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Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!

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ErrolTheDragon · 01/05/2026 08:48

Welcome to any women who want the company of women!

Thats it really….ok so this place is staffed by gerbils with the occasional quokka or capybara but it functions like a friendly pub where you don’t have to know what’s going on all the time.
The drinks don’t intoxicate and the food is delicious yet healthy so please do come in.

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EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 14:15

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 07/05/2026 12:47

Edith - I would just like to some forewarning of when my dotage intends to begin...

I realised when I had a knee injury that stopped me driving for 3 months, that it would be impractical to stay in my old village if ever I could not drive permanently. I moved to my current home two years later (Covid having got in the way) and have not regretted it. Aside from having family nearby, transport links and shops are much better and I have been able to set up new interests and activities, but can still drive back to my old location an hour or so away to meet friends.

I suppose it's a bit like the advice (about loos) I was given once when going on a long coach journey across Europe - 'Go when you can, not when you need to'.........😁

As someone I knew used to say, 'Be like royalty - never miss an opportunity' - as she made a beeline for the posh bogs at the back of a smart department store.

Not being able to drive here would be an absolute pain in the arse, and it's that which I'd like to be able to predict. You can do it if you have willing family in range and/ or the ££ to pay for taxis (or the sort of gardener/ handyman type who comes once a week for four hours and will take you to the shops in that time).

And it is so unpredictable. I have known lots of people drive into their late 80s and early 90s - but at that age moving becomes almost too much for them. So DH and I will need to move when either no longer driving is on the horizon, or when we can foresee moving becoming hideously overwhelming within the next few years, whichever comes first.

For the moment, I'm just enjoying being alive and in decent shape - and on that note, I'm off to the garden.

But not before saying,
Fuzzy, I hope you're happy where you are now
Pasta, good luck with losing that 0.9 of BMI
Myrtle, I so hope it went/ is going well.

MyrtleLion · 07/05/2026 14:16

ifIwerenotanandroid · 07/05/2026 13:54

👻200 posts behind now! What a time I've had, locked out & hammering on the windows & shouting but nobody would let me in. I've cleared all the rubbish out of the way & now I'm back.

Gerbils, something comforting & restorative, please.

Apologies, they're rehearsing Act III of Moulin Gerbil!. Someone may have heard you but was too spellbound by Gwendolyn on a trapeze...

MyrtleLion · 07/05/2026 14:20

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 14:15

As someone I knew used to say, 'Be like royalty - never miss an opportunity' - as she made a beeline for the posh bogs at the back of a smart department store.

Not being able to drive here would be an absolute pain in the arse, and it's that which I'd like to be able to predict. You can do it if you have willing family in range and/ or the ££ to pay for taxis (or the sort of gardener/ handyman type who comes once a week for four hours and will take you to the shops in that time).

And it is so unpredictable. I have known lots of people drive into their late 80s and early 90s - but at that age moving becomes almost too much for them. So DH and I will need to move when either no longer driving is on the horizon, or when we can foresee moving becoming hideously overwhelming within the next few years, whichever comes first.

For the moment, I'm just enjoying being alive and in decent shape - and on that note, I'm off to the garden.

But not before saying,
Fuzzy, I hope you're happy where you are now
Pasta, good luck with losing that 0.9 of BMI
Myrtle, I so hope it went/ is going well.

It's Magpie who is interviewing today. I'm next Wednesday. She'll be finished by 5pm, so the gerbils need to get the chocolate bowser ready. She may need a swimming pool.

In other news I have dental insurance through the Walrus' job. It should have renewed in April but they've rejected my claim for a crown preparation (with the fit next week it will be over £1,000).

Apparently I dropped off for some reason. This has never happened before as it usually just rolls over. He's raised a complaint by if I'd realised I would have postponed the treatment until it was resolved.

As it happens we may have to cover this ourselves (along with the £1400 in premiums we pay for it).

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 07/05/2026 15:26

Oh, that's so annoying, Myrtle. If it turns out to be an admin error by the insurance company that did not renew your policy, you should have a good case to have it backdated, especially if you have had the policy for several years.

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 15:42

Sorry Myrtle! I knew it was Magpie - this is what comes of rushing eagerly out to dig the veg patch!

Bad luck with the dental insurance. Sod's law.

AsWithGlad · 07/05/2026 18:10

Sorry about the dental insurance, Myrtle. I know we have the NHS and I value (most parts of) it highly, but there are times when it’s useful to have private insurance.

We used to have it through DH’s work, although like Myrtle there was still a significant cost to it. Now he’s retired we pay the whole thing, but a claim in the first year put the renewal cost up a lot and discourages claiming again unless one of us gets something very very serious.

@EdithStourton wrote “As someone I knew used to say, 'Be like royalty - never miss an opportunity.”

