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A UK forum is encouraging a desperate parent of a trans identified male to seek out DIY hormones, without consulting health care professionals, how is this dangerous advice legal?

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 17/03/2026 09:52

OP "If anyone could help me to understand, I would be extremely grateful. I just want my daughter to be alive and happy in her own skin as much as possible ."

Responses: "diy is reliable and safe, there are communities that will be able to help, and really all it is getting a blood test every now and then to check how low or high a couple numbers are and adjusting accordingly."

Full details here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1rw0bac/please_help_parent_to_a_16_year_old/

How is this even slightly legal? The pro anorexia sites were shut down right? The pro suicide?

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lifeturnsonadime · 19/03/2026 21:59

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 21:55

I didn’t say that. I said at my stage of transition, I can be almost certain my presence isn’t having a negative impact on others. If my presence was having an actual negative impact on others I wouldn’t use female spaces.

There are plenty of women on here telling you that it does have a negative impact.

It makes a single sex space mixed sex and makes actual women less safe.

So now you know that I assume you will care enough about women to fuck off out of those spaces?

SternJoyousBeev2 · 19/03/2026 21:59

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 21:55

I didn’t say that. I said at my stage of transition, I can be almost certain my presence isn’t having a negative impact on others. If my presence was having an actual negative impact on others I wouldn’t use female spaces.

You are absolutely clueless. The fact that women of certain religious faiths may end up having to self exclude from women’s services and spaces because of men like you means nothing to you.

We are telling you that your presence in women only spaces has a negative impact so stay out from now on.

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:01

Helleofabore · 18/03/2026 06:31

I know I don't "pass" I haven't been concerned with such a thing since I was 17.

Yet you have spent threads telling us that no one in your daily life knew you were male unless you told them?

This does seem a remarkable admission considering what you have posted on many threads now.

Is this what sex realists define as 'passing?' Then, under that definition I still don't pass. I am a woman, I don't 'pass as a woman.'

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:01

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 21:58

You don't have any idea what impact you are having on women. How extraordinarily presumptuous to claim you do. Ugh.

I see how people react to me everyday so I think I can have some idea

Greyskybluesky · 19/03/2026 22:02

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:01

I see how people react to me everyday so I think I can have some idea

You have no idea

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:03

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:01

I see how people react to me everyday so I think I can have some idea

You haven't got a f*cking clue what women are really thinking.

Which speaks volumes about your male entitlement 🙄

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:03

biwr · 18/03/2026 06:34

if someone is truly happy with their identity and likes who they are, they don’t spend literally hours on forums trying to persuade people that they’re truly happy with their identity and like who they are.

Generally, people don't have politically active groups advocating for denying their health care and wholesale lawfare targeted at their removal from society.

SternJoyousBeev2 · 19/03/2026 22:04

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:01

I see how people react to me everyday so I think I can have some idea

No you don’t!!!!! You see what you want to see, you hear what you want to hear. You are male and need to stay out of female only spaces to give security and comfort to women who cannot share intimate spaces with men. The fact you can’t or won’t understand that leaves us with the impression that you are just selfish and can not put others needs in front of your wants.

Greyskybluesky · 19/03/2026 22:04

"Removal from society"

Oh the melodrama

Just leave women's stuff alone

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:05

SternJoyousBeev2 · 19/03/2026 21:59

You are absolutely clueless. The fact that women of certain religious faiths may end up having to self exclude from women’s services and spaces because of men like you means nothing to you.

We are telling you that your presence in women only spaces has a negative impact so stay out from now on.

I’ve known people of those faiths you mention who have had no issue sharing a space with me.

I find it interesting you bring up religion because in most situations I’m sure you’d say you’re under no obligation to act a certain way because of someone’s beliefs.

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:05

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:03

Generally, people don't have politically active groups advocating for denying their health care and wholesale lawfare targeted at their removal from society.

No one is 'removing you from society' you complete drama queen. Just use the spaces for your own sex, like everybody else.

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:05

RedToothBrush · 18/03/2026 08:46

Extreme trans ideology behaves like a cult. It is psuedo scientific and pseudo religious. If you do not adhere to the holy Tennants (sic) you are an apostate and 'anti-trans'. Except it's more holey than holy.

