OH had an affair with a member of staff. Can he fire her?

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My OH recently had an affair with a member of staff ie someone he employed. She works in a very close environment where they can’t easily escape each other. What can be done, legally? I’m in pieces every time he leaves for work. Can he sack her? Could I dismiss her if I became a director?

In the unlikely event this thread is real, yes OP, go ahead & become a director so you can fire her. She deserves a bit lot of compo after getting mixed up with the pair of you.

To be fair to the cheating scumbag OH, he's "only" had a consensual relationship with a woman behind his girlfriend's back. Not ideal, but millions of people do it. The courts would not think it's behaviour they should intervene with.

What the OP is suggesting, retaliatory sacking for a woman who's done nothing very wrong, is an order of magnitude worse. She'd absolutely be the worst person in this story, and her wealthy OH, despite his flaky morals, should kick her out if she suggests it rather than continue in a relationship with such a terrible human being.

Not only this, but there are strict requirements re sexual harassment at work. Since Oct 24 all employers should have undertaken training, and also have clear reporting procedures in place. Has your husband / husband’s company met these requirements? There is no longer an upper limit on tribunal payments for sexual harassment at work so your husband is in a very risky position here, as are you if you rely on his income.

Where did coercion come into it? We don’t know the OW didn’t seduce her boss. You are making up stories.

Women are allowed to choose to stay after an affair. She has asked for help to get through her situation and for her that means DH and OW not working together anymore.

If the OW had any dignity, she would have resigned when it came to light as her reputation is now compromised within the business and her position is untenable. It’s his company so he’s going nowhere. But if she had any dignity, she wouldn’t have embarked on an affair in the first place.

As it stands, the workplace situation needs to be resolved and OP is looking for options. None of the parties benefit from the status quo.

She did not ask for help to get through the situation though? She asked if her boyfriends other girlfriend can be fired for dating him.
Presumably the man benefits from the situation as he probably likes working with the woman. 🤷‍♀️

I’m in pieces every time he leaves for work. Can he sack her? Could I dismiss her if I became a director?

This is very obviously someone who is desperate for help to resolve the situation.

How dare you put the OP on a par with the OW. You are being deliberately offensive and inflammatory. Have some bloody sympathy.

The OP is indeed not on a moral par with the OW.

Suggesting that a woman should lose her livelihood because a man chose to cheat with her is genuinely scummy behaviour. Being upset because your boyfriend is unfaithful does not give you a free pass to behave in an illegal and immoral way, and you forgo all rights to sympathy if you think it does.

@StormingNorman I seem to have upset you. I merely pointed out OP did not ask for what you said she asked for. She wants to get a woman fired. We don't know if the lover even knew the man has a girlfriend or anything.

I’m guessing that this is your OH’s business based on the fact you asked if you could dismiss her if you became a director?

In response to your question; the short answer is yes - you could. BUT - the issues lies here with your OH not her… I feel.

You need to have the conversation with your OH and confront with him.

It would become a very sticky HR situation and the chances of being faced with an employment tribunal claim subject to length of service are high!!!

This is the nastiness I was responding to by saying they are not equals: She asked if her boyfriends other girlfriend can be fired for dating him.

Although FWIW I think it is understandable to want the OW to disappear from your life if you’re trying to give it another go. Given it is DH’s business, he can’t leave so the OW needs a clean exit.

My suggestion is pay her off with a NDA. A year’s salary should do it (probably less because we already know she’s cheap 😉).

I have no truck with the view that the OW is an innocent party and all blame rests with the man. Everyone is responsible and accountable. Don’t covet thy neighbours wife works for both affairs partners.

Why should the OW resign? His position is just as compromised and untenable as hers. Why should she scraper off so the DH can carry on as normal and the wife pretend everything is fine?

Some people bring masses of projection to threads. Always the OW fault. Childish view that their mothers and fathers would have stayed together if the awful OW fucked off.

The OW works for him in a small OMB where is the owner. Every fucker working there knows he’s married!

The OP understandably wants the OW out of their lives and it is not an option for DH to leave. Unless you’d have him wind up the business, make everyone unemployed, re-open under a different name and re-employ everyone except the OW.

The OW was aware of the consequences of her actions and the only honourable course of action now is for her to resign. If she doesn’t do that, she needs to be paid off.

You're calling a woman you don't know "cheap" on the internet when there's been absolutely no indication she even knew he was married. We see it on here all the time where men say they're single, or separated and they aren't. I've found that a man happy to have an affair is also a man happy to lie to get himself there. Have a word with yourself.

Maybe because he owns the business - he can’t leave 😂😂😂

Would love to know what you think I’m projecting. I’ve never cheated and I’ve never been cheated on. I do have a highly developed sense of right and wrong. Maybe that’s why I can’t tolerate women who give would-be cheats the time of day. Imagine being the woman who drops her knickers for another woman’s man. Humiliating to be her.

Maybe that’s why I can’t tolerate women who give would-be cheats the time of day.

Like OP?

I haven’t called anyone cheap. I’m with you that it’s the man’s issue.

Quoted the wrong person here, apologies Only Mabel.

I called her cheap.

She works in a small OMB and he is the owner. Of course she knows he’s married and so does everyone else who works there.

I didn’t catch the part where OP was screwing somebody else’s husband. Can you quote?

I don’t think you quoted the right comment here?
OP does not mention a husband. Nor does she mention if the lover knew he was dating the OP. The bloke presumably enjoys working with his lover, so not sure why he would fire her or pay her off.
OP getting a load of replies for a thread with zero response.

I assume that the PP meant that the OP is happy to stay with her cheating boyfriend, let alone give him the time of day.

Because men never lie and say they've separated. I also work for a small OMB and I've met the owner's husband once at pre covid Christmas meal.

There's no indication the OP is even married, she might be just a girlfriend. Are you suggesting everyone knows the ins and outs of their boss' dating lives?

I wondered that too. Choosing to stay with a long term partner doesn’t put you on a level playing field with the OW.

It is also a valid choice to stay after an affair and OP should be given support if that is her choice. Not reduced to the same level as the side chick.