To ask about leaving children home alone?

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ThisLittleKitty Sat 03-Mar-18 17:15:21

Whats the youngest you would leave a child home alone to pop to the shops? I know everyone's area is different so shops will be further away, but just looking for a general idea.

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zzzzz Sat 03-Mar-18 17:16:46

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Blackteadrinker77 Sat 03-Mar-18 17:18:42

Mine were 13, 11 and 9 the first time I left them.

Were very rural though so it means over 45 minutes alone.

childmindingmumof3 Sat 03-Mar-18 17:20:06

I would leave my 7.5 year old up to 20 minutes I think, but as I have younger children it has never come up.

ghostyslovesheets Sat 03-Mar-18 17:23:15

10 I think

I leave my 9 year old but only when one of her sisters are here (13 and 15)

heron98 Sat 03-Mar-18 17:23:40

I would say 7

couchparsnip Sat 03-Mar-18 17:24:00

It depends on the child. I left DS at 9 as he is really sensible but DD is 10 and I would still not leave her as she has no impulse control.

WishingOnABar Sat 03-Mar-18 17:25:33

Ds is 8 and I can leave him for 20 minutes to pop to the shop, wouldn’t let him out alone though. Totally depends on your child

Aprilmightmemynewname Sat 03-Mar-18 17:25:37

Dd's 11+12 but not ds 9 unless ds 16is home

arethereanyleftatall Sat 03-Mar-18 17:26:32


AuditAngel Sat 03-Mar-18 17:27:20

DS is 13, we started leaving for short periods from 9, DD1 turns 11 this month, again from 9. DD2 is 7, we haven't left her alone yet, I leave her with DS for a couple of hours, but only for very short periods with DD1.

backaftera2yearbreak Sat 03-Mar-18 17:27:40

Left my 8 year old for a wee while yesterday. But I live in a cul de sac where he could approach neighbours for help.

formerbabe Sat 03-Mar-18 17:28:27

My eldest will turn 10 this month and no way would I leave him home alone.

Maybe I'll reconsider when he turns 11.

ThisLittleKitty Sat 03-Mar-18 17:30:05

Ok a lot older than I though.

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ThisLittleKitty Sat 03-Mar-18 17:31:38

Former babe all the children I know round here go to school alone from 11 so could go to the shops themselves by that age, so 11 seems late for not leaving them to go to the shop yourself.

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formerbabe Sat 03-Mar-18 17:31:52

I would say 7


strawberrie Sat 03-Mar-18 17:33:37

I’ve started leaving DD (almost 9) home alone for 20 mins or so at a time while I drop younger DS to a club.
Our rules are that she’s to stay out of the kitchen, and I make sure she’s got the phone to hand. Plus we live in a tenement building and she knows that she can pop into a neighbour within the building if she needs anything.
She’s usually still staring at the same screen when I get back. I wouldn’t leave her with DS (6) though.

stitchglitched Sat 03-Mar-18 17:34:26

I've recently starting leaving my 9 year old alone for 20-30 minutes whilst I drop younger DC to preschool. He has a phone and can call me if there is an issue.

Winosaurus Sat 03-Mar-18 17:35:21

My DD is 8, the shop is 100m from our house and I still wouldn’t leave her alone to pop over to it.
I wouldn’t even entertain the thought until she’s in Yr6

DowntonCrabby Sat 03-Mar-18 17:35:22

Age 10- we'd start to leave DD for 15-30 mins, up to 8pm-ish.
She's now 13 and we'd happily leave her for 5-6 hours, most times of day but not late night as long as she could contact us and one of us could be home within 15 minutes if she wasn't happy.
She's very mature, sensible and responsible. I can't imagine leaving my DS until he's maybe 35!!

Longdistance Sat 03-Mar-18 17:36:19

My dd is 8. I’ve mentioned about leaving her to pick up dd2 who’s 6 from Rainbows, which is in the next road. She wasn’t keen, but hey ho. I wouldn’t want her to be frightened.
She has asked about staying in the car whilst we’re at the supermarket, which I’ve said no to, as it’s a public place, not our home.

Ilovehamabeads Sat 03-Mar-18 17:37:36

I leave my ds9 alone for 15 mins most mornings whilst dropping older dc at school. He's sensible and just gets himself dressed and fed. Only just started letting him walk home from school by himself though, he seems less sensible when messing with his friends at the school gate!

arethereanyleftatall Sat 03-Mar-18 17:39:36

A friend of mine used to leave her babies to pop ten mins to shop, in their cots.

She'd unplug everything so no fire.

Her theory was they couldn't hurt themselves, so it was fine.

She stopped when they could climb out of cots.

(I'm not saying I agree with this!)

WinonaIsHot Sat 03-Mar-18 17:40:33


IJustLostIt Sat 03-Mar-18 17:41:00

My kids aren't old enough to entertain going to the bathroom on my own (though not through choice), but I was left for an hour here and there from 10 years old.
I was fairly sensible, had DM/DFs numbers written down. We had good neighbours too so I could always go next door if there was an emergency.

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