MN isn't anti-trans. It's pro-woman and pro-children. This is problematic for a male centred ideology which seeks to trample over the rights and protections of women and children.

Time and again we see Me-railing and attempts to tell us something is safe based on antidotes and outright lies. All to convince a parent to transition their child.

In this case we have some one advocating for childhood transition even though they transitioned as an adult. They try to make out the drugs are safe based on their singular experience. Yet this isn't scientific. It's utter bollocks. Especially given the other comments made by the same person about how they are now biologically female. There's the antidotes about menopause and being told to come off HRT because they've reached a certain age when women's hormones decline so they have experience of menopause. It's strange because this is the age women start hormone treatment. So why be told to come off the drugs? Again the question of safety arises.

No evidence of any quality is ever supplied. Just already discredited nonsense.

We have explored multiple times why control of children is so essential to adult transitioners. They are the scaffold to legitimacy and access to women. Note women not women's spaces. Neutral gender neutral facilities are not ok.

When defending womens spaces, it becomes apparent that if they can't be colonised by males then the default response is to destroy the space or service by any means possible. Because it's a men's rights movement.

Women are not allowed to speak for themselves or advocate for children - despite so many having direct experience with their children, partners and other family members. There's no mention of the patterns of abuse and coercion elsewhere yet we know it's happening because that's our lived experience. It's a dirty little secret no one wants to hear. We know children have high rates of detransition if left to just wait it out. We know that there's a whole scandal with the Tavistock and how kids were groomed online and parents were coached and blackmailed out of fear. These threats have all since been discredited yet still they persist. We know several studies have picked up the large numbers of gay and lesbian kids who have identified as trans and the comments by parents like Susie Green which are pretty much about erasure of gayness and transing away the gay. A man isn't gay if he transitions and then dates a man. Except of course he is. Because otherwise gay ceases to have any legal protection nor meaning as per the Supreme Court Ruling.

What stands out everytime with these male transitioners is how they are oblivious to the female experience of life and how they can barely get through a post without it being all about them. There's no reflection on how they don't represent a teen girl. Nor even a teen boy when they talk about blockers and how this might affect the success of transition.

Indeed there is zero discussion about the limitations of transition. Nor the side effects of transition. Nor the risks of transition. This is always verboten. This is concerning.

You should always consider the information that's clearly omitted as well as the information that is included.

Given as wives, mothers and others relations who live behind those closed doors and see up close the downsides and how it isn't a magic bullet to mental distress but we are expected to play along and pretend transition and especially early transition is a pathway to living happily ever after no matter what our experience and observations are it's quite something. We must be silent and complicit or we will be punished. We will be smeared, we will be abused, we will lose careers, we will be threatened with losing our loved ones. We are expected to stay by and watch others actively harmed knowing what we know, without allowing the opportunity to have a discussion.

Informed consent requires us to tell the truth.

But here's the thing. As mother's our job is to protect even if it's uncool and unfashionable. We don't let our kids just do anything they like because their friends are all doing it. We aren't right wing or conservative when we do this. We just can identify harms and risks. And sometimes it's our job to 'be the bad guy' because we know being cool mum can lead to far far worse in the long run.

The reality which has been born out by just about every piece of research on the subject is the kids who identify as trans have deeply complex histories and issues which don't just go away on transition. Indeed transition can block access to therapy and other forms of support for wider issues because it's viewed as 'anti-trans'... Because it asks deep questions about how someone feels deep down.

It never fails to amaze me how many of the plopping transitioners seek to paint a rosy picture of passing and having no medical issues. Only for them to drop a comment every so often which shows the facade of bullshit and how it's really not their lived reality. We see what happens out of sight of the PR.

The problem is that the process of admitting it's not an ideal solution and that you can't actually change sex so traumatic in its own right, the only thing they can do is to lash out at anyone identifying reality and speaking it.

It's a house of cards. It's so fragile. They know how fragile it is. They know it's got nothing of substance. We aren't the big bad wolf though. Unfortunately a gust of wind reveals this.

There is no such thing as "trans ideology." Therefore there cannot be anything such as "extreme trans ideology."

There was no such thing as the "gay agenda" either, but it didn't prevent millions of conservatives and homophobes from trying to destroy the lives of gays and lesbians.

