DD had reflux which lessened about 6/7 months but was still present until about 9/10 months. For that first 6 months feeding would be a bottle, then holding her upright and winding her for 20-30 minutes. At some point there would be a projectile vomiting incident. It was worse in the evenings and we spent 6-12pm just feeding, getting thrown up on, pacing with her and taking it in turns to put a dry top on. There would be no option to do work in an evening.
At 3 months DD was still contact napping so she would have quite long naps but only on me. I wouldn’t have been able to type or read a screen. Well not without wrecking my back. At 4 months she started to nap in the cot but she would have very small naps, about 20-30 minutes. It took us about a month to get to longer naps. Those 20-30 minutes I did get were usually spent putting laundry on, making sure bottles were washed and ready, having something to eat and drink or having a shower. At 5 months the naps become longer and more routine but she also became more mobile and curious of her surroundings. Everything was being picked up and put in her mouth. You couldn’t leave her someone because she’d roll away. At 6 months we started weaning and there is so much cleaning up after each meal but you’re still doing milk feeds. DD also started crawling at 6 months. Then they just get more mobile, more inquisitive and more likely to find them doing something that will hurt them. DD started going down in an evening about 4 months old but she didn’t start sleeping through the night (most nights) until about 10 months. So you won’t be able to catch up in an evening, you’ll be catching up at weekend. You think you’ll feel like you’re missing out during the week because family will have baby and being doing stuff but how are you going to feel when your husband is out doing stuff with baby all weekend?
I think doing this, even if your work allow it, is going to cause such an imbalance in your relationship. You will be working full time, like your husband but doing two days childcare and making up your hours at some point. You’re going to feel like you’re doing the bulk of it within a few weeks and that’ll lead to a lot of arguments.
What is helpful about working from home and having baby in nursery is that you have a shorter commute so you can do housework during your commute time and it doesn’t take away from weekends or bedtime. You can come home from dropping off at nursery and put your house back together before starting work rather than trying to do it before leaving for work with a baby/toddler or leaving it until you come home. When you have a toddler you can give them breakfast, drop them at nursery and come home to have your breakfast in peace and without someone trying to steal it. It’s handy when they pick up yet another bug at nursery and you can be flexible for that day or couple of days but then they go back to nursery and you can actually focus again. It’s great when you don’t have to get stuck in traffic going to work because your toddler took 10 minutes longer than they should have done to walk to nursery because they were looking at a cat or a leaf.