I think people often project western values on people or try to explain away behaviour from a western lens.
Feeling sorry for afghan dads selling 6yr olds, well there seems to be plenty of money to buy them and often they are sold to family members or friends, perhaps maybe just perhaps in cultures that place a high value on virginity and control of women the young ones fetch a better price. Or exchanging your daughter for a sack of flour is because she’s a burden and all she is worth to you is a sack of flour.
People assume because they could never conceive of treating their own daughter like that, that it must be because of dire circumstances. This is often bullshit, child marriage is often for the parents a way to rid themselves of a cost centre.
Theres currently an on-line effort by arab women to be rid of the niqab, just look at the response of so many men to allowing women to simply breathe. I’m from an ethnic minority and the level of delusion I see from the kumbaya lot about the treatment of women is extraordinary. They will happily believe white men can be raping misogynists but really struggle to identify it in other men. If men truly thought the way their countries treated women were awful they would change, but they don’t. Honour killings, child brides, dowry murders, domestic abuse, do we really think it happens without men?
Women across the world are screaming about the appalling conditions enforced on them by their societies laws and norms and we have the spectacle of colonial/anti imperialist narcissism that wants to take the blame for every foul cultural phenomenon and it absolves itself of the guilt by helping the oppressors. These things happen regardless of colonialism not because of it. Theres an ongoing discussion in India about whether raping your wife should be legal, the “I want to be able to rape my wife legally” caucus are actually arguing that laws that would discourage them from doing so are colonialist in nature. Rape within marriage isn’t even recognised in much of the world.
I would happily take every single girl and woman in Afghanistan, I would budge up and do with less to do it, work for longer, it would be worth it, but I’ll be damned if I’m going to absolve Afghan men from responsibility.