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The Bluestocking Women’s Pub: Where Clever Women Sit and Think, While Gerbils Run the Bar.

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MyrtleLion · 06/02/2026 20:30

Come in. Yes, you’re in the right place. No, you don’t need to explain yourself.

Coats will be drycleaned before you depart. Bags won't be stolen because Gubbins will play her triangle. And you really don't want to hear it.

The gerbils run the bar.
They are small, brisk, and unionised.
One is polishing a glass with unnecessary seriousness.
Another is keeping the tab and will remember what you ordered last time.
There is a triangle involved. No one knows why. It keeps Gubbins happy.

Sit. Think. Drink. Join in.

The gerbils have it from here.

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Welcome to The Bluestocking: convivial by design, opinionated in the *^best^* way, generously stocked with excellent food and drink that complies with...

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MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 16:58

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 16:54

Hot chocolate made with mostly water, Deano? Not for me, but I imagine the original cocoa bean growers would think it’s a good thing.

Cocoa and sugar (both dry) missed together.
Add a bit of milk.
Mix to a stiff paste.
Add a little bit more milk.
Mix to a smooth paste.
Add boiling water, stirring as you pour.

Perfect hot chocolate.

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DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 16:59

It's cocoa rather than hot chocolate - what the Victorian health writers recommended instead of tea or coffee (too stimulating don't you know).

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 17:00

And we're 49 48 posts (after this one) from the end of the thread. Do we have a volunteer to manage the next one?

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DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:02

It's the turmeric and black pepper that have the anti-inflammatory effect.

allegedly.

I am not a medic.

DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:02

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 17:00

And we're 49 48 posts (after this one) from the end of the thread. Do we have a volunteer to manage the next one?

me do?

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 17:03

DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:02

me do?

That would be lovely 💙

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AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 22/02/2026 17:06

@AsWithGlad " I even try to match the peg colour to the colour of the garment"

That too, but I didn't want to put all my little foibles out at once Grin

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:10

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 16:37

Trying to remember the word, the perfect word, that's just on the tip of your...brain is wossname annoying.

I have good news, well it was news to me.
It can be part of the joyous bundle of experiences which come with menopause. The thing that surprised me was it starts to get better afterwards. It wasn’t a permanent part of ageing.
Until you get Long Covid, that is.

Menopause gave me many things.
Poorer memory
Questionable balance
Less tolerance for wanky behaviour
Thinner skin (literally, that is; metaphorically I acquired a carapace as a consequence of the lowered tolerance for wanky behaviour)

The first went almost back to pre-menopause levels; the second recovered entirely. The other two have stayed. I was recently told that one of DH's relatives has lately concluded that she might have misjudged me decades ago, when she started being a bit of dick to me. Pre-menopause me would have said, 'Oh, that's good! I'll make sure I have a nice chat next time we meet.' Post menopause me goes, 'Huh, sure thing, believe that when I see it. And after 30 years of being a dick, the charming relative can make the running because I just cannot be bothered.'

And @WearyAuldWumman you do not need a 'wee diary', you need a Big Bastard Bullet Journal.

FuzzyPuffling · 22/02/2026 17:11

DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 16:48

I don't add sugar to my cocoa, but do add black pepper and turmeric. And top it up with full fat milk, though I make it with water.

After a year or so of that my bad knee has shrunk by nearly two knee-brace sizes, though the rest of me is still slightly larger than I should be.

I take daily turmeric (with black pepper and ginger) with the blessing of my rheumatologist, to help with inflammation. I can't have any NSAIDs because of dodgy kidneys, but my CRP and autoimmune conditions are pretty stable.

Is it the turmeric? No idea.
Does it taste like compost heap? Yes.

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:13

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 16:58

Cocoa and sugar (both dry) missed together.
Add a bit of milk.
Mix to a stiff paste.
Add a little bit more milk.
Mix to a smooth paste.
Add boiling water, stirring as you pour.

Perfect hot chocolate.

I’ll try it. Once.

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:15

Does it taste like compost heap? Yes.

Thank you, Fuzzy. I am forewarned, and will buy only a small amount of turmeric, to try it.

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:15

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:13

I’ll try it. Once.

