Teacher upset with my child questioning about trans child

[sarahandsage]

Was Called into school today.
My daughter has just started reception in September, it’s a lovely village school, and she’s made lots of friends and settled in really well.

Yesterday I was called into have chat with her teacher.
Was informed my child has a trans girl in her class, and that my child is questioning the teacher every day about this.
That all the other children accept this child was born in the wrong body, yet my daughter is questioning ‘too much’.

I said we encourage curiosity amongst our children, so am
not surprised.

The teacher then said that my child was taken to one side and read a couple of books :
My name is Jazz
and one about a crayon that feels like a different colour.
Which was astonishing to me, because really singling out a child to (as the teacher said ) “Get her on board”, feels very pushy.

My daughter is very kind, and plays with all the children in the class including the trans girl.
The teacher is not concerned with unkindness, but that my daughter is not accepting enough, and she has asked us to reiterate pronouns and that this child is a girl.

This is the first school experience for us, as previously my daughter was at a childminder

It feels very wrong to single out a child, and read books that introduce a concept that we haven’t broached with our children yet.

Misgendering? My four-year-old, who has just started Reception, still makes mistakes with “her” and “him”. She says “her” instead of “she” and often “misgenders” the dog by saying “him”—not because she thinks the dog is a boy, but because she’s still perfecting her grammar.

On board with what, for goodness’ sake? If the boy has long hair and wears dresses, I’m surprised your daughter even noticed he’s not a girl. This feels like a completely teacher-manufactured problem.

What’s that got to do with pretending that a boy is a girl, lying to them and lying to everybody else about them?

The good old “genital inspections” bollocks still being rolled out. Bless. It’s all they’ve got.

That’s all great stuff, no one has a problem
with boys can have long hair etc.

But that is very different to telling a child that a boy with long hair is a girl. And that he should be referred to as “she”.

Children of this age and developmental stage are starting to understand sex permanence ie being male or female doesn’t depend on clothes or hair.

So I wouldn’t be surprised at a child asking questions; it’s their job at this age to be making sense of this. Made more difficult if we start telling them that sex isn’t a permanent physical attribute but some sort of state of mind.

Not surprised to see which "side" brought up the genitals aspect first on this thread. Grim.

Thankfully my sons friendship group and the whole school respected Elliot and didn’t feel inclined to go around calling them a liar.

Nothing to see. Just a bunch of people who get along.

Tell her you don't believe in gender ideology and your DD is not to be indoctrinated in this rubbish. The transgirl is a boy and should not be encouraged in this nonsense either. Then find another school, I suspect.

But you are teaching children not to use the evidence of their eyes, which is a massive safeguarding issue.