Gender Critical guy - How can I help the cause?

[MyShyCat]

Hoping that the amazing women of Mumsnet can help me. I am firmly in the Gender Critical camp. I peaked many years ago after the birth of my daughter. I simply got to the point where I couldn't ignore the craziness that we were all being expected to accept. Amazing women on Youtube like Magdalen Berns, Posie Parker, Helen Joyce, Jo Bartosch, Arielle Scarcella and Kathleen Stock were able to perfectly articulate all the thoughts that were flying around my head.

Like many of us I have watched with horror as bit by bit the rights of women and girls have been systematically dismantled. There have undoubtedly been successes on our journey back to reality but Sall Grover's defeat the other day has really made me wobble.

My problem is I not sure what to do to help the cause. I feel like I should be more vocal or active - not exactly Bill Board Chris levels of "being out there" but I think I need to actually be a bit braver and make my voice heard.

If anyone has any suggestions as to how a 53 year-old father of a teenage girl can take a more active role in this fight, then I would love to hear more.

I'm not sure I can just carry on watching youtube clips and tutting anymore! All suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I WOULD RATHER BE RUDE THAN A "F**KING LIAR."

Yes.. I was wrong.

So Taztoy’s first post telling you to start by looking inwards was spot on.

You’ve admitted you have trouble being told no by a woman, and that’s extremely concerning. But is also a brilliant starting point for how you can start to make a positive change. Consider how this manifests in your behaviour and words - are you normalising men having problems with women saying no to your male students? Are you importing your daughter to confidently say no to men when she is uncomfortable? Etc

It’s a shame it took you so long and multiple posters channelling you to come to the realisation that taztoy was band on the money from the get go.

Thank you for being honest @MyShyCat

At least you're being honest,.but it's startling that you're explicit that you wanted women to know you were reading their boundary and their no and wanted them to know you didn't respect it.
I sometimes have difficulty being told no by a woman.
And this is where your work should begin before anything else if you've made this realisation about yourself, looking at whether the women in your life are comfortable saying no to you and any women you've hurt in the past when they've said no and if ignoring women's boundaries is a pattern for you.

Taztoy. This is kinda new territory for me. What happens now?

You don't ask Taztoy what you should do. You're missing the point spectacularly.

As others have said, you need to take a look at yourself and work out why women saying no to you is such an issue, and how you are going to change. Because you need to.

Self awareness is a good first step though.

You really don’t get it do you. It’s not for me or any other women to do the work for you.

I actually can’t believe that a qualified teacher, after this thread, and after all I and others said, comes back with this.

you have learnt NOTHING.

Thanks Peach. I'm learning new stuff everyday.

Why quote a post from a week ago?

He had to dig that far back to find a poster who didn't see the relevance of asking men to examine their internalised misogyny..and chose this as the time to respond to it. It's interesting that this was what Peach was responding to and even after this wisdom from 2021x OP chose to lash out a lot being told no.

As a man the best thing you can do is deal with any of your own misogny first. We all have it especially women.

What is it about women pisses you off and do you have good boundaries when dealing with women? How do you feel when a woman is speaking - can you listen without feeling the need to jump in.

It seems OP is quite insistent on getting involved as long as it doesn't involve examining his own misogyny or treatment of women.

I hope his the consent portion of PSHE was taught by another teacher. Hate to think of my DD being taught consent by a man who has issues with women saying no. Thankfully me and DH also had regular chats with her about it but not every child has a parent who will.

That’s a very good point.

Bloody hell. I must be behind the times! A thread on Mumsnet by a person lauding the likes of Posie Parker, who I had very vaguely heard of on here but had no clue who she was. It turns out that she was one of the rioters in Southampton, and is, according to the Guardian :

Kellie-Jay Keen-Minshull. Also known as Posie Parker, Keen blamed Nowak’s killing on schools, claiming they feed children critical race theory. She formed the Party of Women to promote anti-transgender views. At the protest, she told a GB News reporter that “whites are at the bottom of the priority list, so we’re assumed to be guilty”.

Feminism is being hijacked by the far right. What an utter tragedy, and highly hypocritical, given the real views of the far right about women. Let alone the interest of plenty of its leaders in amassing huge wealth for themselves (and aided by the super rich). Fuck them all. Feminist, my arse.

I will not be posting in the feminism board again.

OK, thanks for letting us know 🙄

One of the rioters in Southampton?

You sure about that?

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2026/jun/04/who-were-the-far-right-agitators-at-the-henry-nowak-protests-in-southampton

Most of us are capable of agreeing with people on one issue and disagreeing with them others.

I'm sorry your thinking is so limited.

Oh, you did post again.

The flouncer announcers always do.