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DH and I potentially going for same job - WWYD?

162 replies

Pistachio1702 · 16/04/2020 19:38

Hi all - NC, but long-time poster. The following feels very "first-world problems" and I feel very lucky to (so far) be in a secure job but please bear with me as I really could do with advice!

DH and I both work in same industry. He is 10 years older (47 to my 37) and more senior. He has been freelancing after taking voluntary redundancy a few years ago but looking for a FT role and getting a bit down about situation and not finding anything. I am lucky enough to be in a mid-senior level, in a FT and comfortable job which I enjoy and am good at, but looking to take that next step in seniority.

DH and I have both been approached for the same FT super senior role. This is a job he could easily do, having been at a similar level in his last role and for a few years beforehand.

I told DH I had been approached but thought it was too senior (I really do). So I said no. He made no comment on this and we moved on and discussed other things.

I have since been rung up by organisation/manager/potential boss who is hiring and encouraged to go for it. So I am tempted to submit a CV - you never know but really, this would a very, very senior, very high-profile position. I doubt I will get it but I know if I didn't go for it, I would regret it. There aren't many roles as big in my industry.

AIBU to submit a CV, just in case? WWYD? And if I do, how do I broach with DH? Should I just let this one go and wait my turn?

I am usually always in the "go for the job even if you think is too hard/too senior" camp - "you have nothing to lose". But I am on the rise, well-off, have just taken on a NED appointment, just been promoted etc. whereas he is struggling to find something.

Not the most coherent post - apologies, my head just keeps whirring round. I would really love to hear some thoughts!

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Wallywobbles · 20/06/2020 09:22

It's a fascinating thread. I might use it as a quandary exercise with my students.

I hope you get it. Is the other candidate a woman? And have salaries come up yet?

Eddielzzard · 20/06/2020 09:34

So glad you went for it!

babbi · 20/06/2020 09:43

Good luck OP fingers crossed 🤞 for you .

Imohsotired · 20/06/2020 09:47

Fingers crossed OP, so pleased you've made it to the final 2

Weenurse · 20/06/2020 11:44

Good luck

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/06/2020 13:55

Good luck. And he didn't progress through the process so you've have been annoyed if you'd bowed out.

Pistachio1702 · 26/06/2020 21:02

And... I got it! Am deeply surprised. And once the euphoria has worn off, I will feel nervous! But for now I am going to revel.

Thank you all for encouraging me. DH seems very pleased (but I think he also had a nano-expression of surprise...)

Found out a few days ago and am still pinching myself. Bloody hell!

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Runbikeswim · 26/06/2020 21:06

Well done!! What is it do tell

Karwomannghia · 26/06/2020 21:10

Congratulations!!

AnotherEmma · 26/06/2020 21:11

Congratulations! Thank god you went for it.

Wolfcub · 26/06/2020 21:13

Congratulations Pistachio

Modestandatinybitsexy · 26/06/2020 21:17

Congratulations OP! Very well done to you :)

Pistachio1702 · 26/06/2020 21:22

How to describe without giving too much away... it is in the City, and the kind of job where those of you who listen to the Today programme or watch Ian King may see/hear me asked to give my views on eg market developments.

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CountFosco · 26/06/2020 21:28

Wow! Well done you. You do realise I shall now be listening to the market reports very carefully to see if I can identify you!

RandomMess · 26/06/2020 21:34

Congratulations!

Wine
fluffygreenmonsterhoody · 26/06/2020 22:43

We knew it! Huge congratulations OP!

IAintentDead · 26/06/2020 22:44

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🥳🥳🥳🥳🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂

Queenoftheashes · 26/06/2020 22:47

Yes! Congratulations OP!

So good that you went for it! An inspiration!

Weenurse · 26/06/2020 23:56

Congratulations 💐

villainousbroodmare · 27/06/2020 00:12

Woo HOO!

HelenaJustina · 27/06/2020 09:22

Congratulations! Enjoy the celebrating before the fear sets in!

Wolfiefan · 27/06/2020 09:28

Well done you! I’m so pleased for you.

Mixitupalot · 27/06/2020 09:28

Well done!! 🎉🎉

Iwalkinmyclothing · 27/06/2020 09:31

Oh well done op! Your update has really cheered me up :)

Pistachio1702 · 27/06/2020 09:57

Thank you, all. Now just have to make sure everyone everywhere is ok with my doing the NED role and this new one too (I don't foresee any issues) and then a few last months at my current place and whoop!

You lot were really helpful in making up my mind on what to do/how to proceed so thank you so much Daffodil and Cake for you all!

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