Is that a well-known saying? I’m a little disappointed: our family’s version is “Never miss an opportunity, as (a senior royal) said to (close family member).”
The royal occasionally visited the relative’s workplace, which made it completely believable.

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 18:22

Didn't get it. The students liked me but apparently I'm not strategic enough. Yet.
Nightmare commute though, so I'm not too disappointed.

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 19:23

Oh, bad luck, Maggers. Still, a silver lining in dodging the hellacious commute.

Glad, I have no idea if it's a well-known phrase. It just stuck as a sensible peice of advice.

AsWithGlad · 07/05/2026 19:43

@Magpiecomplex The students liked me but apparently I'm not strategic enough

I have no idea what that means. I can think of several possibilities but none that is
a good thing and that you can show in an interview.

Commiserations, anyway.

WearyAuldWumman · 07/05/2026 19:44

I'm sorry you didn't get it, @Magpiecomplex , but puzzled about the 'strategic' comment.

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 19:53

Off I pottered this afternoon to walk B&B. Certain routes cause excitement in the back of the car and we went along one of them.

We caught up with a tractor. To be precise, a tractor that I recognised, largely due to its advanced age. It wasn't being driven by its owner, but it was heading home - and considerately pulled over to let me past.

I parked in the farmyard. In the field next to it an enormous John Deere was towing a sprayer though the wheat, and I waved at the driver as I unloaded B&B. The ancient tractor turned into the farmyard a few minutes behind me, as I had expected. I wandered over with the dogs to chat to the farmer and the driver of the ancient old Fergie.
'Funny ole weather we're havin' - that cold wind outa the north-east!'
'And then the sun comes out and it's suddenly really hot.'
'Yeah. Did you have any rain over at yours?'
'About an hour of drizzle the other evening.'
'An hour - we just had a coupla thray spits, din't we, Jim?'
(The driver of the ancient tractor nodded and and did the semi-audible yeah of general agreement.)
'I'd better let you both get on.'
'Be seeing you - and don't worry about him sprayin', it's just nitrogen, not chemicals. Just need a bit a' rain now to water it in.'
I didn't get into a discussion about how nitrogen is, in fact, a chemical, but I knew what he meant.

We had a lovely walk through the grassy meadows at the bottom of the slope. The partridges who are always running about on the track seemed to have been scared off by the sprayer, and there were no hares or pheasants to be seen. Things had clearly been around, given B&B's intensity at various times, but I suspect that the grass is now tall enough to hide a lot of scarpering wildlife.

On the way back, we saw the big tractor again, stationary. It had obviously had to go from one area to another, and all the spraying kit had been tucked away. As I watched, the spraying arms slowly unfolded, making it look like a gigantic metal grasshopper stretching its legs, and then they dropped into place, and the engine revved up, and away it went again.

And then, as if to remind me that nature is ultimately going to win, I heard that loud mew that preceded tractors by thousands of years and will hopefully outlive them, and saw a buzzard soaring over a neighbouring field.

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 19:55

Weary and Glad, it was a fairly senior position. I needed to demonstrate my strategic vision for a whole department at a college I'd never been to before, so it's probably no surprise my vision was lacking.

AsWithGlad · 07/05/2026 20:23

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 19:55

Weary and Glad, it was a fairly senior position. I needed to demonstrate my strategic vision for a whole department at a college I'd never been to before, so it's probably no surprise my vision was lacking.

Was there an internal candidate, I wonder, who would have a strong advantage through already knowing how the department currently works.

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 20:27

AsWithGlad · 07/05/2026 20:23

Was there an internal candidate, I wonder, who would have a strong advantage through already knowing how the department currently works.

Two, yes. I could see how it was going from the start, when the VP for Curriculum was speaking almost exclusively to them. But hey ho.

DeanElderberry · 07/05/2026 20:49

One of the lovely things about being old is nobody expects me to have visions.

I think you had a lucky escape Maggers.

MarieDeGournay · 07/05/2026 21:02

Bad luck, Magpie😟But you don't seem too disappointed, which is good, and the last thing you need is a hellacious commute.
What's for you won't go by you, as they say - this doesn't sound like the place for you to shine...
<take 2>this does not sound like the place in which you can shine
[I heard murmurs from Pedantry Corner about the first attempt😏]
Onwards, Magpie!

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
MyrtleLion · 07/05/2026 21:12

Just before rehearsals started for Moulin Gerbil! Act III,

There was muttering from Clara the Capybara that the fact the gerbils consider:
“a bit of singing and Gwendolyn on a trapeze swing” to be the easy part is deeply, deeply concerning.
Particularly because:

  • the trapeze appears to be suspended from something the capybaras describe only as “load-bearing-ish,”
  • Gloria has already requested “more emotional velocity,”
  • and Gubbins has apparently composed an entire triangle overture called The Ting of Love.
Meanwhile the sequins are spreading. Nobody ordered this many sequins. Nobody even understands the logistics. They appear overnight:
  • in bowls,
  • in pockets,
  • embedded mysteriously in buttered toast,
  • drifting gently through sunbeams upstairs near the wombat’s accounts desk.
At one point a guinea pig sneezed and emitted glitter. This is no longer decoration. This is an atmospheric condition.

