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‘Woman’ missing in Southampton

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HannahinHampshire · 14/10/2026 00:34

Now I hope that this person is found safe and well - but this is not a woman! Why is Samantha being described as a woman? This helps no one, neither the person who is missing nor those searching for him.
https://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/26633982.urgent-search-missing-woman-last-seen-southampton/

Urgent police search for missing woman last seen in Southampton

Officers are appealing for help to find a missing 38-year-old woman who was last seen in Southampton.

https://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/26633982.urgent-search-missing-woman-last-seen-southampton/

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lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 11:00

Also, I like his eyebrows. There's something about dark eyebrows and grey hair. I hope he's found safe.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 11:03

lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 11:00

Also, I like his eyebrows. There's something about dark eyebrows and grey hair. I hope he's found safe.

The Alistair Darling look

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 11:18

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 10:55

Good point @lcakethereforeIam

You don’t think the police might have checked preferred pronouns with family / friends etc? And they are using she/her.

hattie43 · 20/10/2026 11:21

He’s been found

CassOle · 20/10/2026 11:23

That's really good news. Thanks hattie.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 11:28

hattie43 · 20/10/2026 11:21

He’s been found

How do you know?

hattie43 · 20/10/2026 11:32

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 11:28

How do you know?

Hampshire police have announced it on FB . Not much info just Samantha has been found and thankyou for sharing .

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 11:34

hattie43 · 20/10/2026 11:32

Hampshire police have announced it on FB . Not much info just Samantha has been found and thankyou for sharing .

Thanks hattie43. That's good news.

Myalternate · 20/10/2026 11:35

That’s great news. Vulnerable people suffering such distress need professional healthcare.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 11:38

Good news! Glad he’s safe.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 20/10/2026 12:44

hattie43 · 20/10/2026 11:21

He’s been found

Oh good!

BezMark · 20/10/2026 13:21

The zeroeth rule of Gender Club is 'you do talk about gender club'

The first rule of Gender Club is 'you decide your own gender, and whether you disclose your gender to other'

The second rule of Gender Club is 'you may not assume, assign or allocate gender to another individual'

ONLY posters (or individuals not posting) who have declared themselves as cis-gendered may be referred to as cis gender. Otherwise you're misgendering, which is definitely against the rules of Gender Club (see above).

And yet we see individuals assigning cis gender willy nilly all over these boards, and cocking it right up. It's complete bollocks, it's not even hard. If you assume, assign or allocate cis gender, you're a dick, you're ballsing it up, you probably deserve the sack.

I trust I've made myself scrotally clear.

BezMark · 20/10/2026 13:25

I'm glad Samantha has been found.

We're aw Jock Tamson's bairns.

lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 13:42

BezMark · 20/10/2026 13:21

The zeroeth rule of Gender Club is 'you do talk about gender club'

The first rule of Gender Club is 'you decide your own gender, and whether you disclose your gender to other'

The second rule of Gender Club is 'you may not assume, assign or allocate gender to another individual'

ONLY posters (or individuals not posting) who have declared themselves as cis-gendered may be referred to as cis gender. Otherwise you're misgendering, which is definitely against the rules of Gender Club (see above).

And yet we see individuals assigning cis gender willy nilly all over these boards, and cocking it right up. It's complete bollocks, it's not even hard. If you assume, assign or allocate cis gender, you're a dick, you're ballsing it up, you probably deserve the sack.

I trust I've made myself scrotally clear.

Aye, aye C'ptain!!

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 13:43

BezMark · 20/10/2026 13:21

The zeroeth rule of Gender Club is 'you do talk about gender club'

The first rule of Gender Club is 'you decide your own gender, and whether you disclose your gender to other'

The second rule of Gender Club is 'you may not assume, assign or allocate gender to another individual'

ONLY posters (or individuals not posting) who have declared themselves as cis-gendered may be referred to as cis gender. Otherwise you're misgendering, which is definitely against the rules of Gender Club (see above).

And yet we see individuals assigning cis gender willy nilly all over these boards, and cocking it right up. It's complete bollocks, it's not even hard. If you assume, assign or allocate cis gender, you're a dick, you're ballsing it up, you probably deserve the sack.

I trust I've made myself scrotally clear.

Oooh Bez you are awful, but I like you

On a serious note - yes, we see "cis" imposed all over the place. We see assumptions made about posters' sex. We observe generalisations being made about "gender criticals" yet are told not to generalise or make sweeping assumptions about trans people. One might say that the standards are somewhat double.

BackToLurk · 20/10/2026 14:00

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 13:43

Oooh Bez you are awful, but I like you

On a serious note - yes, we see "cis" imposed all over the place. We see assumptions made about posters' sex. We observe generalisations being made about "gender criticals" yet are told not to generalise or make sweeping assumptions about trans people. One might say that the standards are somewhat double.

On this thread we saw ‘trans’ imposed by TRAs. I was hoping they’d let us know how they knew. We expect of the Terrible Terfs (one of Terry Deary’s best), who can see people’s sex, but the TRAs surely just saw a woman. Baffling.

lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 14:46

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 10:35

Even if you add a space.

At least tras are consistent, if only in this one regard. It's always about the spaces 😁

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:13

Why was the assumption made that Samantha was a TW and not a woman (of the biological kind)? As far as I can make out all the information was that a woman was missing.

lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 15:22

It'll be one of those enduring mysteries, like the Marie Celeste or the Loch Ness Monster

‘Woman’ missing in Southampton
BackToLurk · 20/10/2026 15:38

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:13

Why was the assumption made that Samantha was a TW and not a woman (of the biological kind)? As far as I can make out all the information was that a woman was missing.

They seem a little shy to share how they came to that conclusion.

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:41

BackToLurk · 20/10/2026 15:38

They seem a little shy to share how they came to that conclusion.

But how did they come to that conclusion?

MoistVonL · 20/10/2026 15:41

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:13

Why was the assumption made that Samantha was a TW and not a woman (of the biological kind)? As far as I can make out all the information was that a woman was missing.

Sidenote, Alucard, but I hear your new PS5 game is a banger. Even if Trevor is not voiced by Richard Armitage.

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:42

MoistVonL · 20/10/2026 15:41

Sidenote, Alucard, but I hear your new PS5 game is a banger. Even if Trevor is not voiced by Richard Armitage.

I've literally no idea what that means. I don't even know if you're being nice or it's a put down.

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:44

lcakethereforeIam · 20/10/2026 15:22

It'll be one of those enduring mysteries, like the Marie Celeste or the Loch Ness Monster

It can't be that they looked at the picture and saw a man. The information said woman.

MoistVonL · 20/10/2026 15:46

Alucard55 · 20/10/2026 15:42

I've literally no idea what that means. I don't even know if you're being nice or it's a put down.

My apologies, with that username I made an assumption (making an ass out of Me and Umption, as Samuel L. Jackson says)

Alucard is one of the main characters of the Castlevania franchise of video games and animation - son of Dracula and a mortal woman. My older son has been a big fan for years, so I absorb this stuff through osmosis.

The long awaited new video game came out on the weekend, which is why I have barely seen my sons since Saturday.