To expect wedding guests to book a room at the hotel we've booked for exclusive use not the hotel down the road

[maggiethemagpie]

So we're getting married.... we have booked an exclusive use hotel which means we will be charged for all rooms that are not filled. The wedding is on a Sunday so quite a few guests are going home on the Sunday night and not staying over. That I don't have a problem with. But one couple have booked two nights in the sister hotel to our hotel (so similar prices) as they could not book a room on the Saturday (as it is being used for another wedding). Despite knowing we will have to pay for all the rooms in 'our' hotel they are refusing to move hotels as they don't want the inconvenience.

I probably am BU as I know it was our choice to take the risk of an exclusive, and they can stay wherever they want, but as we will likely not fill more than half of the rooms we are facing a massive bill now (like 1.5k) and it just seems a bit unfair if they're staying in the sister hotel down the road just because they can't /don't want to move on the morning of the wedding.

Really wish I had not booked an exclusive venue now, especially on a Sunday night.

[garlicbreathing]

Yes you are BU.

You can't dictate where people stay. You should have thought more carefully about who would be filling the rooms before you booked exclusive use.

Is there any way of speaking with the hotel to release some of the rooms back to public sale?

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Yabu. You can't dictate where people stay. They are travelling and paying to go to your wedding, you can't expect them to start shifting hotels!

Are you actually being serious?

[44PumpLane]

YABVVVU- they are paying to stay over to come to your wedding, they can stay wherever they want. I wouldn't want the inconvenience of checking out on the wedding morning and checking back in again later in the day to effectively save you some money.

I'm sorry but your fault for booking exclusive use, you can't have a problem with anyone who doesn't stay or who stays elsewhere!

[YoureAllABunchOfBastards]

YABU. Unless this is a reverse.

[ProcrastinatorGeneral]

Totally unreasonable I'm afraid.

[witsender]

Got to be a reverse. Otherwise, massively unreasonable.

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

YABU

Their choice wher they stay and it's easier staying in one hotel for two nights then arsing about checking out of one and hanging around to check in to another

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

This is the first time I've honestly thought a thread is a reverse.

[SweetieDrops]

I'd have done the same as them tbh. Moving from one hotel to the other would be a pain in the arse on the wedding day itself given you usually can't get into your hotel room until after 12.

[EatDessertFirst]

YABU I'm afraid. It was your choice to book an exclusive use venue and you cannot dictate where people stay. To be honest, a lot of people would be back to work/school on the Monday so staying the Sunday night would not be possible. I wouldn't want to be faffing with moving hotels on the morning of the event either.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Yep yabu

[PlaymobilPirate]

Yabu and totally ridiculous. Who can be arsed packing and unpacking twice??

[MaidOfStars]

Were you going to recoup costs from the guests? Or have you not been charged with rooms inclusive?

[EarlyInTheMourning]

YABU and that's it

[wonkylegs]

Unfortunatly it's the risk you take. You really can't dictate what other people are paying for.
We ended up with guests in lots of hotels as the one we had our wedding in was a) not big enough and b) quite expensive so lots of our friends couldn't afford it and opted for the travel lodge nearby. We purposely paid for the rooms of the wedding party (bridesmaids, groomsmen) because it was convenient for us to have them at the same hotel and therefore if we wanted that we felt we had to pay for it.

[Bishybishybarnabee]

Yabu - they can stay wherever they want,

[MaidOfStars]

Posted too soon. We had exclusive use plus rooms to fill - we allocated them early.

[NNalreadyinuse]

I dont know why they wouldn't swop - they have to leave their hotel on Sunday morning to attend your wedding and then presumably travel from your hotel to theirs on Sunday night. It would be massively more convenient for them to stay at yours, they could drink and not worry about taxis etc.

That said, it's their choice. But I see why you are upset.

[AnyFucker]

Yabu to have a Sunday wedding and expect non-local people to attend in the first place, tbh

[CornishDoll82]

What's a 'reverse'v

[NNalreadyinuse]

Oh, I hadn't thought about check out/check in times. Assumed they could go straight from one to the other.

[MadHattersWineParty]

Jesus. Are you serious? Or doing that annoying reverse thing?

It's lovely when guests go to your wedding and share the day with you. You can't dictate where they bloody stay.

Two nights in a hotel would be a massive chunk of mine and DP's income to attend a wedding. It'd leave a pretty sour taste of we got it in the neck for not staying in your chosen hotel.