OH had an affair with a member of staff. Can he fire her?

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My OH recently had an affair with a member of staff ie someone he employed. She works in a very close environment where they can’t easily escape each other. What can be done, legally? I’m in pieces every time he leaves for work. Can he sack her? Could I dismiss her if I became a director?

Just when I thought I’d heard it all… jeez op, where are your priorities here? These morals come from some backward looking mindset where women need to punished and thrown on the street for the misdeeds of men.

Doesn't matter if she's been there under two years in this case. In this instance she could very easily bring a case against her employers and would very likely win a payout. She is effectively being sacked because her boss no longer wants to have sex with her. Very easy to win at a tribunal regardless of how long she's been there.

This is an easy win case for one of those No win, No fee lawyers. They would be rubbing their hands in glee at this one!

What is a reverse thread ?
sorry to go off subject

No, she can’t be sacked for having an affair with him, but if he’s in a position of responsibility over her, he needs to be very careful.

He could leave his job, that would help the awkward work situation.

If not, then she can legally be dismissed. The only claim she could have would be if she was discriminated against in terms of age and disability.

Really? You don't know much about employment law then, do you?

OP, as others have said, if you want her to sink his business with legal costs followed by a win at tribunal (or an expensive settlement) please do encourage him to dismiss her as an act of harassement and retaliation for sleeping with him (which her lawyer will make out he forced her in to doing - and the police may be quite interested in that side of things).

Alternatively, if you want to be sensible, throw him out and you take him to the clenares instead of letting her do it.

So a married man couldn’t keep his dick to himself and you want to break employment law and punish the woman in question by making her lose her job, when you have no idea whether she even knew she was the “other woman”?

Maybe deal with your shitty husband first.

@BringBackWorshippingCats a reverse thread is when a poster makes a thread as if from the wronged wife, when she is in fact the affair employee scared about her job prospects …

Oh yes, dipping your pen in the company ink is definitely a reason to sack your former AF - if you want to be taken to an industrial tribunal and have to pay out a large sum for wrongful dismissal.

Why are you sticking by your cheating scumbag bloke OP?

Makes sense! X

You are not thinking straight at all.

Dump his sorry ass and find someone who behaves with a little decency.

He's the problem, and if he sacks her I hope she gets awarded a massive sum from an employment tribunal.

No he can't and no it won't be long before they're back at it

Why are you saying those are the only grounds when the glaringly obvious one is sex discrimination. I find it so odd when people are so confident about their wrong legal advice.

Eh? What does that mean, what app?

What have dragons got to do with anything ?

Of course he can't sack her because he's been shagging her 🙄

Does he get fired too?

Of course he can’t just fire her, and neither can you 🤦‍♀️

They're saying that OP is making it up IE telling a story. The app probably refers to the Mumsnet app.

@AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair

Many people solely use MN on the MN app

The poster is making reference to content of works of fiction

So your OH coerced a subordinate, someone who he has direct control of their working conditions, into sex? Is that right? She should sue him. HTH

To be fair to the cheating scumbag, there's no evidence of coercion in the OP. People do occasionally have sex with their bosses just because they feel like it.

The only consequences he could face would be the OP walking out on him, or being sued by the affair partner if he followed the OP's mad idea of sacking her.

Are AI threads done by Mumsnet HQ or by individuals?

I know a woman who was in a similar situation. Difference was that it was a large professional services firm and she had an affair with a partner. Of course the company could not fire her, but they did pay her a TON of money to quietly go away. I don't know exactly how much but reading between the lines, it was at least a year's salary.

Your OH is clearly the wanker here. So if he wants to get rid of her it's going to cost him an absolute fortune in the form of a massive pay out - which it should. He can talk to an employment lawyer for advice but he certainly can't attempt to dismiss her.

Ah yes, let’s punish the woman but by all means help out your deceitful and deeply unprofessional partner. Hoping someone else in the workplace knows about this, reports him and fires him first. Why the hell are you protecting this man?

Could you be clear about where coercion is mentioned because I just can't see it. I suspect this woman may have agency of her own. She may have acted of her own free will!

In no way am I defending him or blaming her (the former is impossible tbh) but you are literally making things up. Why?

Will he shag her replacement?