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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Why is anti-trans so important?

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Elizabethbd · 24/06/2025 11:48

So, I will preface this with saying that I’m not in the UK, and my country does not yet have the kind of anti-trans debate as there is in the English speaking world.

So, I have a hard time understanding why this is such an important question to many women.

Surely there are women’s issues that affect a larger part of society.

I’m thinking rape and violence towards women, homelesness, sex trafficking and honour killings. Why are these issues not more important and worthy of attention, as they affect so many more women than those who come into contact with trans women (or men)?

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FlirtsWithRhinos · 24/06/2025 23:27

JsmeLegie · 24/06/2025 20:39

The whole toilet thing is a red herring

I'd suggest that's accurate. I have a suspicion the toilet argument is simply an obfuscation to distract us. Trans-women have never been a collective threat to us, but a lot of furious energy is being spent - needlessly and foolishly - on compartmentalising and then demonising trans-women.

It's pernicious, it's divisive, and it's fundamentally - and I'd argue morally - wrong.

Plenty of men aren't a threat to women. We don't let them all in women-only spaces so what's so different about this lot? Outside their own heads they aren't any closer to being a woman than any other man.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 24/06/2025 23:27

@Eolhc1990 here's another thread you should check out, which will help you understand why you shouldn't just support this ideology uncritically.

Page 2 | Scottish Greens find a candidate more electorally suicide than Sparkles | Mumsnet

FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:29

Why do you think WOMENS RIGHTS are 'anti trans', OP? Are you admitting that to be pro-woman = anti-trans?

What can be more important than saving female only safe spaces for rape survivors? What can be more important than fair and safe sport for girls and equal opportunities?

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FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:38

Maddy70 · 24/06/2025 15:57

Do you believe women like this should have to use men's toilets? https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1AZvSbYFqQ/

Not clicking on the link, but your 'gotcha' has been answered at least 3 thousand times before. You realise photoshop can do wonders? It's in person, it is in the MOTION: the gait, not just the voice, adams apple, lack of hips, square jaw, height, limb size, hand size, philtrum width etc.

You must think women are blind.

FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:43

Maddy70 · 24/06/2025 16:13

The argument is the same and intersex people are being targeted by the transphobic folk

No, it's not. And there is ZERO evidence intersex people are being targeted at all. In fact, they've asked that you stop weaponising them in this debate, so for once, have some self respect for someones wishes.

MarieDeGournay · 24/06/2025 23:47

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 21:54

Do you genuinely think a straight male attacker would go to the bother of pretending to be trans when he can just push the door and enter like they always could, straight men will continue to attack us (and attack trans women) as they always have. I just don't think trans women are the enemy..... het males are.

I take a different approach to why trans identifying men should stay out of women's toilets. It's not based on their potential for violence, or the ratio of trans to non-trans rapists, or that they actually be straight men coming to attack us, etc etc.

I just believe in the principle of respecting other people's spaces; any man, trans or not, who uses the women's toilet should not be there, as a matter of principle.

Why do transwomen refuse to respect women's single-sex spaces and stubbornly insist on going where they know they don't belong*
and where they know they are not wanted.**

They don't have to frighten anyone or attack anyone to be in the wrong. That kind of stubborn disrespect is just wrong on principle, scary or not.

cf the UKSC ruling which is crystal clear that women's toilets are for biological women.
* women who say they don't mind sharing a toilet with transwomen are welcome to share with them in the unisex or men's toilet; they don't get to decide for the women who don't want to.

FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:50

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 16:26

Yeah I think this is what I see as the problem too.
I'm not feminine looking at all I'm quite butch so people could easily mistake me for a trans woman in a public bathroom.
I suppose I see transwomen as such a tiny vulnerable minority, I don't see them as any kind of risk. No more risk than another woman.... im sure there are some bad eggs like in any group of ppl.

Transwomen are males with penis and testicles. How is a male "less risk" than a female? How is a fully intact male in dress, instead of a suit and tie, 'less risk' just because he's in a dress?

