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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Anne health Susie Greens new clinic

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Hoardasurass · 24/08/2025 07:43

So not happy with the puberty blockers ban in the UK and frustrated by Wes Streeting closing her planned loophole she found a new one and has been arranging for parents to take their kids abroad to get prescriptions of puberty blockers injections and testosterone for under 16s. The government has said its going to stop the practice but hasn't said how.

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BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 11:49

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 09:22

Sorry but if your starting point is that we can’t trust a 29 year old woman to decide she does not want children, is settled in that view, and is prepared to take an informed decision to ensure that she cannot become pregnant (insofar as it can be guaranteed at least), fully aware of the risk that she may later regret that decision, then we are so far apart on the rights of bodily autonomy that people should enjoy that there’s no point really in discussing this further.

All medical procedures carry risks of regret later on. Adults take medical decisions based on that. Most women would not seek a sterilisation at a young age precisely because they recognise that potential for regret. But those who wish to decide what happens to their own body, fully recognising the risk of later regret, should not be prevented from making that decision by doctors or a state who determines that preserving, against their will, their capacity to have babies is more important than allowing them to control their own fertility.

No where is the overlap between transphobia and the attack on womens bodily autonomy more evident than in this post.

Sorry but if your starting point is that we can’t trust a 29 year old woman to decide she does not want children, etc

It’s not MY starting point - it’s the starting point of the NHS based on treatment of millions of women.

No where is the overlap between transphobia and the attack on womens bodily autonomy more evident than in this post.

Are you genuinely suggesting that it’s ‘transphobic’ not to allow an 18 year old ‘bodily autonomy’ to sterilise themselves and have healthy body parts amputated for no medical reason and entirely shaky mental health grounds? And to allow other 18 year olds full bodily autonomy for other entirely spurious medical procedures?

I’m guessing you haven’t met many 18 year olds then.

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 12:05

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 09:22

Sorry but if your starting point is that we can’t trust a 29 year old woman to decide she does not want children, is settled in that view, and is prepared to take an informed decision to ensure that she cannot become pregnant (insofar as it can be guaranteed at least), fully aware of the risk that she may later regret that decision, then we are so far apart on the rights of bodily autonomy that people should enjoy that there’s no point really in discussing this further.

All medical procedures carry risks of regret later on. Adults take medical decisions based on that. Most women would not seek a sterilisation at a young age precisely because they recognise that potential for regret. But those who wish to decide what happens to their own body, fully recognising the risk of later regret, should not be prevented from making that decision by doctors or a state who determines that preserving, against their will, their capacity to have babies is more important than allowing them to control their own fertility.

No where is the overlap between transphobia and the attack on womens bodily autonomy more evident than in this post.

Sorry but if your starting point is that we can’t trust a 29 year old woman to decide she does not want children, etc

It’s not MY starting point - it’s the starting point of the NHS based on treatment of millions of women.

No where is the overlap between transphobia and the attack on womens bodily autonomy more evident than in this post.

Are you genuinely suggesting that it’s ‘transphobic’ not to allow an 18 year old ‘bodily autonomy’ to sterilise themselves and have healthy body parts amputated for no medical reason and entirely shaky mental health grounds? And to allow other 18 year olds full bodily autonomy for other entirely spurious medical procedures?

I’m guessing you haven’t met many 18 year olds then.

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 12:06

Oops double posted - not sure how that happened. I guess I feel extra strongly that kids/young people shouldn’t be blamed for medical harm at the hands of doctors who should know better.

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 12:06

Oops double posted - not sure how that happened. I guess I feel extra strongly that kids/young people shouldn’t be blamed for medical harm at the hands of doctors who should know better.

moto748e · 26/08/2025 12:13

So you keep saying... 😁

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:01

OldCrone · 26/08/2025 10:25

All I have said is that we know that many trans adults describe knowing they were trans as a child.

We know that's what they say. But I'm sure you're as aware as the rest of us that backstories can be embroidered or even simply invented. We don't know if they really knew or believed that as children, since we can't really know what's going on inside their heads.

But let's assume for a moment that those claims are true.

