My husband received something very strange in the post ...

[OnSilverStars]

In the post today, my husband received a letter. It was hand written with his name and address on the outside. No return info. The writing in the envelope is definitely a woman's

Inside is a copy of an "essay" I googled it and it's by Robert Louise Stevenson. It called "on Marriage"

The gist of it is that marriage has lots of ups and downs and requires communication

There is nothing else. No name, just a folded print out of this essay.

Any explanation, other than my fear? I have no reason other than this to suspect anything.

YABU - don't jump to conclusions

YANBU - he's cheated.

I'm shaking. This feels so surreal. I hope I'm overreacting. He's currently at work.

Ps. We open each other's post. We think nothing of it - usually. It's always junk or bills

I wouldn't be calling in the lawyers, but I would show the letter to dh and ask him if he knows anything about it. His response should give you the information you need to know.

I am not sure I would have the energy to care that much if I were you. It is a letter, probably from some religious group and nothing to worry about.

How odd not to be able to identify a stereotypical handwriting of a woman. Surely most people can.

I'm enjoying reading about all the people receiving letters from JV on twitter, my favourite so far is between the woman who received a letter written in Hindi because they've assumed she can read it based on her name (she can't), and the one who received a letter telling them to rejoice because we are in the end days.

We had a handwritten letter in the last few days about ‘pandemic fatigue‘ it included some bible quotes and ended with an invitation to join a local congregation. No denomination detailed though. It was addressed to our home address to ‘The occupiers’ but a neighbour was addressed by name on hers, so I assume they’re naming the people they know in them and using Them occupier’ for all others. Sounds like a mass religious recruitment thing going on to me if other people have been receiving similar. Could it be something like this?

We open each others mail, we have the same letter for our Christian name and the mail doesn't always say.Mr or Mrs so we have to open each others stuff. Going back to JW, wouldn't they address it to both of you and not just your DH?

Yes I received a handwritten letter from the Jehovah's Witness as they cannot call to the doors.
Only for it said 'if you are questioning why God is punishing us' I'd have thought it was some old geezer asking for people to contact him for a nice chat.

I think my writing is the kind you'd assume to be female. Big, kinda curvy fat letters? A bit like my arse. In a previous job I had to go through shit loads of mail each day and I never came across male handwriting that had a similar style to mine. So could be a thing?

If it was JW wouldn't it have something on it to show it was from them?

Do stop the smug 'woke' bashing OP. It isn't woke to make a point of not being sexist, it's just basic rational behaviour and decency.

If you think it looks 'girly' then you must assume it's from a woman then. I hardly think the JW in Tyneside are sending out marital propaganda in personalised envelopes just to your DP having sourced his name and address and taken the time to pay for postage. Does he know anyone that way or work there?

If it is something relating to a warning about cheating he is hardly going to admit it off the back of a random letter either. Presumably either way he will report he can't imagine where it's from, agree it's all very odd and that'll be that.

Just call him and stop opening each other's post, its weird.

Does he have any links to Tyneside? I'd probably start with that? Surely you'd know if he's been invited to a wedding and been asked to do a reading?

I'm a suspicious sort so at the moment I'd be thinking the worst

Best and most likely case scenario, it's the JWs.

Worst case scenario, he's having some sort of affair.

My handwriting looks confusingly like both FiL and DBro. Must be engineer’s writing.

I can generally correctly sex someone’s handwriting. I thought most people could.

Seems to be a thing that scientists look at too.
www.ijcrr.com/uploads/1640_pdf.pdf

This journal article concluded that sex can be correctly identified from handwriting.

For the OP I would be inclined to wait and talk to your dh. It sounds too bizarre to be suspicious.

It’s a known fact that you can gender handwriting. So ignore that bullshit for a start.

I totally agree about the Jehovah Witness or some other religious group thing. There are so many ways to obtain names and addresses of people. Because you’re not allowed to go knocking just now they are sending out all kinds of stuff and as soon as they are allowed to come over they’ll be there having planted a seed in the head of whoever is vulnerable at the moment, so that they can be “saved”.

Please try not to worry OP, until you’ve spoken to DH.

I think it’s from JW too. I had something similar addressed to me a while ago. As I threw it in the bin I wondered about how much it was costing them in postage!

We had a handwritten letter recently and it was from the Church of Jehovah although it did say that when it was signed off (obviously that’s how I know).
If he knows nothing about it and you have no other suspicions, I wouldn’t worry about it.

I've had some hand written letters from the JW recently, but never addressed to me by name..... just "the householder"...

I'd say jw too

Elbels- Johovs model their behaviour on jesus, so they often dont do it just to advertise the organisation, they're just preaching. Finding an essay on google (as it seems they have as you get the same essay if you type in essays or quotes on marraige) seems like an obvious way of doing that.

Was it something like this?

@OnSilverStars I do think you can OFTEN tell someone's gender from their handwriting. However, in this case I don't think its about being "woke" when people question it. Because you cant always tell, and many men do have more "feminine" handwriting for a variety of reasons, I dont think you can say it definately is from a woman, or consider it potential evidence of an affair. I would try to think about why you think it is definately from a woman, since that might actually be your intuition telling you something or it might be a particular insecurity - I don'tknow but either way you reaction is more of a clue than the handwriting.

Omg. I’m going to start sending these to random blokes. Brilliant.

Weird. I'd ask the neighbours if they've received similar letters too, say something along the lines that you think someone has sent it to you in error and you just wanted to check if they've had them too or expecting anything like this. This should give you an idea if it's definitely one off to your husband or someone targeting the neighbourhood.

Just a thought, it has crossedmy mind - a stalker?

You seem to be ignoring every poster suggesting a simple obvious answer of religious organisation random posting. Seems the most obvious answer to me. And if he had cheated she problems just would have written or posted it to you if she was going to post anything at all.