Current State of Rehearsals
Act III
Utter chaos.
The gerbils are attempting:

  • aerial can-can,
  • revolving scenery,
  • live accordion duels,
  • and “controlled emotional pyrotechnics.”
That final phrase should concern everyone. Especially after Gloria was overheard asking: “Can the windmill safely emit sparks?” To which a capybara replied: “Define safely.”

Gwendolyn
Unbothered.
She has spent the afternoon practising dramatic swoons into velvet cushions while suspended three feet in the air.
Apparently she says this helps:
“find the emotional geometry.”
Nobody knows what that means.
But she looks magnificent.

Colin
Now considers himself part of the cast.
Has stolen:

  • one feather boa,
  • two rehearsal sausages,
  • and a spotlight cue sheet.
The cue sheet was later discovered buried in a flowerpot beside the puggle.

Most Disturbing Development
Late tonight, several gerbils were seen measuring the pub chimney while consulting what appeared to be:

  • blueprints,
  • celestial charts,
  • and a recipe for croquembouche.
When challenged, Gloria simply narrowed her eyes and said: “Friday night requires scale.” Then she vanished behind a curtain in a burst of sequins. Honestly at this point it may be safer not to know.

I'm not at all sure they'll be ready for tomorrow night...

Ordinarily I would say:

  • the choreography is unfinished,
  • half the cast is improvising,
  • Glenda is one martini away from trying to duet with the moon,
  • and the windmill currently makes a noise suggesting spiritual unrest.
But. These are gerbils. This is a species that once:
  • rebuilt the snug overnight after the Fondue Incident,
  • organised an eight-part winter pageant despite losing the script to a wombat-related cheese emergency,
  • and somehow produced a fully operational espresso bar during a power cut using only candlelight and “collective morale.”
The important thing is that gerbil productions do not proceed according to normal theatrical laws. Human theatre relies on:
  • planning,
  • restraint,
  • health and safety forms.
Gerbil theatre runs almost entirely on:
  • momentum,
  • emotional commitment,
  • sequins,
  • and a terrifying belief that things become technically feasible if accompanied by enough accordions.
And honestly? They may currently look unprepared. But somewhere beneath the chaos:
  • Gloria is seeing the whole shape of the thing,
  • the capybaras are quietly preventing structural collapse,
  • Gwendolyn has entered a higher plane of dramatic consciousness,
  • and Gubbins has, against all probability, begun hitting the triangle at approximately the correct moments.
That last one alone suggests destiny is moving. By tomorrow evening the Bluey will probably appear unchanged from the outside. Then the doors will open. Music will rise from nowhere. The windmill will ignite harmlessly but emotionally. And for two impossible hours everyone in the pub will believe utterly in:
  • truth,
  • beauty,
  • freedom,
  • and sequins.
Possibly not in that order.
Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 21:19

Do we know where Gosie's got to?

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 21:25

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 21:19

Do we know where Gosie's got to?

Shhhhh... She's been playing with tractors.

EdithStourton · 07/05/2026 21:31

Magpiecomplex · 07/05/2026 21:25

Shhhhh... She's been playing with tractors.

<taps side of nose>

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 07/05/2026 22:22

Gosh, can't wait for the actual performance!

Err...does anyone one need the croquembouche?

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 07/05/2026 22:25

Sorry about the interview Magpie. It sounds as though it would have been more trouble than it's worth though, especially with the commute.

RandomHypatia · 07/05/2026 22:32

I once had my dream job with a nightmare commute. I left after less than a year. It will have been good practice for your next interview (hopefully in a better location).

ErrolTheDragon · 07/05/2026 22:48

I took the long way back after voting in the church hall - on through the graveyard, across fields and lane to the canal. No interesting tractors but there were many birds including a towpath heron, buzzard flying over low - and a hare running on the other bank, black-tipped ears above the long grass.

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
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MarieDeGournay · 08/05/2026 00:22

Myrtle, I only have to see that there is another Gerbil Performance Post to start smiling, even before I read it😂

I have to say, though, the capybaras are coming across as a bit lax on health and safety - 'load-bearing-ish' and 'define safely' are not the kind of thing we've come to expect from them. Where is Capability? Is she on holidays or something? She needs to get back pronto and Impose Standards!

several gerbils were seen measuring the pub chimney
They were indeed - photographic evidence attached😄

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