This is a bit of a sidebar, but I'd like to address the point about dark humour
I lost friends in a terror attack.
Unfortunately, in an age of social media you have probably less than an hour before it becomes a meme. Please keep in mind, if it amuses you and your dark humour, if you recirculate it in a place like X or Facebook, it may well be the case that next of kin has not yet been informed. if they don't know exactly where their loved one was at the time, that might be the first they hear about it.
We have seen totally revolting behaviour on here on MN in the context of things like true crime. It's not a coping mechanism. Sometimes it's just people have such sad and pathetic lives, they have to make a big deal out of something and treat it like a TV drama. Or they're just deeply deeply unpleasant people. Or both.
And so-called dark humour creates a lack of humanity around the subject matter.
I experienced the lack of humanity in real life when a male colleague in his 50s asked me for details about the situation. (I had some time off work after it happened). I mentioned his age because he wasn't like a 19-year-old or something.
I could see that to him, it was just like a TV show. He had two kids. So I said "okay..you want an explanation?? It's a bit like this. Imagine after Lucy (daughter's name) has been in a car explosion, you didn't even know she was in a car...You get a phone call from someone telling you that they have found part of an ankle and they have bagged it up and they're waiting for someone to run a DNA test"..
My tactic worked I think. Once I put his daughter's name into it, he looked really upset and realised that I was an actual human being to whom this had happened. He held his hands out, said "oh my God stop". And then he put his head in his hands. And then he raised his head and apologised profusely.
I would not want to police what anybody says or jokes about. But I absolutely do not believe that this is a way of coping with stuff if it hasn't affected you. There is a massive difference between making a joke about something that affects you and the long list of rancid "jokes" that we have seen today.
just wanted to get that off my chest.
I'm afraid I think whatever happens in this case now, it will be remembered for all the wrong reasons.