i'll get flamed but why are stay home mothers so smug?

[wombleprincess]

this is not a thread about the pros and cons of working/not working, i just wonder if anyone finds that stay at home mothers are really smug about the choice they've made? or is it just my experience? cant they just live and let live? I dont judge them, but they seem to be very judgemental about working mothers.

anyway, a friday topic for anyone at work trying to get through the day perhaps!!

I must be mixing in the wrong circles because I have yet to meet any smug mums. Lots of tired, stressed, knackered mums but no smug ones.

FWIW cats are the smuggest, end of.

snurk

The only smug SAHM I know have the sort of personality that they are smug whatever they are doing.

They were smug at school, they were smug at uni, smug in first job etc. If they had decided to WOH rather than SAH they would've been smug about that instead.

If they ever end up divorced (god forbid) they will spend their time smugly telling me how free they are and how tiring it must be playing the wifely role looking after some tired old bloke.

So maybe you just mix with a lot of smug people!!

LOLOL pagwatch.

I did used to have a pair of the long gloves. My dad was a cow vet, hence opportunity to practice. I wonder where they are now....

I'm off to the icecream farm now. They have lemurs and owls. I think it's an even match with the lemur but I'm buggered with the owl. There is no way I can mentally project a long glove moment with an owl.

I don't know any smug SAHMs, only broke, knackered ones.

I am a WAHM (yes that is right, I work at home) and couldn't be less smug about it - it's a very difficult balancing act but I am only too aware how lucky i am to have the kind of work that allows me to work from home.

no lamas not lemurs.

even if you wear the gloves please do wash your hands before the ice cream.

I don't get this. In real life I've never known any clash between SAHMs and WOHMs - but it comes up all the time on MN.

slubber - if you fancy a challenge, I'm feeding a friend's guinea pigs. There are 4 of them. I could line them up on a broom head and poke it over the fence so you could have a quadruple porcine stare-down if you so feel the urge.

ooh bramble, is this next door? the dds love the guinea pigs. Can we come and feed with you? Opportunity to big myself up pre owl face off.

I haven't met anyone in rl who has sounded at all smug about whether they work or don't. They all seem a live and let live bunch. Who cares? I don't.

Mind you, who knows what they come online and say

I have seen loads more conflict on here about things I never dreamed it was possible to have an argument about. The anonymity aspect sometimes appears to bring out the worst.

i know what a wahm is and a sahm but whats a wohm .

I work part time 3 days and am also self employed full time so what am i? Am i perhaps a wahmaptwwifkbntptb?

(work at home mum and part time worker who is f*** knackered but need to pay the bills?) (is there a shortened version??)

ROLF I love you nappy.
So the 'opposing' categories working at home mum and staying at home mum ?
I am a staying at home mum as I am idle.

what do you call working mums ?

smug? not so much. skint? oh yes very. (me!)

oh bugger, I hate when I post and then go back and read the thread and realise that it is two threads in one, one being a complete piss take!
I think camels are the smuggest animals - and they can spit in your eye if you try to stare them down!

pass ermmm busy?
really pag - i feel all warm now

really this perennial debating and name calling and opining is divisive.why should any one get their drawers in a fankle over what another parent choses

oh WP you post thread calling sahm smug but say you are not judging.you are actually.

MN is polluted with SAHM/Working/nursery toxic name calling shit

cant we just leave it be and accept what is right for one parent does not necessarily suit another parent

i work FT and habitually see threads deriding nursery, slating working mums. sad actually

so no i don think it is right to generalise about sahm or working mums

we all do what we have to do

yy scottishmummy but whats your position on the goat/cow/swan debate? (patently ignoring the guinea pigs who are frankly a bit of a waste of space)

Camels also have lovely eyelashes...

My guinea pigs are very smug. I am going to be reincarnated as one.

LOL yes to the really pertinent points!well being an urban lass never really pondered positions with goat/cow/swan - how positioned are you talking?

when i lie on my back i do pass remarkable lookey like camel with 2 humps big bumps

eyelashes are enhanced by lashings of mascara

I wouldnt say guinea pigs were a waste of space - mine are darn fine lawn trimmers....

Brilliant thread -
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