To steal a baby name?

(288 Posts)
Maggie24715 Thu 28-Jun-18 20:50:10

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

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divadee Thu 28-Jun-18 20:50:55

No one owns a name.... but, I think it's a pretty shitty thing to do. Would you like it done to you?

Boredandtired Thu 28-Jun-18 20:51:14

I'm sorry but that would be really mean.

JessambardKingdomBrunel Thu 28-Jun-18 20:52:03

did you already like it before she mentioned it, or was it her mentioning it to you that made you think of it for the first time?

If the second, it's a bit of a shitty thing to do

Hengine Thu 28-Jun-18 20:52:32

Is it an unusual name?

restingbemusedface Thu 28-Jun-18 20:53:59

Oh please don’t. Yes no one owns a name blah blah blah but it’s shitty of you. You know that otherwise you wouldn’t be asking.

elQuintoConyo Thu 28-Jun-18 20:54:01

It would be a shitty thing to do

Petalflowers Thu 28-Jun-18 20:56:01

No one owns a name. However, normally mn gets posts from people who have said they have loved a name since childhood, disclosed it to a friend/ cousin/ relative, and now that person has used the name.

If you have loved the name for years, then use it. If not, then don’t.

DramaAlpaca Thu 28-Jun-18 20:56:57

I don't think you can 'steal' the name of a baby who hasn't even been conceived yet, and who might be a different sex from yours anyway confused

You don't see them often, they probably have different surnames. It's fine.

user1493413286 Thu 28-Jun-18 20:57:33

Unless you already liked it and had thought of it then I think it’s a bit of a rubbish thing to do

Feilin Thu 28-Jun-18 20:58:07

Id ask her. My cousin wanted to name his son after my dad and did the very polite thing of asking I said yes of course because if I had a boy they would be at different schools different ages etc etc. Some people are precious however .

DrinkReprehensibly Thu 28-Jun-18 20:58:27

Is she definitely going to use it? Perhaps talk to her... Maybe she's gone off it now? If she still definitely wants it, I wouldn't.

ArmySal Thu 28-Jun-18 20:58:34

Shitty shitty.

likeacrow Thu 28-Jun-18 20:58:59

I know someone who called their DS Zander after their best mate called theirs Xander...
I wouldn't do it and wouldn't like it done to me!

Fruitcorner123 Thu 28-Jun-18 20:59:39

don't do that. There is more than one nice name. This would be mean and so unecessary

TroubledLichen Thu 28-Jun-18 20:59:58

No one owns a name but imagine this the other way around; you’re TTC but as of yet no luck, you tell a family member that you’re trying and that you love a particular name for when you do have hopefully have a baby, next thing you know the family member has given her own baby that name. I expect you’d be really upset, as would anyone. So in the interest of being a decent person and not having your DH’s family hate you, you should find another name.

sakura06 Thu 28-Jun-18 21:00:59

I think it would be very insensitive as they're struggling to conceive. Sorry.

BlueBug45 Thu 28-Jun-18 21:01:09

You can't steal a baby name but can cause family resentment for about 3-5 years with your cousin if you named your child her favourite name as its firstnane. Give your child that name as a middle name if you want to use it.

LolaLilo Thu 28-Jun-18 21:03:49

Depends on the name. If it's very common then use it.

ifeelsoextraordinary Thu 28-Jun-18 21:04:50

It’s pretty mean. She is guaranteed to be upset about it even if she doesn’t show it.

Cakepop9 Thu 28-Jun-18 21:05:46

It would be mean of you and I think the whole family would never let you forget it!

MaggieFS Thu 28-Jun-18 21:07:37

Not great, unless it's relatively common anyway. Or ask her.

Amanduh Thu 28-Jun-18 21:07:53

Yes yabu and a twat

flumpybear Thu 28-Jun-18 21:08:23

So they're ttc yet you've got your lovely baby and nicking their name too ... bit mean!

Sheheremard Thu 28-Jun-18 21:08:33

Yeah that would make you a massive arsehole, sorry

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