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OnSilverStars Tue 12-Jan-21 11:05:30

In the post today, my husband received a letter. It was hand written with his name and address on the outside. No return info. The writing in the envelope is definitely a woman's

Inside is a copy of an "essay" I googled it and it's by Robert Louise Stevenson. It called "on Marriage"

The gist of it is that marriage has lots of ups and downs and requires communication

There is nothing else. No name, just a folded print out of this essay.

Any explanation, other than my fear? I have no reason other than this to suspect anything.

YABU - don't jump to conclusions

YANBU - he's cheated.

I'm shaking. This feels so surreal. I hope I'm overreacting. He's currently at work.

Ps. We open each other's post. We think nothing of it - usually. It's always junk or bills

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IlovecatsIloveeverykindofcat Tue 12-Jan-21 11:09:34

Do you know anyone due to get married? Perhaps he's been asked to do a reading.

OnSilverStars Tue 12-Jan-21 11:10:10

Good idea. Not that I can think of but I'll hope it's that. I just feel sick. I hope I feel foolish tonight

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gingerbreadfox12 Tue 12-Jan-21 11:11:23

How on earth can you tell it's a woman's handwriting hmm

OnSilverStars Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:01

Right ok. That's helpful. Thanks.

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nimbuscloud Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:31

What do you mean - it’s a woman’s handwriting ??

LochJessMonster Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:44

Occam’s Razor - the simplest explanation is the most likely to be correct.

If he’s not actually cheated, he’s confided in someone about your marriage (and not in a positive way)

SandysMam Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:49

His mother? Does she think you have problems? Sorry you are going through this OP, I would do some digging now he is at work before he knows, see if you can find anything else.

3rdNamechange Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:52

I wouldn't open a hand written letter.
There's no way you can tell the sex of a writer.
Why don't you phone him and ask ?
I'd be suspicious seems odd.

vodkaredbullgirl Tue 12-Jan-21 11:12:53


Needahug72 Tue 12-Jan-21 11:13:26

Could be a letter from Jehovah Witnesses we got one last week about the meek possessing the earth.

They seem to be sending letters to random addresses as my mum received one a couple of months ago addressed to her my dad (dad had died a month earlier)

Bluntness100 Tue 12-Jan-21 11:13:36

How odd. But what a skill to be able to gender hand writing. Hats off to you on that.

Ninkanink Tue 12-Jan-21 11:14:12

I wouldn’t conclude that he’s cheated from that.

OrigamiOwl Tue 12-Jan-21 11:14:38

It's weird, but likely only your DH knows the answer to that one.
Also, how can you tell it's a womens handwriting, unless they've written "I am a women" on there?

HeyMister Tue 12-Jan-21 11:14:40

Message him!

Ninkanink Tue 12-Jan-21 11:14:46

Yes, it could very well be JW.

Onekidnoclue Tue 12-Jan-21 11:14:55

I would think- that’s weird, will be interested to hear what that’s all about later and move on. It wouldn’t occur to me that this would be some bizarre cryptic statement announcing an affair.
I’m afraid the fact you jumped to cheating as the explanation makes me think there’s more going on. Have there been other clues?

LaBellina Tue 12-Jan-21 11:16:06

Sorry OP but unless it's a very weird kind of joke, I would also suspect cheating.
Have you noticed anything strange in his behavior lately? Or is this coming out of the blue? If you want to start looking for evidence, I would do it now, before he comes home. I genuinely hope that I'm wrong here but this doesn't look good.

Choice4567 Tue 12-Jan-21 11:16:12

Have you asked him?

OnSilverStars Tue 12-Jan-21 11:16:14

For everyone asking how I can tell it's a woman's handwriting. I'm sorry. In a really needy moment rejoice in your ability to have a "gotcha" moment.

It looks like a stereotypical woman's handwriting. I know that's not woke. Sorry.

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YippeeKayakOtherBuckets Tue 12-Jan-21 11:16:18

My first thought was a culty church or JW.

We used to live down the road from a Brethren church and some of those people were intense.

Redcherries Tue 12-Jan-21 11:16:34

Lots of people round here had hand written personally addressed letters like this, I believe it was JW.

emilyfrost Tue 12-Jan-21 11:17:05

If you’re so open with each other that you’re invading his privacy by opening his post then just ask him, either via text, call or wait till he gets home.

And you have no idea it’s a woman’s handwriting.

cantsleepwontsleep1 Tue 12-Jan-21 11:17:17

Yes my guess is Jehovah Witnesses. We received something similar in the post and it was handwritten.

whoamongstus Tue 12-Jan-21 11:17:45

Seems odd to jump to cheating as a conclusion with no other context, is there anything else going on?

I second (third?) the JW explanation.

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