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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Isn’t AGP also what every woman experiences when they get dressed up & feel good about themselves?

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Theboredpanda · 20/01/2026 11:04

I have no agenda here. I’ve always just been interested in exploring other perspectives of debates…although I’m sure this particular thought will get flamed on here and end up very one-sided indeed 🤣
I don’t believe every trans woman has AGP, but I believe a significant proportion do. And I’ve always considered that proportion to be creepy, I feel anger at the fact these men get to walk around, at least in some circles, socially accepted as women, just so they can satisfy a sexual fetish. However, I was thinking about how I feel as a woman who’s comfortable and happy about being a woman when I get dressed up in my favourite sexy outfit and put on some makeup. It makes me feel sexy. Not sexually aroused but I do feel sexy. Is that vastly different to what a trans woman feels like when they get dressed up and look (at least in their eyes) like a woman? Could it be that it’s either not AGP and we all feel sexy when we know we look good as the gender we are or want to be…or everyone’s a bit AGP when they think they look sexy because they therefore feel sexy? Or is this a totally unoriginal thought that’s already been troped out by TRAs and actually there is a huge difference??

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ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:45

KittyWilkinson · 25/01/2026 17:43

Well it's a tad surprising. To say the least.
If I type in escort, will I find a selection of Ford cars?

That would at least be logical.

There's niche, and there's upside down porn summoned by the FCO.

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:47

Helleofabore · 25/01/2026 17:38

And the majority of people agree that male people should be excluded from female single sex provisions:

YOUGOV UK TRACKER COMPARISONS

The following is the data from UK trackers from 2018 - 2024 tracking public opinion as part of their series of 'Where does the British public stand on transgender rights'. 2018 results included where they are available.

Here are some of the results that relate to the needs for female people to have single sex provisions:

In the following questions a transgender woman is someone who was biologically male at birth, but now identifies as a woman. A transgender man is someone who was biologically female at birth, but now identifies as a man.

Do you think transgender women should or should not be allowed to…
Take part in women's sporting events?2018 in italics, 2022 in [brackets vs 2024
Should be allowed 27 [16] 12% 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 15%
Should not be allowed 48 [61] 74% 2018 - 2024 this is increase by 26%
Don't know 25 [22] 14%. 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 11%

Use women's changing rooms? 2022 in brackets vs 2024
Should be allowed 42 [34] 25%. 2018 - 2024* this is decrease by 17%
Should not be allowed 33 [43] 58%. 2018 - 2024 this is increase by 25%
Don't know 25 [23] 17%. 2018 - 2024 *this is decrease by 8%

Use women's toilets? 2022 in brackets vs 2024
Should be allowed 46 [38] 33%. 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 13%
Should not be allowed 30 [41] 51%. 2018 - 2024* *this is increase by 20%
Don't know 23 [21] 16%. 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 7%

Use women's refuges? 2022 in brackets vs 2024
Should be allowed 47 [39] 29%. 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 18%
Should not be allowed 27 [36] 55%. 2018 - 2024 this is increase by 28%
Don't know 26 [25] 16%. 2018 - 2024 this is decrease by 10%

No surgery question was asked in 2018

And the specific non surgical question from 2020:

Do you think a transgender woman who has not had gender reassignment surgery should or should not be allowed to...

Use women's changing rooms? 2020 in italics, 2022 in [brackets] vs 2024
Should be allowed 26 [25] 19%. 2020 - 2024 this is decrease by 7%
Should not be allowed 46 [48] 63%. 2020 - 2024* *this is increase by 17%
Don't know 28 [27] 18%. 2020 - 2024 this is decrease by 10%

Use women's toilets?
Should be allowed 31 [29] 23%. 2020 - 2024* *this is decrease by 8%
Should not be allowed 41 [46] 60%. 2020 - 2024 this is increase by 19%
Don't know 27 [25] 18%. 2020 - 2024 this is decrease by 9%

And finally:
This question was also not asked in 2018

Do you believe that allowing transgender women to use spaces reserved for women, such as women's toilets or changing rooms, does or does not present a genuine risk of harm to women? 2020 in italics, 2022 in [brackets] vs 2024
Does not present a genuine risk of harm 39 [32] 25%. 2020 - 2024 this is decrease by 14%
Does present a genuine risk of harm 32 [39] 55%. 2020 - 2024 this is increase by 23%
Don't know 29 [29] 20%. 2020 - 2024 this is decrease by 9%

d3nkl3psvxxpe9.cloudfront.net/documents/Transgender_data_2018.pdf

https://d3nkl3psvxxpe9.cloudfront.net/documents/Transgender_data_2020.pdf

https://d3nkl3psvxxpe9.cloudfront.net/documents/Internal_TransgenderIssues_220720_final_extraXbreak_FINAL.pdf

https://ygo-assets-websites-editorial-emea.yougov.net/documents/YouGov_-_Transgender_study_2024.pdf

The amount of people supporting something don't justify it or decide right or wrong. Appeal to popularity.