A trans adult says they knew they were trans as a child. They grew up and became a trans adult.

Are we also to assume that the converse is true? That every child who "knows" they are trans will grow up to be a trans adult? Or will it turn out to be just a phase or social contagion for many of them? After all, there are many more trans children, proportionally, than there are trans adults. If we are to assume that it's not just a phase or social contagion, why aren't there many more trans adults coming out later in life and saying how they knew they were trans all along?

How do you explain the high numbers of trans-identifying girls compared to boys, particularly as teenagers? If these girls are 'really trans' (whatever that means, since I think we still don't have a definition), where are all the middle-aged women coming out as trans who felt the same as these girls when they were teenagers?

No, I don't think every child who thinks they are trans will necessarily turn out to be trans as adults, which is why I don't support irreversible transition before full medical competence.

But yes, I think the vast majority of children who experience gender dysphoria persistently through puberty will still be trans as adults.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:04

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 11:31

No, you don’t understand. Whatever diagnostic criteria the Tavistock used for Keira failed. Patients shouldn’t making ‘decisions’ ti have elective amputation surgery and heavy medication and being expected to take full responsibility for the consequences of those decisions. 18 year olds absolutely should not be making decisions about elective amputation surgery and medication likely to make them infertile. We know this, the NHS knows this.

Keira suffered serious medical harm at the hands of the NHS. The standard procedure is to review how that happened and out robust steps in place to prevent it happening again.

It doesn’t matter if only 5% of kids on the Tavistock books were prescribed puberty blockers if they haven’t got robust procedures that prevent unnecessary harm to ANYONE through misprescribed surgery and drugs.

One - or a small minority - who experience regret is not a reason to deny treatment to the majority who do not.. It absolutely is a good reason to deny ‘treatment’ to others - it means the diagnosis and assessment is not good enough. There is no proven harm from doing nothing.

This is just not how medical decisions are made in any field.

If your position is really that if even a single patient regrets a medical decision, that medical decision is one that no other patient should be allowed to make, then that is simple nonsense.

But I suspect that's not actually your position - because you only seem to apply this principle to women's right to decide on their own fertility, and trans people, including trans adults.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:09

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 11:41

Of course at 25 I could not guarantee that I wouldn’t change my mind in the future.

Exactly. By the power of observation, medical professionals obviously looked at the reactions of women who made irreversible decisions about their future fertility and how they felt when the biological clock started ticking loudly. Lots of women think they know they don’t want kids until they suddenly do - desperately.

But I had capacity to take a decision that the benefits of sterilisation would outweigh that risk.

Not quite. You thought you had the capacity but only time would tell if you got it right. Thankfully it sounds like you did but many women have got it wrong.
Funnily enough, the NHS doesn’t want to sterilise women if there is even a tiny risk that they’ll regret it.

You seem confused by the idea of capacity to consent. In no area should capacity to consent be contingent on a guarantee that you will not, ever, regret the decision you are making.

The only test ought to be whether someone has the mental capacity to understand what a procedure is, what the risk are (including the risk of future regret) and can take a fully informed decision.

If I decided at 35 that I did want children, that does not render my 25 year old self incapable of consenting to a sterilisation in full recognition that I may later regret that decision. Its startling how close your rhetoric on capacity to consent to decisions you may later regret is that of anti-abortion activists who insist that the potential for a woman to regret an abortion is a reason to deny all women reproductive freedom.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:10

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 11:49

Sorry but if your starting point is that we can’t trust a 29 year old woman to decide she does not want children, etc

It’s not MY starting point - it’s the starting point of the NHS based on treatment of millions of women.

No where is the overlap between transphobia and the attack on womens bodily autonomy more evident than in this post.

Are you genuinely suggesting that it’s ‘transphobic’ not to allow an 18 year old ‘bodily autonomy’ to sterilise themselves and have healthy body parts amputated for no medical reason and entirely shaky mental health grounds? And to allow other 18 year olds full bodily autonomy for other entirely spurious medical procedures?

I’m guessing you haven’t met many 18 year olds then.

You think the NHS is the arbiter and exemplar of upholding bodily autonomy of women?