The perfect cocoa is made by mixing cocoa powder and sugar as per Myrtle's directions until the bit about adding boiling water.
Nonononono!
Add just-boiled milk, as it's rising up the sides of the pan, and stir it in vigorously.

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 17:19

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:15

The perfect cocoa is made by mixing cocoa powder and sugar as per Myrtle's directions until the bit about adding boiling water.
Nonononono!
Add just-boiled milk, as it's rising up the sides of the pan, and stir it in vigorously.

My recipe is informed by the cost of milk as a child...

And lactose intolerance as an adult.

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FuzzyPuffling · 22/02/2026 17:19

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:15

Does it taste like compost heap? Yes.

Thank you, Fuzzy. I am forewarned, and will buy only a small amount of turmeric, to try it.

I buy tiny pills and swallow them whole.
DO NOT CHEW.

Magpiecomplex · 22/02/2026 17:19

I have a Velvetiser Mk 1. It makes a good job of hot chocolate even with skimmed milk (because I don't buy anything else).

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:20

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:15

The perfect cocoa is made by mixing cocoa powder and sugar as per Myrtle's directions until the bit about adding boiling water.
Nonononono!
Add just-boiled milk, as it's rising up the sides of the pan, and stir it in vigorously.

That’s how I make it, except I heat the milk in a microwave. The Pyrex I do it in is easier to clean, and I don’t need to keep an eye on it to stop it boiling over.

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:22

FuzzyPuffling · 22/02/2026 17:19

I buy tiny pills and swallow them whole.
DO NOT CHEW.

Oh, I hadn’t realised that gave you enough turmeric to be effective.
Do you get grass-cutting- flavoured burps?

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:24

Thank you for the song starting the new thread, @DeanElderberry . It wasn’t familiar, but it looked like something Google would know.

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:25

MyrtleLion · 22/02/2026 17:19

My recipe is informed by the cost of milk as a child...

And lactose intolerance as an adult.

Ah, fair enough.
We were skint, and cocoa was a bit of a treat.

I gather lactose intolerance is a bit of a bugger.

Magpiecomplex · 22/02/2026 17:26

EdithStourton · 22/02/2026 17:10

Menopause gave me many things.
Poorer memory
Questionable balance
Less tolerance for wanky behaviour
Thinner skin (literally, that is; metaphorically I acquired a carapace as a consequence of the lowered tolerance for wanky behaviour)

The first went almost back to pre-menopause levels; the second recovered entirely. The other two have stayed. I was recently told that one of DH's relatives has lately concluded that she might have misjudged me decades ago, when she started being a bit of dick to me. Pre-menopause me would have said, 'Oh, that's good! I'll make sure I have a nice chat next time we meet.' Post menopause me goes, 'Huh, sure thing, believe that when I see it. And after 30 years of being a dick, the charming relative can make the running because I just cannot be bothered.'

And @WearyAuldWumman you do not need a 'wee diary', you need a Big Bastard Bullet Journal.

I have a socking great day-per-page academic year diary. Absolutely essential in my line of work!

DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:28

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:24

Thank you for the song starting the new thread, @DeanElderberry . It wasn’t familiar, but it looked like something Google would know.

I have added a YouTube clip of the great Maureen Potter (who I once saw acting Siobhán McKenna off the stage in Arsenic and Old Lace, and quelling any audience members inclined to laugh at the wrong places) singing it.

Magpiecomplex · 22/02/2026 17:29

Is anyone else getting adverts for Sainsbury's single ripe papaya? I keep thinking it's an avocado as I scroll past, and then realising it isn't. Not sure why Sainsbury's think I want a papaya, I haven't bought one since the younger offspring was weaning!

DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:32

I quite like my anti-inflammatory cocoa - it's a bit 'grown up' it its non-sweet, non-milkiness, but not much more so than coffee, and I really do think it has done me good. This week I've been ringing the changes by using cacao powder rather than cocoa - it's basically the same thing.

FuzzyPuffling · 22/02/2026 17:35

AsWithGlad · 22/02/2026 17:22

Oh, I hadn’t realised that gave you enough turmeric to be effective.
Do you get grass-cutting- flavoured burps?

Allegedly you do get enough. I get mine from Nutrition Geeks.

No burping here!

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