MarieDeGournay · 25/01/2026 17:49

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:41

It's factually wrong to say that someone is a predator because they go against a law. Being a predator requires intent and action. That's your fallacy.

Yay! 🎉Something we can all agree on:
It's factually wrong to say that someone is a predator because they go against a law.
Absolutely agree! If somebody breaks the law by nicking a Mars bar from the corner shop, that makes them a shoplifter, but that does not make him a predator.
No argument there at all.
Can we all go and have our tea now that we are As One on something?

Waitwhat23 · 25/01/2026 17:49

ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:42

Jesus. I've lost the will to live. Its like arguing with soup.

Dunno, I make a pretty robust lentil soup that could probably hold it's own.

Datun · 25/01/2026 17:49

🤣

Seethlaw · 25/01/2026 17:50

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:47

The amount of people supporting something don't justify it or decide right or wrong. Appeal to popularity.

You're right. Which is why we don't care how many people think like you, or how many women don't have a problem with transwomen in women's single sex spaces. Because it doesn't matter. What matters is that female single-sex spaces exist, that men know that, and that it says a whole lot of bad things when a man chooses to enter such a space anyway.

MrsMist · 25/01/2026 17:50

@Skywinn most women don't want men in single sex spaces not matter what your mum says 😂

Helleofabore · 25/01/2026 17:50

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:12

Doesn't actually answer the question. You can't tell apart a passable trans man or a man at a brie glance, sometimes even a long one. So, a man could easily walk in, claim he's a trans man, and you wouldn't know any better.

And again you are weaponising female people with transgender identities to attempt to convince others that female people should not expect that their female single sex provisions are female single sex.

The fact that you have been told by a trans man how they and others interact with female people in such situations shows your willingness to talk over the top of any female person who disagrees with you.

ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:50

Waitwhat23 · 25/01/2026 17:49

Dunno, I make a pretty robust lentil soup that could probably hold it's own.

Has it got bits in it?

Datun · 25/01/2026 17:50

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:47

The amount of people supporting something don't justify it or decide right or wrong. Appeal to popularity.

I'm loving this. So you can't appeal to the law, you can't appeal to the massive majority of women, or men.

I'm wondering what it is you can appeal to...

.. I'm guessing fuck all

edited to add, no, I've got it, it's Sky's mum

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:51

Seethlaw · 25/01/2026 17:44

I don't believe that law = automatically correct so I don't know why you keep harping on about that.

I also don't care whether it's legal or illegal for people to use whichever toilets they want. What I care about, is what it says about a man that he would use a women-only space, knowing full well that he's expected not to.

I don't judge people based on social expectations. You can, that's on you. And trans people are typically not expected to not use the opposite toilets. They were doing it for decades without it being treated like a serious issue.

Waitwhat23 · 25/01/2026 17:51

ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:50

Has it got bits in it?

Nah, I zoom it.

MaggieBsBoat · 25/01/2026 17:52

I’ve literally never been turned on by myself.

Hoardasurass · 25/01/2026 17:52

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 15:17

I don't just believe in charts or statistics. And the chart you listed is claiming that 'men who identify as women' commit the most crime, so the conclusion you want to come to is what? What happened to the claim that most trans identified people are gay and autistic? You can't just show a chart generalizing that trans people commit more crime, and then have a tantrum when people think you're trying to demonize them

No it say that they are 5× more likely to commit a sex offences than any other type of male.
The figures came from the ministry of justice and the office of national statistics.
Its a fact that men who identify as trans are more likely to be a sex offender than any other group of people, pointing out that fact and saying that because of that we must insist that all men especially those who identify as trans are kept out of women's single sex facilities and thats not demonising anyone. Its safeguarding 101, you identify the threat and take reasonable precautions to prevent it.