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:13

PlanetJanette · 24/08/2025 14:11

Is there also no such thing as a gay child?

And if not, how could a child know they are gay but not know that they are trans?

There is a very real and qualitative difference between being gay ( same sex attracted) and 'being trans'.

That difference lies in the fact that everyone is either male or female and that nobody can actually change sex. People who are same sex attracted are not making impossible claims. They are simply stating that they are attracted to members of their own sex.

'Trans' people remain either male or female/the sex that they are, but they may choose to dress or present in a manner typically associated with the opposite sex ( or they may not)"Trans' is simply a framing device for those that want to express cross sex roles, performances or presentations. It does not make a man a woman, or a male person into a female person.

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:20

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:09

You seem confused by the idea of capacity to consent. In no area should capacity to consent be contingent on a guarantee that you will not, ever, regret the decision you are making.

The only test ought to be whether someone has the mental capacity to understand what a procedure is, what the risk are (including the risk of future regret) and can take a fully informed decision.

If I decided at 35 that I did want children, that does not render my 25 year old self incapable of consenting to a sterilisation in full recognition that I may later regret that decision. Its startling how close your rhetoric on capacity to consent to decisions you may later regret is that of anti-abortion activists who insist that the potential for a woman to regret an abortion is a reason to deny all women reproductive freedom.

We have medical ethics for a reason..........to stop the free for all, wild west of american style pharmacology.

Merrymouse · 26/08/2025 13:25

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:20

We have medical ethics for a reason..........to stop the free for all, wild west of american style pharmacology.

If abortion were likely to lead to infertility or osteoporosis, or impact brain development, it’s likely that the rules would be different.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:30

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:13

There is a very real and qualitative difference between being gay ( same sex attracted) and 'being trans'.

That difference lies in the fact that everyone is either male or female and that nobody can actually change sex. People who are same sex attracted are not making impossible claims. They are simply stating that they are attracted to members of their own sex.

'Trans' people remain either male or female/the sex that they are, but they may choose to dress or present in a manner typically associated with the opposite sex ( or they may not)"Trans' is simply a framing device for those that want to express cross sex roles, performances or presentations. It does not make a man a woman, or a male person into a female person.

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All of that could be claimed about gay people when the concept of homosexuality as an orientation and identity emerged in the late 19th C. Prior to that, homosexuality was seen as an act, and the emerging thinking was essentially a 'framing' around that act. To some extent that distinction is still relevant - the term MSM is used to describe men who have sex with men but don't identify as gay or bi, for example.

So something being a 'framing' for a state of being is not a reason it cannot be understood at an early age. You're right that the framing of transgender is relatively new, and that framing gives clarity to the feelings of trans people that previous generations did not always have; just as the emergence of gay and lesbian identities have come to help gay and lesbian kids to understand what it is they are experiencing, and so the age at which we see people coming out as gay or bi has tended to fall as a result.

As with trans kids, this gave rise to a moral panic that kids were being indoctrinated to become gay, ignoring the much more obvious point that kids who were always gay felt more comfortable being openly themselves in a society that had the right framing and social conditions around it.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:33

Merrymouse · 26/08/2025 13:25

If abortion were likely to lead to infertility or osteoporosis, or impact brain development, it’s likely that the rules would be different.

What? You think that if abortion led to infertility, that would be grounds for denying women under 30 - who is fully aware of that risk and is willing to take it - access to an abortion?

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:38

Merrymouse · 26/08/2025 13:25

If abortion were likely to lead to infertility or osteoporosis, or impact brain development, it’s likely that the rules would be different.

And, of course, abortion has legal limits for a reason of ethics.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 26/08/2025 13:39

PlanetJanette · 25/08/2025 20:36

No actually. I haven’t said that every trans adult knew they were trans as a child. Just as some gay people don’t know they are gay until later in life.

All I have said is that we know that many trans adults describe knowing they were trans as a child.

The only blanket statements here are people erroneously claiming that there are no trans children.

All I have said is that we know that many trans adults describe knowing they were trans as a child.
The only blanket statements here are people erroneously claiming that there are no trans children.

