh party?!

[Nothisispatrick]

Yes what is a pooh party!

[Imstickingwiththisone]

Urban dictionary says its oarty where everyone is naked from waist down

[Lemonyknickers]

You do not want to know, it's bloody scarred me for life. Laxatives, glass tables..
I cannot see how DS would access such stuff on our internet so I hope its just missionary he's seen.

[BrutusMcDogface]

Pooh party?! I thought that was a typo.....

[BrutusMcDogface]

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[SleepWarrior]

Not sure what those are (the 'h' in pooh suggests a pleasant Winnie the Pooh party rather than actually poo, but guessing that's a typo).

See what the school say and go from there. Sounds like you've handled it well with you son though.

[SleepWarrior]

Cross post. Yuck.

[lynmilne65]

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

I'd be massively concerned over this other child may be you could phone the nspcc for advice?

[cricketmum84]

Definitely tell the school as soon as possible. This is a safeguarding issue especially at 10 years old.

[slithytove]

Can you find this link through search history? Or does your son have it written down

I think this important you know exactly what he saw. If it’s poo related he could be very traumatised

[Lemonyknickers]

I have asked and it appears to be vanilla sex photos. I think even with the blocks on our internet you can access GIFs and stills, so not as bad as it could have been, but still more than DS was ready to deal with.
Yes I feel for the other boy, I think I will leave the school to deal with that as I'm sure they are aware of what's gone on at his home.

(I've always spelt pooh with an h, I think poo is American? Might be wrong)

[Elliss2018]

Aww your poor boy, I'd definitely try and contact the school. Hope he's okay

[Lemonyknickers]

Thank you everyone I feel like I know how to deal with it now. I'm glad he felt he could talk to me about it, I'm just sorry he had to. Hopefully the school will deal with it properly.

(just found an old MN thread about poo and pooh, sorry if I've reopened old debates. Apparently pooh is the older spelling, and poo is more recent, so possibly poo is correct in terms of the party )