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:52

Datun · 25/01/2026 17:50

I'm loving this. So you can't appeal to the law, you can't appeal to the massive majority of women, or men.

I'm wondering what it is you can appeal to...

.. I'm guessing fuck all

edited to add, no, I've got it, it's Sky's mum

Edited

Neither law nor popularity decide right or wrong. That's a fact.

Greyskybluesky · 25/01/2026 17:53

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:52

Neither law nor popularity decide right or wrong. That's a fact.

Or your mum

ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:53

MrsMist · 25/01/2026 17:50

@Skywinn most women don't want men in single sex spaces not matter what your mum says 😂

That was sort of sweet tbh. But Skywinn needs to put down the Ladybird Book Of Fallacies and listen to women when they say no. Men can't use women's spaces because their mum said they could.

Datun · 25/01/2026 17:54

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:51

I don't judge people based on social expectations. You can, that's on you. And trans people are typically not expected to not use the opposite toilets. They were doing it for decades without it being treated like a serious issue.

It was a serious issue, and it was unlawful. It still is.

Hence all the women taking it to the Supreme Court. They're not doing it for no reason ya know.

ArabellaScott · 25/01/2026 17:54

Greyskybluesky · 25/01/2026 17:53

Or your mum

😁

Helleofabore · 25/01/2026 17:54

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:26

Most women don't seem to care, many have no issue with sharing restrooms, nude spaces etc. I asked my mum if she was against the idea of trans women using the same toilets and she said she didn't care. You don't speak for half the human population. You have your feelings, they have theirs. What's not okay is telling people they are predators for not agreeing with your view.

This is a rather telling post.

Thanks for the clarification.

Datun · 25/01/2026 17:56

Greyskybluesky · 25/01/2026 17:53

Or your mum

It's hilarious, isn't it. Sky's mum is the arbiter. Not the law, not all the women, not the morality, the statistics, the experience.

Sky's mum.

I'm guessing that truly is an appeal to authority!!

Seethlaw · 25/01/2026 17:56

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:51

I don't judge people based on social expectations. You can, that's on you. And trans people are typically not expected to not use the opposite toilets. They were doing it for decades without it being treated like a serious issue.

I don't judge people based on social expectations. You can, that's on you.

You say it like it's a bad thing, but I've found that being careful around people who knowingly break social contracts is the prudent thing to do.

And trans people are typically not expected to not use the opposite toilets. They were doing it for decades without it being treated like a serious issue.

True. But then, for decades, trans people were trying their damndest to not be pests and to not bother women in their spaces. Now those times are gone in the UK, and consequently new social contracts have to be put into place. It's not women who triggered that change; it's trans people. FAFO. Too bad.

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:58

Hoardasurass · 25/01/2026 17:52

No it say that they are 5× more likely to commit a sex offences than any other type of male.
The figures came from the ministry of justice and the office of national statistics.
Its a fact that men who identify as trans are more likely to be a sex offender than any other group of people, pointing out that fact and saying that because of that we must insist that all men especially those who identify as trans are kept out of women's single sex facilities and thats not demonising anyone. Its safeguarding 101, you identify the threat and take reasonable precautions to prevent it.

Which doesn't logically make sense, since supposedly most trans people are gay and autistic who aren't interested in women, which is another on going narrative that is often brought up in gender critical boards. And not to mention trans people are a small population. So there are two different narratives there. One claiming most trans identified men are predatory toward women, another saying most of them were feminine gay. autistic men. Given the small number, both can't make up the majority. So one of these narratives is either a lie, or greatly exaggerated.

borntobequiet · 25/01/2026 17:59

Helleofabore · 25/01/2026 17:54

This is a rather telling post.

Thanks for the clarification.

At least this one appears to be alive.

Helleofabore · 25/01/2026 17:59

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:30

Consent isn't required to be in the same room. You're argument boils down to authoritarian technicalities "WeLl, It sAyS WoMAn oN tHe DoOR". With no mind as to whether or not it's actually wrong. Laws do not factually dictate right or wrong. Appeals to the law don't give you credit.

Blimey. You really seem to not be well informed.

A male person who enters a female single sex provision can be removed. In workplace situations, there can be negative repercussions to that male person for that action.

Please, just use the toilet that is designated for your sex. Gender identity is irrelevant to accessing female single sex spaces because female people with transgender identities should be accessing those provisions.

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