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IllustratedDictionaryOfTheDoldrums · 15/06/2025 10:04

Merrymouse · 15/06/2025 09:56

Without trying to be derisory, this seems to be, literally, a story about a man arguing that he should be entitled to use women's facilities because he has put on a dress.

It's not clear who it is supposed to help?

This is it exactly

KnottyAuty · 15/06/2025 10:07

IllustratedDictionaryOfTheDoldrums · 15/06/2025 10:04

This is it exactly

Perhaps tomorrow the Guardian will publish an article or comment about someone in a dress who parked unlawfully and got a ticket but feels that was unwelcoming?

HaveYouActuallyDoneAnyWashingThisWeekMum · 15/06/2025 10:07

Stocky woman…of course. Her appearance is very relevant 🤦‍♀️

BastardesEverywhere · 15/06/2025 10:10

This is so obviously a work of fiction. Especially the poor bouncer kindly touching his arm and saying 'it's just the way things are now' 🤢😂 I mean come on.

Anyway. Get your cock out in the gents for your piss, Jack. Cry harder about it.

PronounssheRa · 15/06/2025 10:10

EasternStandard · 15/06/2025 10:00

So it’s made up? The Guardian is responsible here for going for such nonsense.

Well it's entirely possible a female bouncer told this obviously male person not to use the womens toilets.

The way it's framed by the guardian is another matter, with nonsense about toilet police, randoms helping him, not being able to use the gents in such an 'accepting' place. Now all that is fiction.

GallantKumquat · 15/06/2025 10:14

AudHvamm · 15/06/2025 09:33

Yes but by making it about the toilets we can keep focus on the already privileged men and deflect from the real issues can't we.

I think we should stop engaging in talk about toilets tbh. I understand why they're important but it's not the only important thing in all this is it?

When I wrote to my MP about the ruling recently I spoke about representation on boards, all women shortlists and women's participation in public life specifically for this reason.

Unfortunately, the ridiculousness of the current state of men's rights toilet activism 😅 makes it hard ignore and resist making snarky comments. 😳

TheIceBear · 15/06/2025 10:15

Regardless of anything else , I think it’s ridiculous for a man to be standing in the corner crying after being asked to use the men’s loo. It’s so over the top. Should men who don’t “present as feminine “ also be allowed walk into the women’s loos ?

TWETMIRF · 15/06/2025 10:19

In my clubbing days there was always a bouncer on the toilet doors to make sure that no man went in the ladies. It was always a big, burly man though as they had to be able to deal with men kicking off. Problem then was men hassling women who were trying to get away rather than ones who thought they had lady feels.

You were also not allowed to take drinks into the toilet so there was a little table outside where you had to leave it if you didn't have anyone to look after it.

Floisme · 15/06/2025 10:20

Do men ever get annoyed at being endlessly represented as being so bigoted and so out of control that they can't share a toilet with someone looking like Jack without resorting to abuse and violence?

FloridaCat · 15/06/2025 10:26

Why doesn't Jack name the venue? Because if it is an "alternative hub that has always prided itself on being an accepting space" there is no way it would have toilet police. In fact, I don't actually believe any venue in the UK has suddenly newly appointed toilet police?

I am sympathetic to trans people and tbh am not worried personally about sharing a loo, but I take this story with a massive pinch of salt.

skippy67 · 15/06/2025 10:27

OldCrone · 15/06/2025 09:07

Ridiculous, isn't it? It's an accepting space. Nobody's going to beat him up if he goes in the men's loos.

I think this is Jack. Long-haired bloke with earrings.

The Wheeler Centre - Jack Nicholls

So feminine...😐

proximalhumerous · 15/06/2025 10:28

The amount of detail about the "pissing" makes this sound almost fetishistic.

And as a PP said, the writing style is utterly cringeworthy.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 15/06/2025 10:31

FloridaCat · 15/06/2025 10:26

Why doesn't Jack name the venue? Because if it is an "alternative hub that has always prided itself on being an accepting space" there is no way it would have toilet police. In fact, I don't actually believe any venue in the UK has suddenly newly appointed toilet police?

I am sympathetic to trans people and tbh am not worried personally about sharing a loo, but I take this story with a massive pinch of salt.

Edited

That’s quite telling, isn’t it. We’ve seen on here the tiny number of places that have said they will be going along with the SC ruling — vastly overwhelmed by the number that have publicly said they won’t. I find it hard to believe that a place that is as alternative and accepting would have rolled over as described in the article.

proximalhumerous · 15/06/2025 10:32

"...their stories can be found in science-fiction anthologies and online magazines of variable repute."

Ha ha! Variable repute indeed.

Helleofabore · 15/06/2025 10:32

The use of ‘presenting feminine’ and ‘masculine pictogram’ is very telling in my opinion.

