Eh?? I didn't say she meant it in a 'totally neutral inoffensive way'! Are you confusing me with someone else? I said I have no way of knowing how she meant it.
I told you that the concept is used a lot. It doesn't mean it's not offensive to some people.
Personally, I don't care if it's offensive. It exactly describes what's happening.
I suspect that being crystal clear about what is happening is what some people find offensive.
But can I ask again, do you subscribe to gender ideology, in that case? Do you think that children have an innate sense of whether or not they are male or female irrespective of their biology?