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To think that it is up to me what I do when my child in swimming lesson.

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swimmingmum6 Mon 09-Sep-19 15:55:20

My children have swimming lessons at a lovely local swim school. The groups are small. Teacher is with 3-4 children in pool, parents poolside but not involved in lesson. I enjoy watching but also chatting to the other parents and answering the odd email so that I don't have to do it when my children are in bed, or when I'm properly with them.

Just had this posted on Facebook page. AIBU to dislike the tone? I'm not glued to my phone, look up and encourage frequently but I am also a working mum who gets little space in the daytime and reserve the right to catch up with a couple of emails while my child is in the pool supervised and learning.

The post reads:
Recently I have noticed a sharp increase in the use of mobile phones and tablets on poolside during our lessons.

Understanding how busy our lives are parents can be, I would like to trial our poolsides as ‘Digital free’ zones.

I would like to give you all permission to step out of your hectic day whilst your child is swimming with us by turning your phone off or onto silent.

It is wonderful to see a child encouraged and supported by their parent/Carer poolside when they have achieved something new or master a skill they have been working on. These shared experiences will create memories of their precious early years.

I am hoping by giving you permission to delay writing that email or text will enable you to relax, focus on quality time with your child and create a closer ** (name of swimschool) Community!

If you have a sibling waiting for their lesson or their brother/sister why not encourage them to watch, pick up additional teaching points or bring a book or homework to do.

Should you have a pressing matter to attend to or need to make an urgent call, please may I ask you to step out of the pool to do this when swimming with us.

I would appreciate your thoughts on this idea, so please do respond to this post with a 👍🏼 or ❤️ or comment below.

With much love and many thanks,
(Name of swimschool teacher)

What do you think?

Wildorchidz Mon 09-Sep-19 15:56:48

Good on them.

TulipsTwoLips Mon 09-Sep-19 15:57:19

I find it well intentioned but patronising.

ConstanzaAndSalieri Mon 09-Sep-19 15:57:25


Our pool has a no phones at the poolside rule (no photos allowed) which is explainable, but that is just ridiculous...

Loopytiles Mon 09-Sep-19 15:58:03

Swimschool teacher’s email is v annoying.

In your shoes I would sit outside for most of the lesson!

If she wants to ban phones from poolside for safeguarding purposes (our swimschool does), then she should state this.

MyDcAreMarvel Mon 09-Sep-19 15:58:05

I totally agree with the swimming teacher , lessons are what 30 minutes.

smemorata Mon 09-Sep-19 15:58:37

Ooh that would piss me right off! grin Swimming lessons are not interesting for anyone else and like you I use them to catch up on emails and chat to friends. Nothing wrong with that!

MrsMozartMkII Mon 09-Sep-19 15:58:43

It sounds fine to me.

Be in the moment with the child and the lesson.

hammeringinmyhead Mon 09-Sep-19 15:59:07

It is wonderful to see a child encouraged and supported by their parent/Carer poolside when they have achieved something new or master a skill they have been working on. These shared experiences will create memories of their precious early years.

This is incredibly patronising. I don't really think you are able to focus on "quality time" with your child in a swimming less if you are several feet away and they're supposed to be paying attention to the teacher.

PetitTorteois Mon 09-Sep-19 15:59:17

How old are the children?

Loopytiles Mon 09-Sep-19 15:59:46

It’s the instructor’s job to be “in the moment” teaching swimming. Bet her adverts and Ts & Cs don’t state that parents should actively participate.

Simkin Mon 09-Sep-19 15:59:55

That would get right on my tits. Watching your kid in a swimming lesson is not 'quality time'. However I'd wonder if it was in response to somebody being really inconsiderate - like chatting loudly during the lessons or something?

NoSquirrels Mon 09-Sep-19 16:00:18

I don’t think they could have made the tone any more pleasant, honestly.

You don’t appreciate the message itself, but that’s different to the tone.

If you feel strongly about it you can comment, as they’ve asked for your opinion - you could say what you’ve said here, that you like to be able to focus 100% on your DC when they’re 100% in your care, and as you work flexibly to manage swim lessons, you need to be available on email so this would mean you’d need to spend most of the lesson not at poolside.

DriftingLeaves Mon 09-Sep-19 16:00:28

Sounds fine.

Daisy38 Mon 09-Sep-19 16:01:00

Our local pool doesn’t even let you in to watch the kids and you need to wait in the foyer. I’m fine with that as at the end of the day it’s my kids who are having a lesson, not me.

Jeezoh Mon 09-Sep-19 16:01:03

Watching someone teach my child to swim is not having quality time with them hmm

It’d be a thumbs down from me, I don’t need to be told how to spend my time. Banning phones to prevent photos being taken would be fine with me though as that’s a rule at swim schools near me.

MzHz Mon 09-Sep-19 16:02:02

Teacher is bang on!

Used to piss me off so much that the same parents would bag the half dozen only seats that could see the pool and the kids and then stick their noses into phones

MrGsFancyNewVagina Mon 09-Sep-19 16:02:39

I think she should be concentrating on the children under her care and less time checking out what their parents are doing.

FrauHaribo Mon 09-Sep-19 16:02:56

whoever wrote that is a patronising moron!

Loud phone conversations are annoying for everybody, fine. It's a swimming lesson, not a lifetime bonding experience - I would just ignore.

from123toabc Mon 09-Sep-19 16:03:22

Depends on the age of the kids. My DC10 swims for the county- i'm certainly not watching 3 sessions of swimming a week. I try to watch 1 session, then I go for a run during the other 2.

AmIRightOrAMeringue Mon 09-Sep-19 16:03:31

The half an hour lesson when I sit down and look at rubbish on my phones is often the only break I get all weekend (other than when the kids are asleep). I do make sure she can see me watching sometimes but most of the time she is busy swimming not looking at me! I'm also often sorting out something for her benefit (eg arranging a play date, sorting a birthday present) so I'm not being completely selfish. They can have it as a digital free zone if they wish, and I'd comply, probably by nipping out to my car if there was something I really wanted to do. But I'd feel pretty resentful of them trying to dictate what I do in my limited free time. Swimming lessons arent really something where you need to be fully present and interacting with your child, in my opinion

LochJessMonster Mon 09-Sep-19 16:03:47

Well intentioned but patronising.
Should have skipped all the stuff about ' would like to give you all permission to step out of your hectic day' blah blah and just said the poolside will be a digital free zone.

But I agree with the sentiment, you might not be on your phone all the time but others might be, and the teachers probably sees the children look towards their parent when they have done something good, only for the parent to have missed it.

TomHagenMakesMyBosomTremble Mon 09-Sep-19 16:03:48

Well meaning but incredibly patronising. Especially since you're using the time your dc are swimming to do work/admin so that you have "quality time" with them afterwards. I'd say that & then pointedly step outside with your phone.

BeanBag7 Mon 09-Sep-19 16:04:35

I dont disagree with the idea of a tech-free poolside area, however I would be annoyed by the wording of the message.

I would like to give you all permission to step out of your hectic day how patronising and sanctimonious.

Why dont they just say "we would like to encourage parents to be more involved in their child's swimming lessons. Therefore we will be trialling a "no phone zone" poolside from next week. If you have an important call to make we ask that you step outside to do so. Many thanks"

BarbedBloom Mon 09-Sep-19 16:04:37

This wouldn't be okay for me. I think it is patronising and may just end up with most parents waiting outside. I have a few friends who use this time to catch up with things so they can have quality time with their child when they get home.

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