DS being tricked into watching porn

[Lemonyknickers]

I have 3 kids. Middle DS is 10, quite a childish 10. He has been quiet at school the last few weeks and I put it down to end of term tiredness. However last night he had put a letter on my pillow (we sometimes do this if he has something he wants to talk to me about but feels embarrassed). It was heartbreaking.
Turns out a boy at school has been describing porn to him despite him saying he doesn't want to know. Then this boy gave him a site link, apparently it was a Roblox game site, DS typed it in and.... It was porn. DS says he can't get the images out of his head and he feels ashamed.

I've told him not to feel ashamed it wasn't deliberate, that I can't get the images out of his head but they will fade. But I don't know what to do about this other boy.
A. Do I pleasantly and politely just say to this lad not to talk porn to my son and hope the crippling embarrassment of a mum mentioning it does the job
B. Tell the school
C. Tell the boys mum
Or all 3, though boys mum is not someone I find approachable.

[FishCanFly]

Tell the Mum! And tell the school!

[picklemepopcorn]

Try reading the post, Lol. Child was upset before the mum ever knew.

[madeyemoodysmum]

The kids was ten and it has upset him

He is too young to be exposed to that. What’s not to understand.

Anyway weird opening the tread again so see ya.

[WineGummyBear]

Zombie thread!

[ZuttZeVootEeeVro]

loliconsunite, honey, if you think porn is just naked people, you don't know what porn is.

[donajimena]

You could have picked a non zombie thread to goad on lol nice try. Get back under your rock now dear.

[PolyKit]

I feel very sorry for you then NinJin.

OP good luck x

[Lemonyknickers]

NSPCC have taken what details I have of the child and I have a reference number in case of anything further. My DS seems himself today. Thank you

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

I don't think you are a troll.

[Lemonyknickers]

I briefly mentioned poo (h) it wasn't the main subject, and I thought troll hunting was not allowed?

I did say I had concern for the other lad and was aware he was having a difficult time but I have absolutely no experience of SS or the NSPCC so was thinking more along the lines of the school giving support in terms of councilling and telling the parents. As said I've taken on board other people's opinions and will phone the NSPCC.

So thank you to the supportive people, I will contact the school and phone the NSPCC for advice.

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

Yes I think so.

For what it's worth I don't think you are a troll, but at the same time surely you can understand this is an emotive subject and this other child's home life is showing red flags for abusive behaviours?

[Lemonyknickers]

Oh was that the reason for Queens use of . ?

No not a troll, perfectly happy for people to yell it, if they searched this user name they'd not bother and MN will see that this is one of many names over several years.

I didn't even think of the NSPCC, sorry Captain Kirk for being ridiculous. Did not cross my mind to invoke SS or it would have been on the list in my initial post. Therefore when others mentioned it I asked that they really thought it was important, you know posting on a forum for other views, taken the views on board and was going with them. Standard forum stuff I thought

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

Please just ring social services, this scooting around wondering if you should do this or that is ridiculous.
You are going to get people Shouting poo troll.

[Lemonyknickers]

I don't have any contact details for the mum so I'd either have to trawl around my other contacts asking if anyone had her details or grab her in the playground, neither are subtle or ideal.

(Perhaps it IS pooh party then and they just go woozzle hunting.... )

[Arum51]

Yes, call the NSPCC.

[Imstickingwiththisone]

Oh dear i thought urban dictionarys definition of just wearing a top at a party a la winnie the pooh was odd enough.

Id go with option B and possibly C but that depends on how you think the mother would respond.

[Lemonyknickers]

I don't feel I need to react tonight, DS seems happier since telling me. The head is unusual in he has banned all phones on school premises because of unmonitored internet access, they have land lines available to students to call home so I think he will take it seriously.

All I know about father of the other boy is playground gossip so I'm not happy diving in and dealing with the mum in case it goes wrong.

Do you really feel I should contact the NSPCC directly?

[HollowTalk]

I would phone the NSPCC, OP. If you want to do something tonight you could phone your daughter's friend's mum, but the NSPCC will give you good advice.

[QueenOfMyWorld]

Split up over poo parties? Hmmmm