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:06

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:05

I’ve known people of those faiths you mention who have had no issue sharing a space with me.

I find it interesting you bring up religion because in most situations I’m sure you’d say you’re under no obligation to act a certain way because of someone’s beliefs.

Amd these people you know do not get to consent on behalf of other women, you understand that, right?

You are ignoring women's consent. There's a word for men who do that.

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:07

PrettyDamnCosmic · 18/03/2026 09:39

What happened to your UK wife & kids who don't even know that you are a trans identifying male?

Who's wife? You're mad.

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:07

Greyskybluesky · 19/03/2026 22:04

"Removal from society"

Oh the melodrama

Just leave women's stuff alone

The capacity for DRAMA is off the charts. It's like dealing with a bunch of 12 year olds.

Greyskybluesky · 19/03/2026 22:08

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:07

The capacity for DRAMA is off the charts. It's like dealing with a bunch of 12 year olds.

Mum...it's soooo unfairrrrrrr......

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:08

Greyskybluesky · 19/03/2026 22:08

Mum...it's soooo unfairrrrrrr......

Quite

SternJoyousBeev2 · 19/03/2026 22:08

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:03

Generally, people don't have politically active groups advocating for denying their health care and wholesale lawfare targeted at their removal from society.

Demanding you stay out of our single sex spaces is NOT removing you from society. If you choose to self exclude because you are not getting your own way then that’s just tough.

The hyberbolic approach doesn’t work on us anymore.

Gender delulus need to realise that it’s 2026.

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:10

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:06

Amd these people you know do not get to consent on behalf of other women, you understand that, right?

You are ignoring women's consent. There's a word for men who do that.

Society is not a democracy where every single person has to agree to something before it’s allowed.

I’d like your response to this: I find it interesting you bring up religion because in most situations I’m sure you’d say you’re under no obligation to act a certain way because of someone’s beliefs

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:10

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:10

Society is not a democracy where every single person has to agree to something before it’s allowed.

I’d like your response to this: I find it interesting you bring up religion because in most situations I’m sure you’d say you’re under no obligation to act a certain way because of someone’s beliefs

Women's single sex spaces are not yours to violate or individual women's to give away.

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:11

Datun · 18/03/2026 10:37

This poster invokes their mother frequently. In a brief search I've got up to 14 mentions.

Nothing wrong with a man being close to his mother, of course, except he then says that he has the same body type and shape as his mother and asserts that he himself is a wife and mother.

I've been spending a lot of time with my mother this past week. I'm sorry if we've been discussing our lives and the memories are quite present in the moment. (There's another you can add to the tally!)

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:11

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:10

Society is not a democracy where every single person has to agree to something before it’s allowed.

I’d like your response to this: I find it interesting you bring up religion because in most situations I’m sure you’d say you’re under no obligation to act a certain way because of someone’s beliefs

And I didn't bring up religion 😵‍💫

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:12

SternJoyousBeev2 · 19/03/2026 22:08

Demanding you stay out of our single sex spaces is NOT removing you from society. If you choose to self exclude because you are not getting your own way then that’s just tough.

The hyberbolic approach doesn’t work on us anymore.

Gender delulus need to realise that it’s 2026.

Are you asking for the GRA to be repealed? Are you an advocate for trans healthcare to be withdrawn?

These have nothing to do with single sex spaces and are things I’ve seen on this forum.

TheKeatingFive · 19/03/2026 22:13

TiredOfYourLies · 19/03/2026 22:12

Are you asking for the GRA to be repealed? Are you an advocate for trans healthcare to be withdrawn?

These have nothing to do with single sex spaces and are things I’ve seen on this forum.

She's asking you to respect the damn law

onepostwonder · 19/03/2026 22:13

Helleofabore · 18/03/2026 11:04

How often do we see mothers being used as an appeal to authority though for male people to do something that female people say shouldn’t be happening? It is a fairly common fall back tool that starts in childhood. ‘My mother says …’

However, we have seen what some mothers will say and do to keep their children happy. I don’t think it is a credible appeal to authority.

How often do sex realists claim to speak on behalf of all women, but especially all mothers? More than trans people speak of relationships with their mothers.

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