I'm reminded of when Helen Joyce talks about how parents of 'trans' kids will go on to try to destroy the lives of those whom they see as a standing reproach to them, because the parents have sold their child a bill of goods they can't deliver on.
This bill of goods is the promise that all other people (particularly women) will henceforth accept their son as a woman. Simply by us saying that we will never accept any men in 'women only' spaces, we are the ones who have to be bullied to try to force us to deliver on their promise.
https://youtube.com/shorts/EYJMY_2iFTM?
In much the same way, the men like WillNeverBe, Bergdorf, McCloud, Kaveney and White are presenting us with a similar bill of goods. They have spent big money on facial feminisation surgery, fake breasts, hair transplants, possibly inverting their penis etc and given themselves an endocrine disorder by taking cross sex hormones - all in a vain attempt to attain the simulacrum of a woman. They seem to believe that because it has personally cost them something - whether financially, physically or as a perceived loss of power or status - that, therefore, Society owes it to them to accept them as they see themselves.
And because some people over the years have been 'kind' and have told them polite lies and welcomed them into places and spaces they should never have been in, these men insist that, therefore, all of Society owes it to them to continue to believe and enforce the lies.
Because their doctors have some surgical skill but have not emphasised the limitations of transformation, and because sexist psychiatrists and parliamentarians said that they could do a real life test without thinking about the interests of women, these men insist that, therefore, Society owes it to them to disbelieve their eyes and accept they have really changed sex/are 'somatically female'/a 'biological woman'.
And because, for whatever reason, they won't accept that they personally are actually a gay/bisexual man, these men insist that, therefore, the whole of the rest of Society must redefine the meaning of the words 'gay' and 'man' and 'female' and 'lesbian' and 'real' and 'woman' in order that 0.2% of UK men don't have hurty feels. Let that penetrate.
This is why they then tend to fall into testerical rage when JKR or we or the Supreme Court insist we can still see the man they are and always will be.
All because we have the temerity to say "No" to the bill of goods we never agreed to.