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OH had an affair with a member of staff. Can he fire her?

154 replies

RealCoralQuail · 27/12/2024 11:13

My OH recently had an affair with a member of staff ie someone he employed. She works in a very close environment where they can’t easily escape each other. What can be done, legally? I’m in pieces every time he leaves for work. Can he sack her? Could I dismiss her if I became a director?

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Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 27/12/2024 11:15

Yes, absolutely.
The money she'd get from her lawsuit would no doubt come in very handy for her.

Sirzy · 27/12/2024 11:16

Why don’t you sack him and then get on with your life!

Snowmanscarf · 27/12/2024 11:16

Why aren’t you sacking him?

Frankie412 · 27/12/2024 11:16

OH needs to get a lawyer involved - he’s on tricky ground here.

UndeniablyGenXmasOfAWomblingMerryType · 27/12/2024 11:18

Can you let me know when the tribunal findings are published - it will be an interesting read?

NancyJoan · 27/12/2024 11:18

What on earth are you talking about? Of course not! He just has to be completely professional, and you need to decide if you still want to be with a man who cheats and takes advantage of an employee.

HotBath · 27/12/2024 11:18

Fire her for what? Her unprofessional behaviour?

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 27/12/2024 11:19

Jesus christ, your priorities are all wrong.

He's cheated and your looking at ways to make his life easier at work so you don't have to deal with the reality of who he is.

If its not this woman it will be another and another so she doesn't really matter, it's your OH who's the cheating cunt with no morals.

SpicyMarge · 27/12/2024 11:19

I work in this area and this is a case I’d love to handle.

Hope she takes your husband to the cleaners.

HeyPrestoVinegar · 27/12/2024 11:19

Dump the boyfriend, enjoy life free of a lying loser.

Morechocmorechoc · 27/12/2024 11:19

So she loses her job because he's a nasty piece of cheating you know what. I dont think so.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 27/12/2024 11:19

Don't be ridiculous of course he can't. She would need to leave voluntarily.

itsgettingweird · 27/12/2024 11:20

Why is it her you want to sack?

I'd be spending my money on a lawyer to protect my financial interests in the divorce rather than risk that money being paid out for an unfair dismissal trial and compensation.

You cannot sack someone because your husband cheated. 🙄

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 27/12/2024 11:21

Why should she have to pay the price for his stupidity, infidelity and lack of professionalism?

Why don't you bin him instead?

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/12/2024 11:21

Sack her for what exactly? No, of course he can’t (legally, she’d likely take him to the cleaners if he tried). If I was you, I’d be more concerned with my cheating H and how I was going to deal with the smithereens of my marriage….

GCAcademic · 27/12/2024 11:22

He can sack her, yes. But he will need deep pockets for the inevitable legal action that she will take and win.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 27/12/2024 11:22

Are you in the U.K.?

Has she been employed there for more 2 years?

If not, then she can legally be dismissed. The only claim she could have would be if she was discriminated against in terms of age and disability.

Morally - why should she lose her job because your OH can't be trusted to keep it in his pants?
If not her then it will be someone else. Will you sack all female members of staff just in case?

KneesUnder · 27/12/2024 11:23

He should see a solicitor and get advice on settlement agreements (essentially a binding agreement that she leaves in exchange for a pay off).

You should see a solicitor and get advice on divorce.

romdowa · 27/12/2024 11:23

If she's been there less than 2 years then you don't need a reason to dismiss her

Livinghappy · 27/12/2024 11:24

How long has she worked there? Are you in the UK?

SleepyHippy3 · 27/12/2024 11:25

RealCoralQuail · 27/12/2024 11:13

My OH recently had an affair with a member of staff ie someone he employed. She works in a very close environment where they can’t easily escape each other. What can be done, legally? I’m in pieces every time he leaves for work. Can he sack her? Could I dismiss her if I became a director?

Blimey, so the affair was just this woman’s fault? As shit as this affair was for you, why should the other women lose her job? Why don’t you divorce your husband instead?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 27/12/2024 11:25

If he's going to sack her, I suggest that you get your divorce settlement sorted first. Otherwise there might not be much left once his legal bills are sorted.

I get that you're upset about the affair, OP, but it reflects very badly on you that you want this woman sacked. Your OH is the one that has cheated on you, and he's the one that you should be angry with.

Jostuki · 27/12/2024 11:25

If you got hit by a car that mounted the pavement, would you be upset at the car or the driver?

Your misplaced anger at the woman is pathetic.

It's him that you should be sacking off.

quietlysad · 27/12/2024 11:26

romdowa · 27/12/2024 11:23

If she's been there less than 2 years then you don't need a reason to dismiss her

The two year period doesn’t apply to discrimination including sex discrimination - which this would likely be. Your OH would be on very shaky ground dismissing her.

BilboBlaggin · 27/12/2024 11:26

He's the one who should be dismissed for taking advantage of someone in his employ. What grounds would he sack her on? Submitting to his advances?

Give your head a wobble OP, unless you want to be facing a huge lawsuit for unfair dismissal. He's the problem, not the woman.

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