This person thinks it is all about presentation and cannot conceive that it is about the needs of having a female sexed body. So… a typical bloke interpretation of the need for female toilets.

KnottyAuty · 15/06/2025 10:34

TheIceBear · 15/06/2025 10:15

Regardless of anything else , I think it’s ridiculous for a man to be standing in the corner crying after being asked to use the men’s loo. It’s so over the top. Should men who don’t “present as feminine “ also be allowed walk into the women’s loos ?

I was once told to stand at the back of the temple with the other women on a cultural visit. I was horrified but understood it was their space so I didn’t make a fuss. Or write to the newspapers to invite bad feeling about members of that faith group. It didn’t occur to me to try to bully my way in. That’s what I consider to be a tolerant society - I don’t like their beliefs but I can live with it. The female sing sex spaces are ours - what is with these intolerant males barging in? Then accusing us of bigotry? It’s the most ridiculous thing

proximalhumerous · 15/06/2025 10:36

Merrymouse · 15/06/2025 09:56

Without trying to be derisory, this seems to be, literally, a story about a man arguing that he should be entitled to use women's facilities because he has put on a dress.

It's not clear who it is supposed to help?

A dress and full makeup. Don't forget the makeup.

FloridaCat · 15/06/2025 10:36

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 15/06/2025 10:31

That’s quite telling, isn’t it. We’ve seen on here the tiny number of places that have said they will be going along with the SC ruling — vastly overwhelmed by the number that have publicly said they won’t. I find it hard to believe that a place that is as alternative and accepting would have rolled over as described in the article.

There is a much longer piece on Jack's Substack where the venue is named. It is telling that the Guardian editors decided to omit that.

EasternStandard · 15/06/2025 10:39

proximalhumerous · 15/06/2025 10:28

The amount of detail about the "pissing" makes this sound almost fetishistic.

And as a PP said, the writing style is utterly cringeworthy.

The writing marks him out as a male aggressor. He sounds like he is, a male wearing an earring and dress demanding access to women’s facilities.

MoistVonL · 15/06/2025 10:39

FloridaCat · 15/06/2025 10:36

There is a much longer piece on Jack's Substack where the venue is named. It is telling that the Guardian editors decided to omit that.

And you read the longer version? Talk about taking one for the team, mate…

SalfordQuays · 15/06/2025 10:40

FloridaCat · 15/06/2025 10:36

There is a much longer piece on Jack's Substack where the venue is named. It is telling that the Guardian editors decided to omit that.

What is the name of the venue? I’d like to ask them if they actually have a “stocky woman” guarding the women’s toilets….

theDudesmummy · 15/06/2025 10:42

I don't believe a word of it, absolute nonsense.

Merrymouse · 15/06/2025 10:43

"I was visiting family in London when the British supreme court handed down its unexpected ruling: under the Equality Act, sex was now considered “binary” in law, which meant transgender people could be banned from single-sex spaces of their gender identity. The Labour government, which had come into office promising us “dignity”, capitulated."

The Guardian are failing their readers by publishing this.

The government did not 'capitulate'. They must comply with the law, just as any other government must.

Sex has always been binary in law. Leaving aside trans issues, this was recently confirmed by a different judgement https://www.matrixlaw.co.uk/news/court-of-appeal-rules-that-nonbinary-gender-cannot-be-registered-in-the-uk/ and was not considered by the SC.

The SC considered a different question - whether a GRC can change somebody's sex for the purposes of the EA. However, it has always been the case that a single sex space could be segregated by sex, and it was confirmed in 2022 that somebody without a GRC does not have any right at all to use the facilities of the opposite sex.

Whether or not toilets should be mixed sex is a different question and the Guardian is free to campaign on that or any other issue, through normal democratic processes. However, my tip to them would be find lawyers who understand the law as it is, not as they would like it to be. It gets better results in court.

Court of Appeal rules that nonbinary gender cannot be registered in the UK - Matrix Chambers

Court of Appeal rules that nonbinary gender cannot be registered in the UK. Chris Buttler KC represented the Claimant, instructed by Leigh Day.

https://www.matrixlaw.co.uk/news/court-of-appeal-rules-that-nonbinary-gender-cannot-be-registered-in-the-uk/

Ginmonkeyagain · 15/06/2025 10:44

If it was a busy or high risk venue there could have been security placed near the toilets to keep an eye out for drug dealing and other risky behaviour.

A friend of mine works in welfare services for various festivals and events. and at some they place staff near the toilet areas to keep a look out for drug taking and sexual assault and to help vulnerable people.

TheSandgroper · 15/06/2025 10:44

DrDameKatyDeniseInExile · 15/06/2025 09:41

Jack Nicholls is a British-Australian essayist and speculative-fiction writer based in Melbourne

Ah yes, speculative fiction, and this badly written piece is definitely speculative fiction. And, presumably, trans Australian = not Australian.

Trans Australian = a railway line.