Message for Xenia

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What I would like to ask is how exactly do you find so much spare time to chat on these boards about earning between £100k and £250k when you have five children of your own and also what seems must be a very demanding full time job?

I have just one child and a very part time job and this will be about the only 5 minutes I get to luxuriate on the internet?

it was also scarcastic comment.

three children in three years with not local support will do that....

god di ouy not ever htink
i want ot lie in bed
i ll tell you ONE day you will realise works ia crock of shit

lol at cod. I dont know any one who earns 6 figures who isnt trying to retire early to spend more time with their famillies before they miss it all. thats another extreme that zenia is on - dont know many people even financially successful ones who love their jobs.

work si shit
peopel who go on and onoaodnonononon about work ad HUIgely insecure

"Sitting at home with a baby for me is just about the most dreadfully boring thing you can do 24./7. It's very very tiring and you never get a break from it (no shit Sherlock! that's parenting for you). Leaving that lovely daughter at 8am for that peace on the train to read the FT and then saunter into an office where people run around after you and then you get home (I usually left on time) to an immediate breastfeed - all that lovely oxytocin released as you relax etc and then time with the children. I think that's pretty much easier and nicer than at 3 weeks having the baby 24/7.

ah she needs hari striagtehteners though

Babies ARE boring.

I agree with Xenia on that point.

Sorry.

yes

so why did hs ehave thm
she is mad
go d give yourslef a break
what ARE you trying to prove

It's important parents realise mother can go back to work early, that's the only point I mentioning. Also important fathers realise they have as much a right to stay home as a woman and also that mothers who want to stay home if they can afford it. I don't think I've ever said people can't make these choices. It's as if I say I did this and then people take that to mean that therefore I think everyone should do as I do. I've never said that.

Life should certainly not a competition materially. I have a lot of things I enjoy and that's what is important and that I've brought up or am bringing up 5 reasonably well adjusted children. I don't think I've particularly sought material things. I like driving the 15 year old volvo. I haven't bought any clothes for ages. I quite like being able to spend on experiences like taking the children skiing but I know they'd have as much fun if we were all in a tent somewhere instead.

I do think it's good for mothers of all kind to show other mothers what they have done and can do so that women can make choices and don't think - large families mean you can't work (whichi s rubbish) or that only women stay home (rubbish) or that you can't be happy and work etc so I've often over 20 years sought to mention some of those aspects not to show off but as an example to encourage others not to have limited horizons.

other peoples babies may be boring, surely your own isn't?

At 3 weeks old they pretty much sleep all the time and leave you free to do lots. What I find boring is reading The Great Big Hungry Caterpiller to a toddler for the 20th time in one sitting

lucky baby three weeks old - all that oxytocin with added benefits -train are sooooo healthy spray germs, diesel fumes ....mmmmmmmmmmmmmm loooooooooovely

Small babies are boring.

Obviously when it's your own and you adore it then it does make it more bearable, but they don't do much. And (if they sleep) you can do other things. Which I suppose might be work, if that's what you fancied. I had one that didn't sleep. So if I were at work, I would be the one sleeping.

its a shame that what you have said or rather how you have said it has not been articulated as well as you last paragraph. I would have been agreeing with you 100% if that is what you had said.

I loved my babies even when they only slept.

And I was the biggest anti baby person you could ever meet before I had mine.

the thing is that women like this THINk other poel admire thenm
and relaly they pity them

Did I say I didn't love them? I think I said I adored them. But was I bored? Yes.

bbs - sorry didnt mean to imply that you didnt love your babies. My comment was in reponse to a wistful thought that came into my head when I thought as my children as babies.

my goodness is this still going?whats tonites subject then?

blimey I thought you'd flounced!

go on then, give it some ....

This should be fun -
Cowmad v Xenia.

got bored!!and cant be bothered to name change!!!any update?

makes is sound like a greek wwf bout. lol

basically wohm / d's are the only credible role models and sahms are self indulgent, over parenters