There are no trans children. These stories are invented by adult cross-dressers & AGPs to justify their kink. A very common story is of wearing their sister's or mother's knickers because they are "trans" but it's definitely not a sexual thing of course.

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:42

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:33

What? You think that if abortion led to infertility, that would be grounds for denying women under 30 - who is fully aware of that risk and is willing to take it - access to an abortion?

Of course abortion is a perpetually contentious issue for a multitude of reasons, even if we do have fairly settled laws in the U.K.

There is always a risk with all forms of surgery and you have to consent to these possible risks beforehand. Though infertility is not a major or guaranteed risk of early stage abortion at all.

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:49

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:30

All of that could be claimed about gay people when the concept of homosexuality as an orientation and identity emerged in the late 19th C. Prior to that, homosexuality was seen as an act, and the emerging thinking was essentially a 'framing' around that act. To some extent that distinction is still relevant - the term MSM is used to describe men who have sex with men but don't identify as gay or bi, for example.

So something being a 'framing' for a state of being is not a reason it cannot be understood at an early age. You're right that the framing of transgender is relatively new, and that framing gives clarity to the feelings of trans people that previous generations did not always have; just as the emergence of gay and lesbian identities have come to help gay and lesbian kids to understand what it is they are experiencing, and so the age at which we see people coming out as gay or bi has tended to fall as a result.

As with trans kids, this gave rise to a moral panic that kids were being indoctrinated to become gay, ignoring the much more obvious point that kids who were always gay felt more comfortable being openly themselves in a society that had the right framing and social conditions around it.

The defining factor seems to be whether someone makes 'an identity' out of something. The advent of identity politics has seen people feel they have to buy into a whole suit of opinions or feelings about all sorts of things and try to solidy an identity and make it a fixed feature. Then join forces with an identity community or family.

Identity, though is not a fixed thing. It is a central integrating force but one which is fluid and changes with time and experience. Bringing new components in, and releasing others

The only fixed reference points are: male or female: place of birth: parents. These are the only things that you cannot change or which do not morph over time. All else is social/emotional.

There are lots of gay people who do not 'identify as' gay. They simply are, and all it says about them is that they have a strong tendency only to be attracted to people of the same sex. It says nothing else about them or about their views on anything.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:50

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:20

We have medical ethics for a reason..........to stop the free for all, wild west of american style pharmacology.

Agree fully.

Which is why the approach advocated here that women under 30 should be denied a sterilisation which is clinically indicated for the desired outcome (i.e. permanent contraception that does not come with the issues associated with abstinence, IUDs, pharmacological contraception or condoms), is actually against medical ethics.

Medical ethics prize bodily autonomy. The clinician's role is to determine if a treatment is clinically indicated, and whether capacity exists or not. And when it comes to capacity, 'a person is not to be treated as unable to make a decision merely because [s]he makes an unwise decision'.

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:51

PrettyDamnCosmic · 26/08/2025 13:39

All I have said is that we know that many trans adults describe knowing they were trans as a child.
The only blanket statements here are people erroneously claiming that there are no trans children.

There are no trans children. These stories are invented by adult cross-dressers & AGPs to justify their kink. A very common story is of wearing their sister's or mother's knickers because they are "trans" but it's definitely not a sexual thing of course.

Do you think Stephen Whittle also invented knowing he was trans as a kid because of a 'kink'?

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:53

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 13:42

Of course abortion is a perpetually contentious issue for a multitude of reasons, even if we do have fairly settled laws in the U.K.

There is always a risk with all forms of surgery and you have to consent to these possible risks beforehand. Though infertility is not a major or guaranteed risk of early stage abortion at all.

That doesn't address the question.

Yes, of course you have to have capacity to consent to any medical decision. In the case of sterilisation, those risks include the risk that the patient may change their mind about not wanting children (or not wanting more children if they already have children).

Provided that someone has the capacity to understand that that is a risk, they should not be denied treatment that is otherwise clinically indicated.

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 14:01

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:10

You think the NHS is the arbiter and exemplar of upholding bodily autonomy of women?

