Daughter in early 20s lonely due to GC views

[Currentquandry]

My daughter is in her early twenties. She is GC and is struggling because so few of her peers have similar opinions. She is very lonely because of this. Are there any online groups she could join to give her a sense of community? She is also ND. Thank you in advance for your advice…

Can you prove that she has bigoted hateful views? If so, there’s £1,000,000 waiting to be collected.

Having integrity and staying true to yourself can often lead you to be a loner, or at least someone who is not so dependent on, or wrapped up, in having lots of 'friends'. Few and faithful is better, in my view. Even when you are in you teens and twenties.

I suppose at least she’s not advocating women get raped with a what was it…. Ah yes “splintery baseball bat”. Wasn’t that what you were saying? I mean, that’s just for women saying no to you.

I just think the screenshots are a bit much.

@Currentquandry

In amongst all the posts making extreme assumptions about your daughter, there is some good advice about encouraging her to seek out hobbies and sports.

Of course, she should be able to discuss these issues with you, you can help her sort through it all. Sometimes if the need to talk is stifled, it causes the very fixation that wasn’t there in the first place, but develops with having no place to discuss it.

rolling pin

Did you have a thought about the post itself? Or the fact that Aida shared the link the post on here?

This is how I deal with it. Both my adult DC and their partners would berate my GC views. I just do not get into conversation with them about it. If it comes up I don't get drawn in.

I save my viewpoint for conversations with my BIL and my brother, who share my views.

Why? Aida also berated women for not posting under their own names and “owning their views”. I assume he’s more than happy to have his views discussed and debated as he claims he’s proud of them. He even tried to get one poster to meet him for a “conversation”.

@GlovedhandsCeciliaYou find the sharing of screenshots a bit much, but you’re ok with the splintery rolling pin?

I think it's dumb to out yourself but still feel the screenshots are unnecessary. I have no context for the post and am more interested in the thread topic.

"...And let's send a clear message to the world: fuck bigots and especially nazirowling with a splintery rolling pin."

What part of fucking JK Rowling and other people with a splintery rolling pin do you think is not a corrective rape threat?

Yes, it is probably quite difficult to be surrounded by people who bang on about the omnicause all of the time......as is typical on many university campuses these days.

Why?

Given that Aida posted a link to his post himself.

Why is the screenshot 'too much'? I'm intrigued.

Do you need context? Is there anyway that suggesting anyone should be fucked by a splintery rolling pin becomes acceptable?

But sure, sharing a screenshot of the exact same post Aida has shared himself in this thread (and others) is worse.

Well yes, because how can someone argue males with a trans identity are no threat to women when those very males are er…. Threatening women 😂😂😂

I had the option of scrolling past the link. Didnt even see it, in fact. Only reference to their activity on other sites. No choice but to see the screenshot. It isnt the topic of the thread and no party posting are the authors of the thread so I don't see the relevance or why it's being hashed out here.

I am sick of the defenders of these disgusting men, men who wish the worst kind of sexual violence upon women. Any man who would write such a perverted description of what he would like to do to a woman who disagrees with him is telling you very clearly what he likes to masturbate over. They are pathetic specimens.

I don’t know how anyone can defend this, it makes you as sick as they are. Just fuck off to Reddit where they enjoy this stuff. We know these men get a kick out of upsetting ‘the Mumsnet bigots’ as they call us, and it also feeds their humiliation fetish.

I don’t know why we should have to tolerate these men on here, but it is a perfect example of ‘Let Them Speak’.

And fuck off with ‘be kind’. No, we won’t be kind to fucking porn-addled perverts who get their kicks from posting here.

There is no context that makes your post on Bluesky appropriate.

And ‘heads rolling’ is a commonly used term for terminating employment for senior executives. I don’t think you can say that calling for women to be fucked with splintery rolling pins can be taken any other way. You would be calling for violence even if you added the word ‘up’ and made it ‘fucked up’. But you wrote what you wrote.

Because you’re saying OPs daughter should “shut up” about her views, so we’re wondering if you would give @AidaP the same advice?

Yes and I said that earlier. In fact the only reason any of this has any relevance is that if the daughter behaves anything like any of you, it is no surprise that she is lonely...

Uh huh.

Anyway!

Back the actual OP. As the social contagion finally starts to die down (the children going up to Uni in the next few years are far more eyerolly and 'don't be such a they/them' about the whole thing), then unis will go back to being a place where people can actually discuss things. OP, there will be other people like your daughter, she just needs to find them. Wishing her luck

How many times does it come up?! Maybe she is coming across as a bit of a single issue bigot. Tolerance doesn't mean only tolerating thing you wholeheartedly agree with. It means tolerating other people's views even if you don't respect them very much.

Yes back to the OP indeed.

Uh huh.