Did you know evidence and statistics prove that transwomen commit far greater (5 times higher I believe) sex offences than other males, @Eolhc1990 ? Transwomen are far more dangerous than any other male (perhaps look up AGP for some understanding why for some of these). Those of us on here have seen your arguments at least one thousand times before.
PS The "Violent offenders and those with a history of sexual offences" is from Canada. So there are statistics here from the UK, the US and from Canada.

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FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:53

JsmeLegie · 24/06/2025 17:14

Yup. I'm not in the UK and can hear the sound of hysterical screeching and smell the flaming brands being lit from here.

"hysterical" (yeah, must be our lack of HYSTerectomy)

"screeching"

And you wonder why you lot are called out for the misogynists you are.

Any more misogynistic, chauvinist slurs you can think to throw our way, @JsmeLegie ? Shrill? Emotional? Banshees?

Boiledbeetle · 24/06/2025 23:56

FeistyCat · 24/06/2025 23:38

Not clicking on the link, but your 'gotcha' has been answered at least 3 thousand times before. You realise photoshop can do wonders? It's in person, it is in the MOTION: the gait, not just the voice, adams apple, lack of hips, square jaw, height, limb size, hand size, philtrum width etc.

You must think women are blind.

It's a video of a person with a dsd whose parents agreed for the surgeons to remove the internal testes when they were a baby, who was put on estrogen at puberty and had breast enhancement surgery as an adult.

Waitwhat23 · 24/06/2025 23:56

There's usually a 'frothing' thrown in too.

If they're getting particularly cross, there's sometimes a few crude references to women's reproductive parts.

InfoSecInTheCity · 24/06/2025 23:57

Trans Women are men, if you allow an exception for any man to gain access to female only services and provisions then you allow an exception for all men.

The ‘do you really think a man would go to the trouble of pretending to be a Trans Woman……’ argument is ludicrous. We know, it is proven we have implemented whole elaborate safeguarding checks around the fact that men have throughout history gone to elaborate lengths to gain access to vulnerable women and children - become priests, teachers, nurses, doctors, scouts leaders etc. Now they don’t even need to shave or wear a dress, they just need to say ‘I identify as a woman’.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:04

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 18:05

Do you have a source for this? I can't find it. Regardless I mean African American people have a higher incarceration rate in America but its not down to them all being bad eggs, its often true that persecuted and vulnerable groups of people on the margins end up incarcerated

I posted it for you. Males in a dress are not any more vulnerable than any other male.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:07

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 18:31

Trans women are a tiny minority not men.
I don't look like a man but I look like I could be a trans woman I'm almost 6ft always been big build I wear my hair long but PCOS and my dad's large nose mean I do have masculine features. I do get odd looks in bathrooms since I appear large and imposing, doesn't really bother me though but I could see how it could impact others.

Transwomen are MEN. Male. Males are 50% of the population. You don't get to take a selection of males, re-badge them as 'trans', and say they are no longer men and no longer have penis and testicles. Lipstick on a pig is still a pig.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:10

minnienono · 24/06/2025 18:32

It’s not @Elizabethbd in real life. Online forums are anonymous so people express more extreme views plus some people may be deliberately provocative.

All the issues you mentioned are very important whereas whether a natal man who has transitioned is in a toilet is of not important to most women day to day for two reasons, one is that they are no threat and two is it’s very very rare, I’ve encountered it twice and I live in liberal Bristol.

there are issues one being single sex spaces for vulnerable women being protected but it’s not on the forefront of our thoughts outside of Mumsnet

Less than 8% of males remove their penis and testicles, @minnienono . And even if they do, they are still a threat height and strength wise. A de-nutted male dog is still a male dog. And how can we tell which are the safe 'transitioned' ones, @minnienono ? How do you suggest we find out? Have you got any answers for that? Besides, it's about privacy and dignity away from the male gaze. Not just safety.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:11

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 18:34

Trans women are trans women

With penis, testicles, prostate, height, strength, male conditioning. And no lived experience of being a member of the vulnerable oppressed sex class.