You might have missed my question:

Are you genuinely suggesting that it’s ‘transphobic’ not to allow an 18 year old ‘bodily autonomy’ to sterilise themselves and have healthy body parts amputated for no medical reason and entirely shaky mental health grounds? And to allow other 18 year olds full bodily autonomy for other entirely spurious medical procedures?

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 14:03

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:50

Agree fully.

Which is why the approach advocated here that women under 30 should be denied a sterilisation which is clinically indicated for the desired outcome (i.e. permanent contraception that does not come with the issues associated with abstinence, IUDs, pharmacological contraception or condoms), is actually against medical ethics.

Medical ethics prize bodily autonomy. The clinician's role is to determine if a treatment is clinically indicated, and whether capacity exists or not. And when it comes to capacity, 'a person is not to be treated as unable to make a decision merely because [s]he makes an unwise decision'.

Medical ethics are shaped by consensual and shared societal codes about what is right or wrong. By that which can be seen as crossing a line and making oneself a god. That is why such issues are so fraught. Because at heart we know that human beings are flawed and make decisions for all sorts of reasons, not all of which have been properly thought through, and yet which have profound human implications not just for the individual, but also for society.

Medical ethics does not prize 'bodily autonomy'. I'd say that is a very individuated, self focused take on it. Medical ethics starts with the assumption that not everything is about us and our individual foibles or desires. That we also have a shared responsibility to the health and maintenance of the group in the long term.

As I suggest, the U.S is very Wild West in this respect, in certain ways, in that people are treated as pharmalogical customers who can make demands on health professionals about their preferences and desires. This is rooted, I feel, in a combination of late stage american capitalism and the cult of the individual.

Which is where I also see the whole trans movement being located. It really is an aptheosis of all things American. Be whoever you want to be; your best self; your true self; all that self referential stuff. and of course, in this sort of culture trans surgeries are re-framed as being 'health care'. When really it is not about bodily health or integrity....it is about knowingly damaging a functional and healthy body - in pursuit of the impossible. And doing this to children, too.

BundleBoogie · 26/08/2025 14:10

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:09

You seem confused by the idea of capacity to consent. In no area should capacity to consent be contingent on a guarantee that you will not, ever, regret the decision you are making.

The only test ought to be whether someone has the mental capacity to understand what a procedure is, what the risk are (including the risk of future regret) and can take a fully informed decision.

If I decided at 35 that I did want children, that does not render my 25 year old self incapable of consenting to a sterilisation in full recognition that I may later regret that decision. Its startling how close your rhetoric on capacity to consent to decisions you may later regret is that of anti-abortion activists who insist that the potential for a woman to regret an abortion is a reason to deny all women reproductive freedom.

Access to abortion is highly regulated and scrutinised to ensure the balance between enduring access to those who need it while protecting life. There is generally a verifiable medical reason to allow it.

Elective sterilisation is viewed differently to medical sterilisation afaik but the decisions are made with the ‘first to no harm’ angle. Elective amputation and x sex hormones is the polar opposite - ‘cause harm first and see if it helps’.

You still haven’t explained why you think it is ok to allow 18 yr olds to elect to have amputation surgery or take drugs likely to sterilise them with no observable clinical reason, no proven improvement in long term outcome, the only change guaranteed is a decline in health and there’s a reasonable risk of total regret?

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 14:10

PlanetJanette · 26/08/2025 13:53

That doesn't address the question.

Yes, of course you have to have capacity to consent to any medical decision. In the case of sterilisation, those risks include the risk that the patient may change their mind about not wanting children (or not wanting more children if they already have children).

Provided that someone has the capacity to understand that that is a risk, they should not be denied treatment that is otherwise clinically indicated.

Theer are no clinical indications for trans surgeries. We don't remove people's body parts because they feel traumatised by them. We offer them counselling and therapy. It would be highly unethical to remove a functional body part.

This is on the NHS, of course. The NHS should not be performing such surgeries.There wil always be people who will perform surgeries for money, though,regardless of the ethics..which is why some prominent trans clinicians are not covered by insurance...the risk is entirely on the customer.

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