Gender Critical guy - How can I help the cause?

[MyShyCat]

Hoping that the amazing women of Mumsnet can help me. I am firmly in the Gender Critical camp. I peaked many years ago after the birth of my daughter. I simply got to the point where I couldn't ignore the craziness that we were all being expected to accept. Amazing women on Youtube like Magdalen Berns, Posie Parker, Helen Joyce, Jo Bartosch, Arielle Scarcella and Kathleen Stock were able to perfectly articulate all the thoughts that were flying around my head.

Like many of us I have watched with horror as bit by bit the rights of women and girls have been systematically dismantled. There have undoubtedly been successes on our journey back to reality but Sall Grover's defeat the other day has really made me wobble.

My problem is I not sure what to do to help the cause. I feel like I should be more vocal or active - not exactly Bill Board Chris levels of "being out there" but I think I need to actually be a bit braver and make my voice heard.

If anyone has any suggestions as to how a 53 year-old father of a teenage girl can take a more active role in this fight, then I would love to hear more.

I'm not sure I can just carry on watching youtube clips and tutting anymore! All suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I WOULD RATHER BE RUDE THAN A "F**KING LIAR."

Going back to the accusation that OP didn’t care until he had a daughter.
Unless adult women in his life asked for his support, it would be seen as patronising and patriarchal to start attempting to safeguard them. He has a responsibility to
safeguard his DD, but other adults have agency.

He can still do the work to find resources himself. It’s not women’s job to enable him.

Yes, that's what I was going to suggest. I think talking to other men about the issues would be helpful - some men find it easier to listen to men.

Explaining to other men why women don't want men in their spaces would be useful. And making people aware of the potential risks to children of gender ideology.

Here's a related initiative - men actively and vocally taking a stand on VAWG. Several connections on LI have now joined/commented/participated etc

It's not hard to find this stuff if you CanBA looking for it.

https://hassl.uk/

Thankyou Singthing. Cheers for pointing me in the right direction.

Sorry Singthing. Just looked at hassl. Very dissapointed. They believe that Trans Women are Women.

Trans Women are Men. I do not want to see women punched in the face by men in Olympic Boxing competitions.

Hassl is not the right direction for me.

Told you you should’ve done your own research and found a campaign that aligned with your views.

It is always best to do your own legwork, I find.

@MyShyCat I have to say I find it creepy that you’ve just hearted my post and not actually responded to me.

it’s made me feel unsettled.

Make sure stonewall rainbows LGBT etc are OUT of your daughter's school...

Thanks AniahJeremiah. I'll look into it.

I've just spent the evening making some stickers for the male toilets at my place of work. Trans Women now have a nice wee invite to come and be safe in the male toilets. I wonder what the reaction will be? LOL

Trans identified Women are free to use the female toilets

Just checking... when you say "trans identified women" you mean a biological male?

I mean women. So no

It's a bit of a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation - ask women advice on how you can contribute to a women's rights movement and you're taking up their time and not doing the work, but blundering in doing whatever you think best you could easily be accused of not asking what woman want and listening to them.

Maybe you coukd have a hard think about how to make make male toilets more acceptable to men who wish to think of themselves as women. Women have fought their own battles to have single sex spaces based on biology.

Not actually acknowledging my post, and just hearting it, given that he declares himself a man and that I disclosed a violent rape on this very thread, is an action that I find creepy.

A decent man, who didn’t want to unsettle me, would either not have done such a creepy thing in the first place, or would have acknowledged my post where I called it out and said something to the effect that he would reflect on that.

He has done neither.

I also want to point out that I didn’t report the two horrid nasty posts he directed at me because I wanted them to stand and be seen. Someone else must’ve reported them and mnhq decided they were delete worthy.

Rape culture like Karen White?

OP Start calling out men who seem happy to give women's rights away.

When someone suggests women / girls should boycott their sports due to a male on the opposing team, then call for the men / boys to boycott the sport.

I would guess that even having a free cocktail bar and nice sofas to sit on wouldn't be enough to make male toilets attractive to trans women. They just want to be in women only spaces.

Thank-you. Very nicely put.

What are you talking about, I can’t see what is relevant here.

Please OP just carry on getting involved, men do need to get involved getting rid of this pernicious ideology.

He said 'trans women' which to be clear, are men.

This is why just saying 'men' is so important.

@TaztoyYou've exposed him for what he is, so he doesn’t have the courage to properly engage with you.

Another weak man.

Unions and some political parties need a lot done to get back to normal, and a lot of women have left after bullying. If your politics are aligned with greens or labour then a lot of work within either party is needed.

Yeah! So I put my "Trans women are welcome here" stickers on the male toilets at work. I covered all 7 male toilets. The stickers were removed within an hour by our local TRA. (First time they had been in the office for a few weeks... perfect timing!) They left them in the staffroom with a big note saying "Trans women are STILL allowed in the female toilets."

and of course, I just put them back up in the males toilets again!

I think this could get funny!

So the TRA is a bloke who knows himself to be a bloke then?

If not, and they are a transwoman ('special bloke'), then they were perfectly safe to go into the men's to remove them, so should be fine going forwards.

And they are wrong re the women's toilets, obviously....did they miss the news? Can't read? or just your average zealot?