Next you'll tell us Rachel Dolezal is really an African American.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:13

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 18:39

Regardless of what you believe their gender to be they are a tiny minority of people and I certaibly don't fear them any more than I would a woman.
For sure I fear straight men so i wouldnt like a gender neutral public toilet, but if a trans person identifying as a woman wanted to use the female bathrooms it's no skin off my nose.

A subset of MALES are not a 'tiny minority'. And they are no less of a threat to us because they wear a dress. As a RAPE SURVIVOR, I fear a male REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE WEARS. Understood?

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FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:15

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 18:39

Regardless of what you believe their gender to be they are a tiny minority of people and I certaibly don't fear them any more than I would a woman.
For sure I fear straight men so i wouldnt like a gender neutral public toilet, but if a trans person identifying as a woman wanted to use the female bathrooms it's no skin off my nose.

And, you don't have the right to give my consent away to female only safe single sex spaces away from males in a dress. You really think what a male wears makes them less dangerous? Have you never engaged critical thinking?

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LivTwist · 25/06/2025 00:17

Helleofabore · 24/06/2025 23:10

Then they need to update all the mantras and policies that they have influenced and all the guidelines.

And to re-educate everyone.

and to exclude groups of people from the Trans umbrella it seems. Do you think that people cannot be genderfluid ?

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I don't really understand what people mean when they say they are gender fluid tbh. I don't think you can constantly change your gender identity

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:22

deadpantrashcan · 24/06/2025 19:26

This is such an ignorant and honestly stupid outlook. So, because of “John,” pretending to be trans, we diminish the rights of all genuine transwomen? Transwomen who have spent years becoming who they want to be? Because people like you think the whole thing occurs over the course of two days and is just a case of buying a dress, a wig, and shaving a moustache? Why is it ok to make such generalised assumptions about one group of people, and not another?

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What is truly ignorant is you not having heard of self-ID. Most transwomen do not have any surgery or do anything. The most they do, they absolute most - is dress like a woman.

And even if they did, that trumps the rights of RAPE SURVIVORS like me, @deadpantrashcan , to female only safe single sex spaces? Because their feels are more important than my needs and rights and the needs and rights of the oppressed sex? Such an ignorant and honestly stupid myopic and misogynistic outlook.

It's clear you have no idea what you're talking about.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:23

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 19:27

Its not that i dont support them i just don't agree with them that trans women are a threat....and I don't really understand how you expect to police it given the fact that many trans women and cis women (me included) look very masculine. Like how are you going to know? The whole bathroom debate is just weird.

Yet, as I posted, transwomen are a BIGGER THREAT than other males. They are far more dangerous.

You seem to think a male's threat hinges on what they wear.

And we policed female only spaces for DECADES AND DECADES until recently. How do you think we did it all this time??

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 00:24

You're sounding a bit aggressive @FeistyCat @Eolhc1990 has already said several times that she now has changed her views

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:25

deadpantrashcan · 24/06/2025 19:30

In SOME cases. But don’t worry, no one said it was your bloody fault.

Some is some too many.

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:27

JsmeLegie · 24/06/2025 19:35

Being feminist and being in support of - or an ally to - the rights of trans-women are not mutually exclusive, despite the confusion of some people.

Being an ally to males - regardless of what they wear, is not, never has, and never will be part of feminism.

Enough4me · 25/06/2025 00:28

Elizabethbd · 24/06/2025 13:19

Again, thank you to all posters. My intention was to gain information, not to engage in a debate. I won’t engage in this debate further, primarily because I don’t have an opinion to defend.

You dont have an opinion but started a thread as though you thought it wasn't an important issue?

FeistyCat · 25/06/2025 00:32

Eolhc1990 · 24/06/2025 19:43

Thats not true the statistic is that trans women that are already INCARCERATED are more likely to have been convicted of a sexual crime than straight men. But statistically you are more likely to meet a woman who has been convicted of a sexual crime in the bathroom since trans people only make up 0.3% of the population.

Yes, transwomen are more likely to be convicted of a sexual crime. Our point exactly.

And what does 'straight' have to do with this? We are not talking about sexual preference here. This isn't about straight vs gay. It's about a subset of male (transwomen) vs other males.